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earth1978

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Posted: 13 years ago

i think it is a woman's right to decide when she is ready to initiate a physical relationship even with her husband.

marriage is not a binding contract to make sex mandatory . it takes time for a bond to evolve without which it is merely an act .

with a super crazy tyrant like bhabho who tries her level best to humiliate sandhya during the day, how can one expect sandhya to be normal at night?

sandhya is not ready to accept bhabho's son.

if she ds, bhabho gets away with humiliating her and gets no rebuttal at all.

her son gets what bhabho wants which she is crude enough to think is sex!

sandhya is reacting against bhabho which any normal personw ud do.

and yes it is a fact that mothers in law who take pleasure in making their daughters in law miserable, actually make their own son misrable.

becuase any wife takes it out on her husband which is her son.

suraj is not at fault except that he is bhabho's son and bhabho is an uncultured, nasty, uncouth and selfish being. even if sandhya is decent enough to never say it , it still dsnt change the realisation.

and she is unable to accept bhabho's son. becuase bhabho has time n again drilled into sandhya how not good she is for her son. and sandhya rightly realises that bhabho's opinion about her will never change.

it has disheartened sandhya due to which she has started thinking if she can ever have a niormal relationship with suraj.

all those calmouring for husband's rights kindly think from the girl's view point. is it possible to get intimate at night while all the taunts ring fresh which she got during the day?

is it possible to give away one self when she is not even sure if she wud ever pass the tests which will only give fail results? she is not even sure if she wud last long enopugh in suraj's life , how can she compromise with her esteem?? if she gets thrown out then all was for nothing!

wife has got no rights at all? come on friends we can do better than think like that. sandhya is the most sorry character inthe entire serial. she is the one whse life is getting played with repeatedly she can really do without all the insensitivity. being women we certainly realise that any of us wud abhorr such an act done under pressure. she ds not want to leave suraj becuase she cannot imagione a life without him, else she wud have left by now. it is a form of love. ds it need to be said in the form of i love u? but she has the right to say no to something she is uncomfortable anytime and at any point. she cares for suraj more than even bhabho and that care is true love.

suraj is lucky to have her AND the only thiong which needs to be mended is thatpathetic crazy bhabho to be pushed into a corner.

Edited by vasu.avantika - 13 years ago

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Posted: 13 years ago

dear here no one is bashing or using harsh words against Sandy,

every one is giving their POV.. Some support Sooraj, some Sandy...😆

don't misunderstand 😉

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earth1978

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Posted: 13 years ago

i think sandhya and suraj are on the same side. if sides need to be decided it is bhabho and sandhya+suraj.

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bud2012

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Posted: 13 years ago

Yes we should stop thinking her like a dirt .

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megustajalebi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: vasu.avantika
i think it is a woman's right to decide when she is ready to initiate a physical relationship even with her husband.
marriage is not a binding contract to make sex mandatory . it takes time for a bond to evolve without which it is merely an act .
with a super crazy tyrant like bhabho who tries her level best to humiliate sandhya during the day, how can one expect sandhya to be normal at night?
sandhya is not ready to accept bhabho's son.
if she ds, bhabho gets away with humiliating her and gets no rebuttal at all.
her son gets what bhabho wants which she is crude enough to think is sex!
sandhya is reacting against bhabho which any normal personw ud do.
and yes it is a fact that mothers in law who take pleasure in making their daughters in law miserable, actually make their own son misrable.
becuase any wife takes it out on her husband which is her son.
suraj is not at fault except that he is bhabho's son and bhabho is an uncultured, nasty, uncouth and selfish being. even if sandhya is decent enough to never say it , it still dsnt change the realisation.
and she is unable to accept bhabho's son. becuase bhabho has time n again drilled into sandhya how not good she is for her son. and sandhya rightly realises that bhabho's opinion about her will never change.
it has disheartened sandhya due to which she has started thinking if she can ever have a niormal relationship with suraj.
all those calmouring for husband's rights kindly think from the girl's view point. is it possible to get intimate at night while all the taunts ring fresh which she got during the day?
is it possible to give away one self when she is not even sure if she wud ever pass the tests which will only give fail results? she is not even sure if she wud last long enopugh in suraj's life , how can she compromise with her esteem?? if she gets thrown out then all was for nothing!
wife has got no rights at all? come on friends we can do better than think like that. sandhya is the most sorry character inthe entire serial. she is the one whse life is getting played with repeatedly she can really do without all the insensitivity. being women we certainly realise that any of us wud abhorr such an act done under pressure. she ds not want to leave suraj becuase she cannot imagione a life without him, else she wud have left by now. it is a form of love. ds it need to be said in the form of i love u? but she has the right to say no to something she is uncomfortable anytime and at any point. she cares for suraj more than even bhabho and that care is true love.
suraj is lucky to have her AND the only thiong which needs to be mended is thatpathetic crazy bhabho to be pushed into a corner.

I agree that it's unfair to bash her for not having a physical relationship with Suraj. I hate it when people say the husband has a right to his wife's body. It's not a right. It's a privilege. It's a privilege determined by his wife, and the wife is the only one who has a right to what she wants to do with her body. And I feel bad as to what happened with Sandhya and Suraj regarding the awkward sex conversation with Bhabho in front of everyone. After that, neither Suraj or Sandhya will not to get close to each other anytime soon. Bhabho indeed made it worse for them.

However I think some people aren't happy with Sandhya because she does not act like a wife at all towards Suraj. I wish Sandhya would act friendlier towards Suraj. Remember how well they interacted when they were preparing for their puppet show? It would be nice to see something like that more often from her. Suraj always tries to make her feel better, and even though Sandhya is thankful for this and acknowledges this, I wish she would do something too.

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Posted: 13 years ago

@megustajalebi-i completely agree with u,she needs to begin showing him that she cares too.

as for the maker of this post,no one is bashing sandhya, shes the life of this show, if they love the show, its obvious they love her too, ppl are not upset that she doesnt want to have physical relationship with her husband,she cud take as much time as she wants, they are just dissapointed in her for sayin she wud never give her heart or body to him,which is way too harsh in my opinion.Suraj deserves her love which isnt always all about physical relations!!!

Edited by SelG_Kstew_Fan - 13 years ago

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navyaalex8

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Posted: 13 years ago

Lots of people support Sandhya too...Have a look at this post supporting sandhya:

http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=2888319

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Fatima

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Posted: 13 years ago

No one is bashing Sandhya because she's not getting intimate with Suraj 😆. In fact, most of us would agree that considering the circumstances in that household...she needs to be given plenty of time. And fortunately for her she's got a sweetheart of a husband who understands that.

It's Sandhya's lack of consideration towards Suraj that personally bothers me. Yes, she respects him, and yes when she's not using him as a sounding board for her outbursts, she is nice to him The same way she is nice to Chotu or any other person on the street. She's never accepted him even mentally as her husband. And then she lays the bomb on him that she doesn't know if she will ever be able to accept him.

Let's put Bhabo aside...I mean we can almost all agree...she's lost it for the time being. But I have to mention that Bhabo's crass behavior only recently started. Before the FIR incident, Sandhya was her favorite beendni.

Let's also be honest and admit that Sandhya has been biased/prejudiced against Suraj since the day she found out he is less educated than her. She equates him with a pile of her shattered dreams. She's never even shared her dreams with him, yet has already assumed he wouldn't support her.

Bhabo asked her specifically before the wedding if she was okay with everything..and she agreed. Yes, she agreed to the marriage for her Bhabi's sake. But she's a grown up girl. She did realize that she was getting married and not going on a date. Her husband would eventually expect some sort of intimacy, if not on the actual SR.

Matters like career goals, further education, living with or without in-laws, etc are best discussed before the marriage, not after and not on the SR 😕. Yet she brought up none of these things when given the chance.

Would Sandhya have behaved differently if Suraj had been educated? Yes. Would she have had the same outburst she had on the SR? I don't think so.

If anyone got cheated it this whole mess of a marriage it was Suraj. 🥺

Let me say again...I'm not fighting for Suraj's conjugal rights 😆...Sandhya can take all the time she needs...but at least give the poor fellow a chance. At least slowly work your way up to accepting him. I mean marriage is a commitment and a compromise from both parties. This one way traffic tunnel with no light at the end of it is way too unfair for someone as sweet as Suraj.

Edited by ummesulaiman - 13 years ago

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soumya85

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: ummesulaiman
No one is bashing Sandhya because she's not getting intimate with Suraj 😆. In fact, most of us would agree that considering the circumstances in that household...she needs to be given plenty of time. And fortunately for her she's got a sweetheart of a husband who understands that.

If anyone got cheated it this whole mess of a marriage it was Suraj. 🥺

Let me say again...I'm not fighting for Suraj's conjugal rights 😆...Sandhya can take all the time she needs...but at least give the poor fellow a chance. At least slowly work your way up to accepting him. I mean marriage is a commitment and a compromise from both parties. This one way traffic tunnel with no light at the end of it is way too unfair for someone as sweet as Suraj.