Originally posted by: 23Pooja23
Hi, I had read your post when you first wrote it and i was quite impressed with some of the things you said and how you had an answer for everyone.. At first, post-leap I really enjoyed Gunjan and Baldev's interaction. I think it was shown that both really did care about each other. Not only Baldev but Gunjan too. She did use a lot of blackmail but sometimes this blackmail was for his own good. Like when she blackmailed him to eat his food when Baldev hadn't eaten anything.
Hey Pooja, yep agreed. Initially I also thought that they'd sort of developed a camaraderie over the years and was pleasantly surprised about it. Aww I don't remember that blackmail scene... why wasn't Baldev eating and how did she pataoofy him?
Originally posted by: 23Pooja23
To be honest, I hadn't really realised Baldev's double-standards until you pointed them out in this post. Unfortunately, I think a lot of brothers are like that, they'll have one set of rules for their sisters but ignore all these rules when it comes to a girl they like lol.
Originally posted by: 23Pooja23
But the reason I wanted to comment here now is because I'm really disappointed on how Baldev has completely turned his back on his own sister these past episodes. I know he is concerned about how Gunjan put their family to shame but it does also seem like he is more concerned about having to call Ranvi "jijaji" rather than seeing his sister's distress at being forcibly married off. Yes Gunjan did wrong but being forced to marry someone against your will is still wrong.
Exactly! I am completely appalled at this track because it strips the female of all rights to her life and this is not something I can condone. Even Ranvi is wrong for saying yes to the marriage no matter WHAT the justification, especially since he did not consult Gunjan about her wishes (Did his mobile phone suddenly die? Did he suddenly get amnesia about how she is revolted by him?). And Balwant is the biggest culprit of all because he basically forced everyone to do this through emotional blackmail via suicidal threats. But Baldev - he's her sibling, if from no one else a sister or brother can expect some modicum of support from his/her sibling in a situation where he/she is being forced to do something against their will by their parents. Unless ofcourse that relationship is deeply dysfunctional - which in this case it is.
And to add further insult to the injury said sibling is more concerned about his own affairs, his own bruised ego, his own family's image, his own disgust, his own self-centred imaginary world and so decides that washing his hands off this sister is so much easier. And he does so without even a shred of remorse. It's from this plot we can tell how screwed up even Baldev is by the upbringing in this house. He grew into an otherwise decent guy but with 0 respect for his sister or her rights in the house.
Originally posted by: 23Pooja23
I'm not saying that he shouldn't be angry or disappointed with her but he's acting as if Gunjan is not his problem anymore, as if he just washed his hands of her and now she's somebody else's problem.. As I said, I really liked how their relationship had evolved post-leap and that's why I'm really disappointed in Baldev. No matter what, she is his sister and it shouldn't be so easy for him to turn his back on his family. Be angry, yell, try to reason with her but don't just wash your hands of her. Isn't it a brother's role to guide their sister? If it had been Ranvi and Veera, then I'm pretty sure Ranvi would have sat Veera down and told her his disappointment etc but he would have explained things calmly to her too. He would never just give up on her. Gunjan is at fault for not thinking about what her family would go through but Baldev has a role as an older brother to help her out, to be there for her and have her back. But right now he seems more interested about Veera not talking to him for a day than he is about Gunjan needing help and a bit of reassurance in her life..
Yep, that's my problem.
Also it scares me how neither Bansuri, Baldev or Balwant listen to how desperate Gunjan is sounding post-marriage. I dislike the turn her characterisation has taken like everyone else but what else do you expect to happen when someone's freedom is trampled on in such a horrifying manner. She lives in a society where her "no" is not taken as NO so the only resort left for her is to manipulate that society to come around to her way of thinking. Gunjan may not be a likeable person but she is a victim - first of neglect because she was born a girl, then of the casting couch (though there she is also at fault because when girls agree to this kind of stuff they set a dangerous precedent - men begin to expect that it is "natural" to expect incentives when they are in a position of authority) and now she is a victim of a society that has stripped her of her autonomy (I won't go in further detail on that here, but will provide this link for my stance: https://seriousaboutserials.wordpress.com/2013/04/22/ek-chutki-sindoor/).
How are the writers ever going to make Baldev or Gunjan redeemable I don't know. I stopped watching the show after he told his mom he didn't want to bring her for pag phera but then agrees to only because of his father and their image and after Gunjan decides to manipulate the pind such that they themselves end her marriage with Ranvi (yes I get why she is reacting like this, but I can tell I'm not going to enjoy watching this stuff).
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