Polemic Jackanapes#3: Complete [NOTE + BLOG LINK Pg69]3rd Jan - Page 26

wow.. so inspiring.. hope i do something worthwhile like this.. u r fabulous.. how did u write this? pls do share ur source of inspiration too..

May I be honest and tell you that I am extremely annoyed with Garima? I am. Totally p...ed with her. She seems to swing and play the see-saw way too often. She was with Shashi first, then Khushi and then Shashi and now against Shashi. Did she check with Shashi earlier whether he had talked to Khushi? Why not?

Great update! I can undertand garima and shashis worries but they would be very happy to know that she wants to be there. Helping the people in need. Khuhsi is starting to prioties her life.

i dont agree with garima...to support shashi was her decision, now she has no right to blame him...

brilliant update!! love khushi.. all the best khushi.. loved the update..

Philosophical update! The dichotomy which parents face in bringing up their children...to support them in following their dreams, or to push them into pursuing options which will be better for their future! To be a friend or a parent! Can't it be both? It was just chance that Khushi ended up finding peace in her job, many are not that lucky! That is why mid-life crisis happens esp.regarding careers.

Originally posted by: meera30

Yes!! Res!!

Edited:

I'll start with the easy one. I am so happy for Khushi but then I should have known. She is sort of person who will find happiness and satisfaction in anything she takes up. And she will give that her best even if it was not her "dream". I envy her for being able to do that. And yet, I know that she will have to face her choices again - maybe this time, she has the answer clearer in her head. If she does, it would be incredibly inspiring to be that person!

To the first part of the chapter - I am still struggling with my thoughts. But despite sleeping over it, my reaction remains unchanged. When we make a choice to support someone over the other, we accept their choice and make it our own. To then blame them when the result isn't favorable is unfair. And that is where I disagree with Garima. To look her husband in his face and say - are you happy now is rather a childish reaction. She accepted to stand by him. That makes his stand hers too. She has no business turning on him and saying - hey you screwed up and made me screw up too, reassure me that I did right by supporting you! Her guilt, in my opinion is bang on even if slightly premature in reaction. And yet, what would have been better would have been her acceptance of her seeming mistake WITH her husband not because of him. Her mistake in not standing by her daughter will not disappear because her daughter is now happy or successful in what they pushed her into. The end result cannot and should not change what actually happened. Owning up to the choices you make and having the courage to say Yes, maybe there was a different way to do things is what being a parent should be about. When one can do that, there might be a life with lessons learned and not one lived with regrets.

Damn - I sound like I am preaching but for some reason Garima's reaction (to Shashi) bothers me. Marriage is about being partners. The husband doesn't have the responsibility to be right always. (or vice-versa). So when he goes wrong in a choice that I accepted, I would like to stand with him and accept the fault.

Originally posted by: Eccentrica

I think I'm beginning to understand Khushi. As a parent he is worried if his daughter will become independent in the future and whether she will be able to stand on her legs. And while thinking that, it is customary of him to stick to the trodden down path, knwoign that there is stability in the same. After all, how many parents allow their children to do what they wish to, despite being aware that their choice of avocation possesses risks of failure?

That said, Garima also has valid reasons to be apprehensive. While Shashi can reprobate himself for enforcing his decisions on Khushi, Garima's guilt is greater for she had a choice between standing by her daughter or her husband, in which she chose the latter.

The greatest revelation from the chapter though comes in the form of Khushi. That she had made peace with her current circumstances was implied earlier, but to see that the surrounding conditions had had an impact on her to the extent of her considering them seriously is surprising. Not that I'm not happy for her. I'm sure this means that she will not feel as though her four years have been wasted, contrary to her parents' sentiments. But it does raise a question mark on her future as a writer. And I would have suggested multitasking, but seeing that she is considering Payal's words of focusing on one thing, I'm thinking that it is goodbye time for writing.