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ok i do understand .thanks for clearing out
I Strongly disagree with this comment.If you go back and read the reasons why Dev wanted the divorce in the first place...den it is something like dis....Dev:" Mein sach bol raha hoon'I don't have anyone in my life'but I cannot live a life like this'mein yeh natak'nahin kar sakta hoon'ab bhi tum jab mujse sawaal pooch rahi thi'tumne mujhe yahi poocha ki mein tumhe pasand karta hoon ya nahi'lekin'tum ye bhi nahin pooch paye ki mein tumhe "pyaar" karta hoon ki nahi'don't you think that tells you something?"Dev:" Please geet'I need a break'I want a break from all this'I don't know what I want to do'I want to stay away from all this for sometime'Maine bahuth sacrifice kar liya hai'I married you when I was 25 and now I'm 30 and I have not gone anywhere'I'm still in the same place in my career'I don't want this marriage to tie me down'."
When Geet was 18 she married him....because of familial and societal pressure. She thought Dev was her destiny and she did everything she could do as a duitiful wife. She spent her 5 years with him...lived, cleaned, cooked n waited in that house for him n him only.I agree that not being intimiate in a relationship causes huge problem....but why does the blame have to go on Geet.....is it because women are expected to be perfect in our culture or in this world. Or is it because if something happens then women get blamed? Is a Man not suppose to be responsible for his actions? Why is it that a woman gets blamed everything? Why is she shown as a weak character and why is it that a woman is always responsible for making things right?Did Dev try to be considerate towards Geet? Not everyone can be comfortable with everyone. Geet can talk to Maan about her feelings....but could not talk about to it with Dev....cus there was and is a connection between Maan n her. She was not able to build that trust level with Dev.Do you remember...Geet was going nuts when he mentioned that he needed a break, she was a complete wreck, she wanted to fly to Toronto right at moment in time...n she went to toronto.....the same nite...what does that show???It is quite simple! If you do not feel comfortable sharing something with someone....than you do not..until that trust factor is built up.Whatever she saw when she was 11 instilled a fear in her and that is perfectly normal...it is not her fault that she did not have the support system or the knowledge to discuss that trauma when it happened. It is not easy to just speak up about your insecurites and fears to anyone n everyone. A person who has gone through trauma ...requires someone who is trustworthy and someone with whom the can connect to...in order to open up...remove their shadows, their masks...baggage...n have ultimate healing.Here you see Geet n Maan working towards their relationsip...both r trying to pursue each other...both are worried about little things about the other.....a relationship needs work, time, honestly, trust, faith, love, compassion, sacrifice and above all PATIENCE.Physical relationship is not everthing. I agree that it is an important component in an relationship...but just being physically available ....will not nurture and grow a relationship. What is the point of being in a relationship if it is just physical and nothing else? (Some might disagree with me on this statement...cus people do have needs..)If Geet n Dev were lacking a physical relationship...then I do not see them bonding emotionally either? I would agree to your statement a bit...if I saw that the had a emotional bond...any emotional bond....unfortunatley they had NONE.A relationship is a two way street!Therefore, Geet is not solely and completely responsible for this....
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