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Originally posted by: _goofyCat_

Hey, welcome to the forum!

Yes, Teni has every right to take decision about her own life and PaRi don't have any rights to interfere in her life as long as she is fulfilling her commitment. But for that Teni needs to talk to Parth and Shorvori first and make it clear what she wants. Here the situation is more complicated because Aman is related to Parth's family, and Parth doesn't believe in him enough to let him know about the secret of surrogacy. In case you hadn't seen it, Parth himself had said it once to Shorvori that Teni has her own life and she can live it on her own terms. But in this case, it isn't going to be that simple because Aman (and the whole family) neither knows Teni's real identity, nor the surrogacy truth. Parth and Shorvori here are more worried about the truth getting exposed than their baby IMO, because it if gets exposed, it will put both of them as well as Teni in bad light. I don't think Teni has even thought about that, she has taken the decision to stop Aman kinda impulsively.

Originally posted by: -poloenigma-

@ bold

I would have actually given Shorvori a benefit of doubt if Teni's consent actually was the case...but Teni talking to Parth & Shorvori about what she wants doesn't even come into the picture because at this point, Teni is herself confused about what she wants from life...Had Shorvori done what she did ONLY because she was concerned about Teni, I'd actually have less problem with that. However, she manipulated Aman to leave only because she got insecure seeing Aman and Teni's bonding in the room. She didn't like their closeness. So it was not about what Teni wanted, because Shorvori could actually see that Teni was warming up to Aman and was happy in his company...and I agree that Parth is unsure of Aman, but it makes him a shitty friend to manipulate Aman into leaving the house... because I think both Parth & Shorvori have seen that Aman has genuine feelings for Teni. So yeah it was pretty insensitive on their part to ask him to leave...and the fact that they are doing all this only to keep their secret safe is even more awful...what they are doing is legal, and many couples do opt for surrogacy...it's PaRi's own fault that they lied to the family. When they could have been brave and told the family the whole truth, but no... they are too scared to do that so they kept lying,..and now because of the fear of their lies getting exposed , they are ready to manipulate a person and break a potential relationship.. here we have two people, Aman and Teni, who have been alone all their life, no parents, no real family, and now finally when they have a chance at happiness with each other, instead of letting their relationship grow naturally, PaRi tried to sabotage it before it even began, only because of their secret getting exposed which is just sad...

So my question is why should Teni and Aman pay the price and lose their chance at real happiness ONLY because PaRi lied to their family about the surrogacy. Lying to the family was totally wrong on their part. It's their fault alone, not Teni or Aman's. So why should Teni and Aman pay for their stupid decision?

Originally posted by: janecastle

@ TM- Even I like Teni-Aman jodi but we should not forget the main concept of the show. It is about the dilchasp rishta of the three main leads and I wish it remains the same till the end. At first when Shorvari asked Aman to leave even I felt bad. But when we think about it Shorvari is right on her part. They are trusting the life of their unborn child with a stranger and it is quite natural for them to worry about it. Any normal parents will be worried about their kid and we can't blame them for that.

On the other hand, Teni as an individual has every right t live her life the way she wants. How many time Parth got irritated when Teni came barging into their room and disturbing their 'romance'? What PaRi fails to understand is that the same thing happen both the way around. So it was partially wrong on Shorvari's part to go behind Teni's back and ask Aman to leave. It is only going to complicate the matters further.

So the best thing to do is say the truth to Aman and let him decide what he wants to do. As far as I understood, Aman is a good guy and will never backstab PaRi. Even if he object the whole thing he will never reveal their truth in front of the family. Aman is a valuable ally and it will be good to keep him with them.

It is useless to fight over such things because the show is not about romance. It's about surrogacy. PaRi & Teni-Aman as couples come only secondary in the plot. So there's no use of fighting about the importance of couples and creating fan wars. Let's all just discuss things in a mature and friendly manner without mocking anyone or any character.

Originally posted by: -poloenigma-

@Rashmi :

Teni must have lied about being Shorvori's sister because she wanted to stay with PaRi . Now why did she have to lie? Had Parth & Shorvori been honest to their families about the whole thing, she would have no reason to lie! Didn't PaRi tell her that this whole surrogacy deal is supposed to be a secret? So imo the whole mess is a problem of PaRi's own making. And Teni HAD to lie because she was told that the whole thing is supposed to be a secret. If not Shorvori's sister, she would have claimed to be someone else! Why? Because PaRi themselves told her to keep the surrogacy a secret. And it was not to save herself, it was to save Parth & Shorvori's image in the family. Who is Teni to the Bhanushalis? Nothing! If the truth comes out tomorrow, who are going to be blamed for lying to the family in the first place? And would Teni have any reason to lie had PaRi been honest to their families right from the beginning? She's carrying their child in her womb for 9 months . Why are PaRi making it look like it's some dirty secret that needs to be hidden from the family, when in reality what Teni is doing is one of the most purest things that a human being can do for another human being! If Parth and Shorvori can acknowledge the novelty of the act and respect it, then it's their duty to make the family understand the whole deal. Besides, surrogacy is totally legal. I understand that Teni is being paid to be their surrogate, however that doesn't invalid the risks and complications that comes with pregnancy. Teni is uneducated, misinformed about many things in life. I doubt she would have even thought about the health complications that come with pregnancy. So was her consent to be their surrogate really informed consent? Does she understand the implication of what she's doing to her own body? I doubt that.

Originally posted by: _goofyCat_

Maybe. Maybe Teni had to tell all the lies because of Parth and Shorvori hid the truth from THEIR family. But what right Teni had to barge into their house, just because she felt they are going to cheat her? Parth and Shorvori told lies to their family doesn't make Teni's lies look right. Teni told one lie after another to the family members which increased the complications day by day. Parth and Shorvori's mistake in all this was they didn't think about future problems and didn't take the decision of making an alternate arrangement for her at the right time. To be honest, all these problems started cropping up once Teni entered Bhanushali house.

The basic point to understand here is, all three of them have entered into the deal (they have signed a LEGAL CONTRACT) for their own benefit, without giving a thought to future consequences of it. All three of them are at equal fault here. But if you want to assume that Teni is suffering without absolutely any fault of hers in all this, you are free to do so.

Originally posted by: SudHaVeN-

Hiding the surrogacy is been mentioned as a huge issue here. The situation was created for PaRi in such a way that they were left with no choice but to hide the surrogacy. If PaRi's initial lies made Teni hide about her real identity, PaRi also had similar reasons in the form of the emotional blackmail from Parth's mother Indu. And she unfairly gave them timelines in getting pregnant. The success rate of getting pregnant within a month after am abortion is 0.

Adding onto it, Shorvari's Fallopian tube getting damaged issue surfaced making it more complicated and impossible for them to reveal the truth. PaRi also had a hurdle Confessing the truth which again would dampen Dadaji's health since he has an heart attack right after a few days of Shorvari's abortion. People who watch the show regularly should remember all these situations which made PaRi hide this surrogacy deal out of peer family pressure. And when Teni signed this deal legally she was informed by Parth of the reasons why they're going to keep this surrogacy as a secret. She however chose to put all those conditions behind her when she chose to walk into the Bhanushali's house. It's only coz she entered into their house without thinking, just like how she accepted to go on with this surrogacy without giving a thought.

It's a known thing that, Once a lie is said there's no chance of coming out of the chain that's created around it unless they have the courage enough to confess everything, when the family couldn't agree with Parth's choice of marrying a Bengali girl, PaRi were right to hide this surrogacy deal from their family as they've seen & realised that how regressive their family is. Not everyone will feel the need to go against their family for every single issue, nor they will choose to get out of such family since their thoughts don't match.

Like Rashmi said, if PaRi are alone considered wrong in hiding this from their family and in cooking up several lies in the process, and Teni is just innocent in all this, you are free to think so.

If people can care for a character who just entered a few days ago, it is also completely justified to feel for Shorvari who has been a poor orphan, faced troubles all her life, and also faced opposition in her marriage from her in laws only coz she was from a different culture. With her backstory of losing her kid and stuff matured, married women can definitely relate to her more than anyone in this show...