My Heart goes out to u Shivani..but its not worth it

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Today's episode was better than yesterday as it did touch upon a sensitive and social subject on Dowry and I m glad Shivani stood up for it 👍🏼 ... Credit needs to b given where its due and today I thought Shivani was right in standing up against the whole dowry system , thus protecting a women's honour here 👏👏👏 ... Yesterday Shivani was out of character but today I thought she was spectacular in the way she showed the door to that greedy family , thus protecting Ginni's honour 👍🏼


I dont get Sehariya family to b honest ... From where will they really arrange 10 lakh rupees if they did this rishta ?? In fact Shivani actually protected them from falling into this trap or else like Shivani said, today they demanded 10 lakhs , tomorrow they could demand 20 , 30 or even 40 lakhs ... The family should actually thank Shivani for this instead of blasting her off ... Shivani just made sure this family dont get another son-in-law like Roopesh but sighhh all she got was humiliation from Baburam first and then Latha too


But now a word of advice for Shivani ... Plss dont bother to involve yourself in this family mess anymore because they will never really realise your worth and you are not cunning enough like Sumitra to actually make them realise either with your manipulations .. What did u achieve by cooking and arranging another curtain ?? .. nothing as Sumitra took away all the credit and u could not protest too because it was too late .. What did u achieve by saving Ginni's life and protesting against the dowry ??...again nothing as Baburam instead accused u of not bringing any wealth to this marriage and even Latha accused u for breaking Ginni's rishta ... So Shivani its not really worth it to stand for this family's honour


Thats one reason why Raghu might not want Shivani to stay in this house forever as his wife ... He knows well how his family functions and what is their basic mentality ... Most of the poor families struggle with this dowry issue yet they forcibly get their daughters married 😡 , something which a person like Shivani cannot imagine because she is coming from a different strata of society and thats where the status issue comes in picture ... What looks fair and right for Shivani will look wrong for Sehariya family because its about the mentality of a particular society ... Like Baburam said ,their Basti hv its own set of rules while Baby ji's Haveli has its own set of rules ... both can never match and in the long run when Shivani will hv to face such humiliations daily , how long can she tolerate and continue to b happy ... This is Raghu's main concern because he will never want her to adapt to their set of rules


Again as per precap it seems Shivani will again try to help out Vivek and Maya in their set of problems and might face another round objection or humiliation or god knows what ... But Shivani's basic nature itself is like this .. She cant see her people in any sort of trouble and so despite facing so many humiliations , she will still go to help Maya-Vivek ... In a way she is like Raghu only .. He too always went his way out to help Babiji despite facing all humiliations from evil trio and we see same for Shivani now which Raghu needs to understand and realise too 😳



Anyways now I wonder if Shivani will take Karan's help in bailing out Maya-Vivek from this problem and also will Shivani take up a job at Karan's office after facing this humiliation from Baburam regarding she is not contributing anything to the family ... She might want to financially help the family in case Maya-Vivek loose their job too 🤔 ... So by the time Raghu returns back , Shivani might already join Karan's office which should b interesting I guess ...



Overall it was a better epi than yesterday but I just hope Arhaan is back soon so that story can b back on track too 😆😳

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Ms.SK thumbnail
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@jyoti. another worthy discussion topic from you 👏 🤗
the question where baburam will get 10 lakh - easy he will ask shivani to give the money after all she is rich and raghu's wife. my POV.

agree shivani was right and if raghu had been present, he would have said the same. question is would latha and baburam's attitude be same with raghu?? or they would have accepted raghu's opinion???

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Your advice to Shivani is spot on, but that girl ain't gonna listen :/ She has always been led by her heart, and she is always making impulsive decisions. Like you said, this unpleasantness is what Raghu is trying to protect her from. I guess in the end he'll reach the conclusion that he can only protect her completely by forcing her to leave his house and life..
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Posted: 11 years ago
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good post jyoti... raghu is worth it, but his family is not ...
completely agree when u say that shivani is quite like raghu ... she too is selfless n always thinking of other people around her , especially the ones she loves... she loves raghu n her mind n heart has accepted his family too wholeheartedly , however mean n greedy n bad they are ... she has no grudges whatsoever with any of them... she is so pure hearted ...


latha's twin personality is to the fore again ... on one hand she gives lectures on family honour n does things to taint it ... n here she gives lectures on a girls honor n the need to uphold it to shivani that day n when shivani was trying to do the same thing , she goes all ballistic over her !!!! ... wasn't she the one who was worried about ginni's education n was saying that ginni's marriage won't happen in 2-3 years ... what the hurry?


trust the CVs to throw a damb squid on us in the form of sumitra-shivani cat fight which in the end frizzled out to nothing as the whole issue was on dowry n not who made what n who put up curtains... !!!


shivani stays at raghu house , believing that he loves her , in the process loving n accepting his family as hers too , after giving up all she had n she has to listen to crap from all!!!! ... much like raghu during mu track... i won't actually say that its not worth it to shivani as bela , nishi n ginni r too from the same family... they r all good people with right notions about what's right n wrong (i mean bela especially) n not believe that society rules r the ultimatum...


i wonder if raghu was present there what would have been the situation? surely he would have opposed the dowry demand ... but would the family go for his throat n accuse him of spoiling ginni's life ? no...! may be baburam would, he is bad ! he has only one thing in his mind! money ! ... but will the others accuse him? especially latha? no! ... bec its raghu who is saying ... but here as its shivani , its convenient to accuse her ...

n i don't think raghu thinks that she can't stay in his family bec of his family members mean nature n different rules ... so far we haven't seen him thing along those lines... we r just 'assuming' that he would have thought like that ... so far Cvs has only showed him worrying about 'servant-master' divide n 'richness' factor plus the 'sin' factor of having any sort of desire for his 'maliksa's pothi'...


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Posted: 11 years ago
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Good post jyo.

I liked how Shivani took a stand against d groom's family. But the moment she opened her mouth, I was sure that its gonna go so against her.

I understand wat shi was trying to say, n being a feminist i m happy, but like u said, wat was the point? She should knw by now that she is considered an outsider in that house, n wen d heads of the house are there who not only are much older than her, but also the girl's parents, she should just hav kept her trap shut for the moment, n talk to d family once the guests left. But then in haveli she always had the freedom of speech so can't really expect her to keep quiet. Hope she learnt two important lessons today. But precap suggests otherwise.

Actually I think this much abused dowry track should be abolished from tv shows. But usually the entire family stands with the bride or the bhabhi or whoever the heroine is, whereas here there was a difference. There wasn't anyone supporting the heroine. Can't help but wonder if bela or raghu would hav supported her, or they too would hav felt it only natural that dowry be given...

The guy's family said so many things, n the seheriya family could take offence only at the fact that shi refused to acknowledge the dowry demand. They conveniently turned a deaf ear to the allegation of two wives staying in d same room. Or will it b brought up soon?

As for babs getting 10 lakh, hmm...simple he will ask raghu, vivek n roop. N raghu will hav to run arnd trying to gather the entire money.
Precap..o someone pm me wen Arhaan is back. I'll skip the episodes till then... 😛 o who m I kidding.. but truly I hav never felt so happy that weekend is only one episode away...
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Nice Post Jyoti

Shivani was absolutely right about the dowry system and glad that she took a stand. Shivani needs to not react impulsively all the time but needs to think thing thru...her making the decision and telling the family that they will not give money I think was not her place, her intention was good, but the decision should have been Babs and Latha's. That's what I think hurt them the most, that she didn't let them make the decision, she sort of overlooked their authority.

I don't live in India, so I'm not that familiar with the dowry system, but from what I know and have read, that this is the way some parts of India operate, so the people are used to it. Dowry is not a good system but I think in order to change people's opinion about it takes time, you can't expect their views to change overnight. Shivani should have not said anything, let the parents talk and later talked to L and B in private. Even if B&L would have agreed, the wedding would not have proceeded until they received the money, so the time was there I think for her talk to them alone.

Agree now the tables have switched in favor of Sumi. Don't know why Shivani didn't realize this when she was trying to outdo SUmi, she fell right into her trap.

Don't know why the CV's showed this kind of scene without the presence of Raghu. I would like to think that Raghu would have stood up and said something against it but you never know with our CV's
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: Ms.S.K.

@jyoti. another worthy discussion topic from you 👏 🤗

the question where baburam will get 10 lakh - easy he will ask shivani to give the money after all she is rich and raghu's wife. my POV.

agree shivani was right and if raghu had been present, he would have said the same. question is would latha and baburam's attitude be same with raghu?? or they would have accepted raghu's opinion???



I hope baburam asks her that and she gets her property back in the process 😆 .. at least we can see the evil trio back in the scheme of things too then 😉😆

I guess Baburam would hv blasted Raghu in same way ... not sure about Latha though .. its more of mentality like I said .. if son takes a decision , its all fine but if bahu takes a decision , then all hell breaks loose .. somethings never change
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: kautilya04

Your advice to Shivani is spot on, but that girl ain't gonna listen :/ She has always been led by her heart, and she is always making impulsive decisions. Like you said, this unpleasantness is what Raghu is trying to protect her from. I guess in the end he'll reach the conclusion that he can only protect her completely by forcing her to leave his house and life..



Yeah mayb thats where he might ask her to leave ...But knowing Shivani , she wont I guess .. I can see she has learnt it from Raghu only ... she will stick to Raghu and his family because she believes she is protecting them just how Raghu stuck to Shivani in haveli because he believed he is protecting her ... sighhh
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: DivzOnAir

Good post jyo.

I liked how Shivani took a stand against d groom's family. But the moment she opened her mouth, I was sure that its gonna go so against her.

I understand wat shi was trying to say, n being a feminist i m happy, but like u said, wat was the point? She should knw by now that she is considered an outsider in that house, n wen d heads of the house are there who not only are much older than her, but also the girl's parents, she should just hav kept her trap shut for the moment, n talk to d family once the guests left. But then in haveli she always had the freedom of speech so can't really expect her to keep quiet. Hope she learnt two important lessons today. But precap suggests otherwise.

Actually I think this much abused dowry track should be abolished from tv shows. But usually the entire family stands with the bride or the bhabhi or whoever the heroine is, whereas here there was a difference. There wasn't anyone supporting the heroine. Can't help but wonder if bela or raghu would hav supported her, or they too would hav felt it only natural that dowry be given...

The guy's family said so many things, n the seheriya family could take offence only at the fact that shi refused to acknowledge the dowry demand. They conveniently turned a deaf ear to the allegation of two wives staying in d same room. Or will it b brought up soon?

As for babs getting 10 lakh, hmm...simple he will ask raghu, vivek n roop. N raghu will hav to run arnd trying to gather the entire money.
Precap..o someone pm me wen Arhaan is back. I'll skip the episodes till then... 😛 o who m I kidding.. but truly I hav never felt so happy that weekend is only one episode away...



@red Exactly how I felt, that even though her intentions were good, it was not her place to tell them no, that was L&B place.


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Posted: 11 years ago
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nice post jyothi...agree...shivani deserves her due credit 2 day for standing out what is ri8👏 👏...she knows what to talk...what to do...but doesn't know HOW...she acts instantly...

Latha again surprised...today...😕 there is no need to get angry on shivani...if not shown as supporting...she could have shown silent...maybe for Latha it's the way shivani spoke with them is more wrong than loosing a groom for Ginni...what ever maybe the reason I still cannot support Latha 2 day...

baburam is expected...he is one character who has no double sides...always...has only one face on both sides of the coin...😆


cannot agree not wanting shivani to be ctive in family matters...well there is heaven to hell difference between Rana's and sehariyas...and she is aware of that...she has to learn how to deal with them...once R is back she will get her backbone...cannot escape from reality...face it...learn it experience it...and survive...😊

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