Sumo was Not a bully and I like Sumo and Shravan

Originally posted by: mannu100

Who said Sumo bullied shravan😲?

Sumo made mistake in past and shravan today make mistake

Human are bound to do mistake...right...and some learn from it and some may not thier personal choice but the thing is that if they will not do mistake...then we are not humans right..

So since both suman and shravan are realistic characters...they are bound to do mistake at every level of thier lives ...with different methods..obviously...

But here apart from mistake external force has also played a vital role ...in the story which will be revealed latter in the show..hopefully,,

For Me neither suman nor shravan deserve this pain and heartbroke and suffering.

Both are suffeing and struggling...the diffrence is just that .shravan has a father besides him to guide and sumo had nobody to guide her...but ...that doesnet mean either Shravan is wrong nor Sumo..\

the only thing the bad effect shravan has ...due to that..lets see how ..the story unfolds...

Originally posted by: coolpixie

I see your point.

And nobody is painting Suman as some active bully, but there is nothing wrong in debating on whether her past behavior bordered on the lines of verbal abuse. Again, nobody is piling all these things up and labeling Suman, but in a forum it's okay if people want to take part in such intellectual discussion.

Regardless of Suman not having any bad intentions and active malice, let's call a spade a spade for once and not constantly excuse her actions. She was wrong! By constantly putting class differences between her and Shravan, she has slowly chipped away at his self esteem; and sure, this was NOT intentional on her part, but why not put that particular blame where it's supposed to lie? Why are we trivializing Shravan's feelings? If this was Shravan in the place of Suman, constantly telling Suman that I have my image to take care of so don't talk to me at school, but is all the more happy to get notes from her after school, gets his homework also done by her, and then takes another girl to prom rejecting her, explaining again, I can't go with you because of my image. And then when Suman in this reversal finally breaks free after a last incident and she comes back after 10 years, with Shravan giving a written note saying sorry, would she accept that note? Would all the people berating Shravan right now encourage her to accept that sorry?

And what names would Shravan be called if he was in Suman's place? I think "bully" would be the first that would come to front of anyone's mind. You don't have to threaten to bully, you can slyly make such comments that border on verbal abuse. And saying all this again, does not mean I hate Suman. I infact accept suman with all her flaws. She is not some perfect girl to me. She has her flaws, just like Shravan. And I'm willing to accept that and talk about it and definitely not accusing the Suman of the present or of the past, regardless of my assessment. Because at the end of the day, I'm invested in Shravan, as a pair and this show as a love story. Sorry If I'm offending anyone, but this is just my take.

Originally posted by: poppinss

Starting this thread to start a discussion... no offence will be taken for any disagreements. Lets have fun 😆

For the record, I do not hate Shravan but did not like the extent to which he went to humiliate Sumo in public.

Many people refer to Sumo as a bully. So, I searched for the definition of a bully. Bullying is a very strong word and she was definitely not that...

"Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power, which distinguishes bullying from conflict.^[1] Behaviors used to assert such domination can include verbalharassment or threat, physical assault or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particular targets"

If she were indeed a bully then we would not be having a love story today!

Sumo, was loud, immature and wanted to maintain a social image. She was brash and seemed to be stating the differences between Shravan and her all the time. But she was pretty open about it too, you could never say she lied to him.

I am darned sure that Shravan did not leave her for being Loud, repeatedly stating their differences or for not going out with him in public. He knew how to handle her even then... right from the cube incident to doing her homework. He was extremely smart and could have easily evaded her. He wanted to do things for her and he did it... definitely not because of her forcing him. Shravan at that time was more mature and had great clarity of thought for his age. Even when he wrote the love letter he was prepared for rejection and wanted to continue as a friend.

What I believe would have happened and we are yet to see in this show is that at some point Sumo would have failed to stand by Shravan when he was in need of his FRIEND. That soured all his good memories, same as what happened with Sumo after the party.

THIS to me is a cardinal sin and not easily forgiven. Sometimes we act without thinking about consequences. Sumo was and is impulsive and would have been silent where she should have spoken or spoken something to maintain her image, without thinking about the consequences. When she did realize her mistake Shravan was not prepared to accept her apology. This I believe is the past story. If Shravan had actually stayed back and ignored Sumo for some time, I am very sure she would have gone past her image and made it up to him. Things have now turned complex with time and unsaid words.

The future story would be how Sumo handles the exact same situation and fights her way through it. She is going to earn Shravan's and her family's respect and viceversa. With respect love would follow.