Question of Leaving the House

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Posted: 11 years ago
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There have been a lot of calls for Urmi to leave Samrat and move out of that house. My question is why should she? Does the house not belong to her? Who has done more for the house and the family - Samrat or Urmi? Who is more necessary for the well-being of all members of the family - Smarat or Urmi? Hour by hour - who sends more time in the house - Samrat or Urmi?

A woman has equal rights over her marital home - even the law provides for that. She is also guaranteed protection from Verbal, Physical or Mental harassment or trauma - she can send the entire family - including Diwakar and Kanchan, Aditi and her husband, Smarat, His parents and Tauji all behind bars for threatening her and abetting Samrat actively and passively in his acts of violence.

When a woman moves to her marital home from her parental home she gains rights over both homes - it's not that she loses the right to her parental home because she got married; and then she loses right to her marital home because she doesn't want to live with her husband. Nopes. If the husband and his family want the DIL to move out - they have to give her an equal share in the property or monetary compensation for that - equal to the market value of her share in the property. Her husband has to give her alimony sufficient to enable her to maintain the current standard of living (same as what she is enjoying while living with her husband). She retains custody of the son because he's too young to live without his mother and her husband has to bear all his living and education expenses - irrespective of whether the child lives with him or not. The husband is only entitled to visitation rights with the permission of the wife.

I hope the sow brings out all these issues and educates the viewers properly about the rights that a woman has in case she faces cruelty from her in-laws. Though I doubt very much if the makers and the channel will have the guts to do so.

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HappySmiles thumbnail
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Posted: 11 years ago
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You've brought up a good point here Purva. Urmi really has worked hard and after your post I realize that Urmi does indeed have every right to live in that house. Why should she have to leave? The house is very well hers as well!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Some sasural never ever become your homes. Some sas become mothers and husband become good friends... While other sas become the biggest devils and husband the most disgusting person...so no sasural can never be your home. And if you have a lot of people in your sasural they will not even let u call it your home.
This is fact... And we can see this problem in any other house.

They make you work like an idiot and at the end they are like... Get out... You are not a part of this house... This is what u get in the end...
Tight slap on ur face
Edited by pancakes527 - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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The house is not Samrat's, if it were she would have equal share over it. The house belongs to his dad as was told when Aditi moved back in. Yes, no one can kick her out of the house and she has half the rights of her husband on the home. And I believe, until the child is 5, the mom does automatically get custody of the child unless Indian law has changed in the last several years on that. SamRat will have to pay alimony and take care of Shauraya's expenses as well.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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No I m against urmi leaving the house..the house is equally hers
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

The house is not Samrat's, if it were she would have equal share over it. The house belongs to his dad as was told when Aditi moved back in. Yes, no one can kick her out of the house and she has half the rights of her husband on the home. And I believe, until the child is 5, the mom does automatically get custody of the child unless Indian law has changed in the last several years on that. SamRat will have to pay alimony and take care of Shauraya's expenses as well.



Even if the house is in the name of Father-in-law Urmi has rights over it as per the new changes in Divorce law. This is the house she was brought to after her marriage and this is the house she has lived in ever since then - there is no question of her not having right over it.

Very often men transfer property in the name of father or brother to avoid counting it as part of
assets during divorce proceedings. Sometimes even though the house has been bought by husband's money - it is shown as ancestral property. In order to plug all these loopholes the law has been changed and now DIL has equal rights over ancestral property as well as any property acquired by her in-laws if her husband made any monetary contribution to it - during the course of her marriage.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: pancakes527

Some sasural never ever become your homes. Some sas become mothers and husband become good friends... While other sas become the biggest devils and husband the most disgusting person...so no sasural can never be your home. And if you have a lot of people in your sasural they will not even let u call it your home.

This is fact... And we can see this problem in any other house.

They make you work like an idiot and at the end they are like... Get out... You are not a part of this house... This is what u get in the end...
Tight slap on ur face



This is true if a woman does not know her rights or fails to assert it. The law provides safeguards for women so that they are not abused by husband or MIL or thrown out of the house. Even Leander Paes had to go to PS and apologise for ill-treating Rhea Pillai because he dared to lock her out of the house. The wife has equal rights over the house whether she is staying there only with her husband and children or whether a whole host of in-laws are staying with her.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I agree she has right on the house. However, sometimes it is not worth fighting for it. I know about a lady who was murdered by her ex-husband, because she got the house after their divorce. He was the one who bought the house before they got married, so he believed that he should have house after they divorce, even though they had a child together. but she did not give in and it cost her life. Now that child has no Mother or Father because he is in prison. Some things just not worth fighting for.
Women must learn to walk away from material things for their own self preservation. At the end of the day, men like Samrat don't think you deserve anything. Plus whenever a man beats you, one day he will eventually kill you, so it is best to go as far as possible from him. He beat her in the house, with all the family members asleep, he will kill her same way and no one can do anything about it. Even if he goes to prison, it will still not be worth her death. It is best she leaves the house, and forget those material rights of living there.

If I was Urmi I would leave that home and start out on my own. I would stay with my parents, whether they like it or not till I get a job and move out on my own.
Edited by Hillylove - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I think she should leave and work and support herself for safety sake. This is the 21st century. You only own what is legally in your name, don't know Indian laws. But where I live Women are pretty self sufficient to get by on their own.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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In a ciy like jhansi its not easy

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