Originally posted by: nia.arshifan
Hey...
I understand what u r saying... Thats true but what i'm saying is its better for lavanya n everyone if she let it go... Its not that she shouldnt fall in love with arnav but she shouldnt expect him to love her back after knowing about khushi...
We expected arshi to fall in love in d show... But the situation isnt same... There arnav n khushi were single, i mean they weren't in love with anyone else, right... And even they had feelings for each other from d start so its obvious dat we expect them to fall for each other despite their contract marriage... But here d situation is different...
Lavanya is taking time to forget all this n accept d fact but my point is, what is d point in delaying all these... She should be able to accept d fact n move on...
And then u were saying if lav was in khushi's position n vice-versa then v will be waiting for arnav to realize his true love coz as u said khushi is his true love... If he really loves lavanya then there wont be any point in discussing about khushi... One will think of arshi only when either lavanya isn't good or there isnt any love between them... Like d situation now in ur FF... Is it even possible to love two people truely??
U r not confusing us but d situations in ur FF r very complicated... Seeing d prologue i really get confused... There maybe reasons dat arshi have chosen to separate but its not easy to face that situation in real life... And what i feel is delaying things always make situations complicated... U should be able to accept things faster... Thats what helps u in moving on from such situations n making u strong...
I get it. I had two reasons for making Lavanya take some time to make her decision.
1. When I thought about how Lavanya should react to Arnav's affair, I was confused as many options came up - throwing a tiff, keeping silence, purposefully hurting him, playing villany, giving him up immediately or letting go gracefully as in show.
Then I thought, what would I do if I was La. Initially there was not answer. I would want to hold onto him or be so angry or my ego would be hurt. But my anger would be on him than her. And yes, if we have kids, I might try to see if he is serious or this is just a filng and decide. For that I need time.
That led me to this decision. According to me, anybody in La's situation, especially me, won't be in a clear state of mind. I can't take right decisions then. So, I need time. So I might ask for some time before I take my decision - mainly to get accommodated to this fact and accept this fact when I am ready to face the consequences and debasement that is to come my way. Also to will for a miracle or a last chance at my life maybe. I won't let go too soon!
Lavanya does not know the depth of Arnav's feelings though she know he is serious about it. But she don't know about Kushi. Kushi can also be a girl who is immoral and is after fame. That might result in grave disaster for Arnav. She is looking out for Arnav as well.
Too much emotions and confusions and hopes and displeasure is going on in Lavanya's mind, of which she herself might not be aware of.
So she need time.
2. This delay is needed to aid the story to move forward.
I know maybe this delay is a wrong step for many who read it. Well, I don't know. I won't argue this is the right way to do it. But this is one way to do it.😛
>Is it even possible to love two people truely??
Let me be honest, I don't know. But recently I had been reading some novels, especially Dr. Zhivago, where a man is torn between his love for two women! And we can clearly see that he loves both of them; but the love is different to both! So, I am right now confused. But trust me when I say this, some master writers of past, has shown it beautifully possible. It is even possible for a woman to be in love with her husband and another man at the same time too! It 's weird, yes, and I don't know the exact dynamics! But yea, it happens at times!!!😕
>U should be able to accept things faster... Thats what helps u in moving on from such situations n making u strong...
YES. But sometimes, it is also good to wait till you are in the right mind to think and decide and then move ahead with the right decision, than the decision you take hastily in a vulnerable state. It differs from person to person. I am sensitive, so this works best with me. Lavanya is sensitive too. She is a victim of a terribly broken marriage and had not experienced love of any kind. This tough exterior is a facade to hide behind. So she needs time. Please understand her.😊
Regarding the questions I had asked, I don't think you have understood it in the way I meant it, but let's let it go. It is difficult to explain. One day maybe, through a different story I can explain that better to you. We will discuss it then. Okay?😉😊
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