Sandhya is facing the consequences!!!

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Posted: 11 years ago
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If we plant an orange tree we are not going to get an apple from that orange tree.

I truly feel bad for Sandhya but can't blame others for her situations today. She is the one responsible for her own situations. I should say her secretive nature even to Suraj to some extent is the reason of her situations.
Though her heart in the right place, but that was not enough to make sure every body understands her positions.
1. She never said the truth or open the real story to the family members whenever there was a crisis.
2. She never gave them the true picture of a situations
3. She never mentioned about her limitations or restrictions as an ASP
4. She never gave the broad scenario of her job to the family members
5. She never clearly elaborate to the family what to expect and what not to from her job.
6. She cannot take it for granted that they will know everything about her job.
It is not that everyday Rathis are producing a police officer or a Govt. officer in their family. Or few are going for higher educations.
They are just a regressive family, with family business which doesn't need a degree.
She was trying to balance between Beendeni and ASP, and for doing that she should
have give the RPs the exact picture of her situations.
She was trying to keep the balance superficially which didn't work and came back to haunt her.
She is a very soft girl in nature, but sometimes you have to be smart enough to make sure people around you understands your positions...sadly she failed in that department!!
Sorry if I hurt anybody with my post... it was not my intentions!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Are they Milk Drinking babies to explain everything 100 times !!! 🐷

Arent the same bunch of people praised Police for thinking Safety of other people over their own life
When u say they Listen then Next day they come and taunt her !! 😲
They are Just some Group of Stupid People , who dont understand anything the difference between Personal and Professional Life though u say 100 times !!! 🤓 🐷
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Posted: 11 years ago
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lovely post Neel... 👏

ok .. bit off topic...
is this why Thala calls u "blue"... blue fonts..!! 😆
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Thanks Neel for pointing out such valid points.👍🏼. sandhya definitely brought it all upon herself. I don't understand why she thought she could sail in 2 boats at one time and not sink. When bhabho took a vow from her that she should put her family and her duties as the rathi DIL first above her work, at that point altho she looked uncomfortable, she succumbed to it.Then when she went to the camp for training and were told to keep the safety of the country above and beyond anyone and everything.. how she did she think she could be true to either of the vows. Sandhya is a very strange girl. Yea, she is soft natured but was never someone who would take any crap from anyone. She used to be tough and strong. But now along the years she is turning into a Rathi carpet😔 and sandhya kothari got lost somewhere. This reminds me of one of the earlier episodes of DABH when her friend,(forgot her name) the friend she grew up with and married a lawyer, had once told sandy when she saw her as a rathi bahu one day, what has become of the once strong headed and determined sandhya kothari. Now I see what she meant and am asking the same thing.
I'm not saying she has to kick and scream and get her way with the whole family shattered into pieces, but least she could do is not cry and shed tears and cripple herself emotionally. If no one is by her side to hold her up, she has to do it for herself then.
Edited by Venus12 - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Nice post Neelaji 😊
I agree with you Sandhya should have educated her duties, limitations and priorities to her family. Bhabasa's earlier outburst when govt. refused to release RK and he thought she being in such a high position is purposefully not doing anything is more applicable.
But today episode I feel if they were aware of her duties also wouldn't have made any impact because I believe Zakir told everything what happened with the terrorists and out of all that what he picked is "you didn't listen to your husband and boarded the flight", "you didn't listen to your FIL and went ahead with your plan" 😕 Didn't he understand that RK wants to kill suraj at any cost 😕
is he the same wise man who said army/police parents should feel pride of their children because they are ready to sacrifice their life and serve their country 😭
Please don't get me wrong and think I am saying Sandy is 100% correct and perfect always. No, she was never perfect.
It is really tortures to hear and see so many taunts 🤢 why cvs are hell bent on showing all this crap we already endured so much during HJ. I thought we will have some nice SurYa moments after HJ ending 😕 how wrong was I
PS : anybody have any idea when will bhabho open her eyes and we can get mukti from this torture? kindly inform me if anyone knows I will start counting days 😆
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I don't think Sandhya is at fault!
The Rathis feel she is their personal police and is there only to do whatever they ask! I cannot stand any of them now especially Bhabasa after the way he treated her when she came home after the hijack. That saying that In-laws cannot be your real family was shown to be true in that instant. No one at any time thought that she has lost her husband/or is a widow now. They are too busy blaming her for something beyond her control!

Why should Sandhya explain her job? does anyone who work as a manager or a CEO or even a teacher explain their job in details to their family?

Main problem is the educational gap between Sandy and her in-laws and we have seen time after time that the Rathis will never change. In a moment of crisis they revert back to their real self.

I am so sick of this. Its time that Sandy is shown to be assertive - I had high hopes when she turned her back on Bhabasa and walked out of the room. It feels like she has to constantly apologise for being a police officer or give the Rathis priority all because they 'let' her become an officer. I mean it was her right to be whatever she wants from her life, she only got entangled in their life by being decieved by her brother - I am sure many a girl in real life do have these problems. Every human being deserve to reach their true potential, they do not owe it to anyone but to their own grit and determination. I say its time Sandy stopped apologising for being an officer and for things out of her control.

IF she cannot then I suggest she just becomes a plain housewife. No one like her can succeed in a job like that, nor see-saw from one side to the other. I appreciate why the Cvs are showing her as being passive - she lost her family once and now doesn't want to again - but its time she has to make a choice. Someone in real life will face this crossroad as well.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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you are right. If she had put them in their places in the first place rather then being their Carpet. they would have known when to talk and act and when to shut up!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: jsingh12

Nice post Neelaji 😊

I agree with you Sandhya should have educated her duties, limitations and priorities to her family. Bhabasa's earlier outburst when govt. refused to release RK and he thought she being in such a high position is purposefully not doing anything is more applicable.
But today episode I feel if they were aware of her duties also wouldn't have made any impact because I believe Zakir told everything what happened with the terrorists and out of all that what he picked is "you didn't listen to your husband and boarded the flight", "you didn't listen to your FIL and went ahead with your plan" 😕 Didn't he understand that RK wants to kill suraj at any cost 😕
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is he the same wise man who said army/police parents should feel pride of their children because they are ready to sacrifice their life and serve their country 😭
Please don't get me wrong and think I am saying Sandy is 100% correct and perfect always. No, she was never perfect.
It is really tortures to hear and see so many taunts 🤢 why cvs are hell bent on showing all this crap we already endured so much during HJ. I thought we will have some nice SurYa moments after HJ ending 😕 how wrong was I
PS : anybody have any idea when will bhabho open her eyes and we can get mukti from this torture? kindly inform me if anyone knows I will start counting days 😆



just because Bhabasa got emotional and forgot his brain doesnt mean Sandhiya is at fault here. I have nobody in my house working in public service but even I know their duties is the country over everthing. why should she have to lecture them
if she had lectured them they will say she is running on high horse.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: avyarima



just because Bhabasa got emotional and forgot his brain doesnt mean Sandhiya is at fault here. I have nobody in my house working in public service but even I know their duties is the country over everthing. why should she have to lecture them
if she had lectured them they will say she is running on high horse.

@bold: there is the problem.. Rathis have no clue about public service, example..Bhabo took Bachan from Sandy that she will remember that she is bahu first and sadly Sandy promised to that stupid promise too...She knew that for her country will b e first but she never make it clear to them.
Babasa is a gone case, CVs just butchering his character..
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: Neel_M

@bold: there is the problem.. Rathis have no clue about public service, example..Bhabo took Bachan from Sandy that she will remember that she is bahu first and sadly Sandy promised to that stupid promise too...She knew that for her country will b e first but she never make it clear to them.
Babasa is a gone case, CVs just butchering his character..

Neelaji what I repeatedly failed to understand is how is the case here "country over family" comes into picture? Confused Suraj and bhabho are among those 75 passengers its not like Sruaj and bhabho are captured at one place and remaining at other and Sandy choose other members instead of rescuing her family.
If I remember she told bbsa that there is no guarantee that they will release those passengers so they came up with this plan but it went to deaf ears. whether plan succeeded or not one thing is really helpful for them is Zakir being there.
Regarding vachan didn't then the same bhabasa asked bhabho "what would you do if Sandy can't keep her promise because it is not possible all the time". but alas see now Ouch what a butchering Cry

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