ArHi SS: Quiet places (Read warning) [Completed] - Page 11

Love your approach...As long as the couple are on the same page it's okay . But here I feel Khushi is in some way persuaded to do things which she is not comfortable with. Eager to see how you are gonna take this story...waiting ...

very well written...good..👍🏼

Khushi is too bound by rules and regulations in society.

Omg RB! I think you may have hit the dilemma some of the traditionally brought up girls face when exposed to the intimacy that deviates from the norm. kushi was so good at the beginning of the chapter and discussing their options openly but the red bruises brought those guilty feelings to the forefront about morality. What is morality though? It is what society defines as to be normal? Do we always have to toe the line and do what is 'normal'? I married a non-Indian man and he was very accommodating of my 'morals' but I simply loved it when I was tested on those and felt like I wanted to discover more. What goes on between a couple should stay there as long as they can clearly and freely communicate their positions and feelings on what they are engaging in? Though I do not like Mr. Grey, I found his contract kinda laid it all on the line for Anastasia. I hate that contract btw as it felt very one sided. I am not suggesting a contract for these 2 but like Arnav, I wish Kushi can open up a little bit more about the right or wrong ideas in her head. He cannot address them unless she tells him what is bothering her. He already came to the wrong conclusion that she is just doing this for his own pleasure only as opposed to her getting any. This Arnav is so open in his thoughts and talks. I don't want him to shut up. Hell, this is the most verbose and feeling Arnav I have read about. Come on Kushi, tell your husband what is bothering you because the social networking sites and Google are not going to answer those. Neither will the sisterhood in the house she is living in.

Originally posted by: Raila1014

Omg RB! I think you may have hit the dilemma some of the traditionally brought up girls face when exposed to the intimacy that deviates from the norm. kushi was so good at the beginning of the chapter and discussing their options openly but the red bruises brought those guilty feelings to the forefront about morality. What is morality though? It is what society defines as to be normal? Do we always have to toe the line and do what is 'normal'? I married a non-Indian man and he was very accommodating of my 'morals' but I simply loved it when I was tested on those and felt like I wanted to discover more. What goes on between a couple should stay there as long as they can clearly and freely communicate their positions and feelings on what they are engaging in? Though I do not like Mr. Grey, I found his contract kinda laid it all on the line for Anastasia. I hate that contract btw as it felt very one sided. I am not suggesting a contract for these 2 but like Arnav, I wish Kushi can open up a little bit more about the right or wrong ideas in her head. He cannot address them unless she tells him what is bothering her. He already came to the wrong conclusion that she is just doing this for his own pleasure only as opposed to her getting any. This Arnav is so open in his thoughts and talks. I don't want him to shut up. Hell, this is the most verbose and feeling Arnav I have read about. Come on Kushi, tell your husband what is bothering you because the social networking sites and Google are not going to answer those. Neither will the sisterhood in the house she is living in.

You brought up a great topic on the morality feeling. this would be a great debating topic.

Btw, I agree with Sandhya, use the silk dupattas next time.

Couple of things:

Khushi knows, understands and accepts what Arnav wants. Arnav says it couple of times where they have laid out the rules, boundaries and safe words. If Arnav hasn't uttered his safe word, it means he is fine with whatever that's going on. That's not the issue here. The main problem Khushi is that she is in this position where she enjoys what she is doing but she has seen only egalitarian relationships around her thus contradicting her moral standards. She finds her enjoyment to be immoral. She finds Arnav's enjoyment in whatever they played out to be deviant and immoral.

Its a conflict within herself and no amount of talking to people or even Arnav will help. Have you ever been in a space where you have so many facts in front of you and you have to formulate an opinion? Its the first time you are dealing with the subject and every fact that's presented to you is contradicting what you have learned. Imagine Khushi to be in that exact same position. She has to assimilate her thoughts again and come to a decision before going forward.

If she talks to Arnav its worse possible thing that can happen and Arnav mentions exactly that. He has neatly analyzed what Khushi's problem is and has come to a conclusion of his own. I wont tell you if his conclusion are right but his analysis of Khushi is pretty much spot on.

Hope this clarification helps :-)

I like the fact that Arnav makes it clear that rules and boundaries can be and have been established..

Khushi still feels apprehensive about stepping into the unknown, No matter how much she reads about it, to experience it is to truly know what they are engaging in. Is she confused by the fact that she does enjoy it , but her understanding of intimacy was that of gentle caresses not pleasure invoked by pain..

My many questions in my mind range from what if she tells him she no longer wants to engage in this form of intimacy.. will she be left feeling an inadequate partner.. will it affect her self esteem, will Arnav accept it, will it affect the dynamics of their relationship..

Brilliant

Originally posted by: RockBarbie

Couple of things:

Khushi knows, understands and accepts what Arnav wants. Arnav says it couple of times where they have laid out the rules, boundaries and safe words. If Arnav hasn't uttered his safe word, it means he is fine with whatever that's going on. That's not the issue here. The main problem Khushi is that she is in this position where she enjoys what she is doing but she has seen only egalitarian relationships around her thus contradicting her moral standards. She finds her enjoyment to be immoral. She finds Arnav's enjoyment in whatever they played out to be deviant and immoral.

Its a conflict within herself and no amount of talking to people or even Arnav will help. Have you ever been in a space where you have so many facts in front of you and you have to formulate an opinion? Its the first time you are dealing with the subject and every fact that's presented to you is contradicting what you have learned. Imagine Khushi to be in that exact same position. She has to assimilate her thoughts again and come to a decision before going forward.

If she talks to Arnav its worse possible thing that can happen and Arnav mentions exactly that. He has neatly analyzed what Khushi's problem is and has come to a conclusion of his own. I wont tell you if his conclusion are right but his analysis of Khushi is pretty much spot on.

Hope this clarification helps :-)