Parth and Teni's closeness - Page 5

Originally posted by: _goofyCat_

My two cents on surrogacy.

We have been discussing this from long time, and I don't think we can stop talking about it, because that's something the whole story of the show revolves around.

I maybe in minority in saying this, but I don't really find a reason why surrogacy should be looked down upon to an extent that it should be totally banned or should never be practised in our country.

Adoption is anytime a much more noble and humane way to fulfill the desire of childless couples to have kids, which also ensures a better life to orphaned kids, but adoption can't be forced on anyone! There will be people who will want to have biological child, and surrogacy can be a ray of hope for them. Ours is an orthodox society where people still think having their own kids is the only way out, and in most of the cases women are held responsible for the infertility issues. What's wrong in it if such women look at surrogacy as an option which can earn them their position in family and society?

I do not feel that concept of price of womb comes into picture, as long as the surrogate mother is willingly ready to carry the child in her body for nine months. I remember a Bollywood movie which had come many years back, starring likes of Tabu, Palash Sen, Sushmita Sen and others. It was a story of two modern age, independent couples, one of which was keen to have a baby within months of their marriage. But some unfortunate circumstances happen and they come to know that the wife can't conceive. The other lady, who is a good friend of the first, decides to carry her friend's baby in her womb. She takes this decision without her husband's consent, who doesn't really happen to be happy about her decision. I don't remember end of the movie, but this is just one kind of situation where surrogacy can be a blessing for someone. Obviously, there will be questions like why the couple couldn't adopt a child, but then its everyone's personal choice!

Of course, there is a dark side to everything, and so is to surrogacy- the commercial surrogacy. Which is probably the case in most of the surrogacy cases happening in our country. But that doesn't make the whole surrogacy a bad deal, IMO. There are a lot of illegal trades happening in case of organ donation as well, but that doesn't make us stop practising organ donation, because every coin has two sides to it.

Having said all this, I understand that surrogacy is a very sensitive topic, and it goes beyond the medical science to cultural aspects and personal beliefs of people. I don't intend to offend anyone with this, just sharing my perspective, which I wanted to do from a long time.

Originally posted by: gaushiv13

My two cents from my daily experience on surrogate baby biological normal baby and adopted baby

As we all see normally prodjced biological child all over the world

Coming to surrogate baby they are equal to them yes that child will always be considered own by the grandparent or anyone

But adopted in 2 percent family only they are treated equally but rest never

I will present two real life sfenerio which i watched in real life

One couple adopted a child and they both died after some years and then that child was thrown out by both maternal and paternal grandparents

One couple adopted a child and after some years they got their own child normally as a boon you can say and they themselves treated her as a servent whom once they used to treat like princess

What you will say on these sfenerio

It's very easy to speak but when anyone has to face this harsh reality then it's not normal

Now tell me is adoption good for child or surrogacy

So everything has its own benefit and defect

We can't think that why everyone behave like this not like that

Some person are talking in favour and against but i am about sure that they themselves would not follow it some would reason due to their fan some due to they have not faced but we talk big

Personally i feel and will always want to become mother one time because i want to experience 9 month period and adopt a second child of opposite sex

If i would not be blessed then i have no problem in adoption but if my PARTENER would want his own baby i will never question him or will oppose him i would simply like to walk out and be a single mother because in my view we should never baggage our opinion or ask them to compromise with their choice

Everything has two facets

I am saying these all as i have personally experienced all these scenerio

Sometime I ask my mother that i would like to adopt then she simply tell the child would be not own

I love children alot and i really never differentiate it is only others who make me differentiate

Not only this i think about everyone has watched DABH inwhich out of twin child of lead was adopted by female lead brother and i thought it would never happen in real world but i was surprised when same thing happen in my neighbour where the couple wanted a male child and they were having sex test and they came to know it is girl so they thought of abortion but the sister wanted a girl child as her son are grown up so she assured them that she would adopt their baby and she adopted her and the girl was brought with alot care love luxury and love compared to her sibling but when she came to know the truth she was devastated and gone through alot mental trauma that she totally wanted and cut all relation with her paren t and her sibling wished that they would be in her place

So my only objective to show different type of adoption and their result

An adopted child in India especially is very hard to live for them they go through alot trauma from everybody and after seeing the other cousin and sibling they go through alot varied emotion

I personally not care of blood relation but what i get in return never a true love except my own brother or mother or father Others love are only a deceit

Indian have very very small thought where people never cared about other only if they are your own blood

I wish one day people thinking progress and before mocking others they try to put them in their shoes and try to respect everyone and then it would be most beautiful place to live

Originally posted by: angelk1

It seem like teni will become the other women. She will end up harbouring feeling for parth and vis versa. But i dont think think they will get married because of the family. And both of them have moral. Its will be like khabhi alvida with rani and sharu, but with a twist. But i agree , they can have a beautiful relation without the whole drAma. Let them all get along and accept what has happen. I dont want anyone to get hurt. I love all three

Originally posted by: _goofyCat_

There will be zero chances of marriage because Parth is very much loyal to his wife and Teni can never think of breaking anyone's marriage..

@bold, that's so true. All of them are right at the respective places and all three deserve their share of happiness. Hope the makers do fair justice with all three of them.