Revenge, Is a bad idea.

Sometimes, people hurt you, they break your trust, they are responsible for many bad things that happened in your life, but it doesnt mean u seek for revenge, u do anything possible to get revenge.

Ahana in our story, confessed that she does like anant but, but, she is marrying anant to get revenge, to punish her mom, but, she forgot, by doing so, she is ruining anant life, maybe she will be great wife, maybe but she is doing it only to teach her mother how a person feels when his heart is broken.

idea is very bad because in a way she will learn the lesson herself. she will punish her mom yes, her mom will pay for her deeds yes but what about herself, would this revenge give her any benefit, marrying a guy with a thought of punishing someone else.

what is his mistake? that he fell for her? why he has to pay for those 2 game?

if she was really loving him, truly loving him, n would marry him to protect him from her mother i would say maybe she is doing it for him but no, she has her own reasons.

So i feel sorry for anant, he wants to be loved again, his kids want to see him happy again, ahana is not bad girl but her motive is wrong, this marriage is totally wrong because the reason is wrong.

that's why i always say revenge doesnt help anyone,

it not only destroy the person but destroy you as well.

think about it.

Originally posted by: PlainJane

They say when you dig a grave for someone else, you should also dig one for yourself. Revenge is definitely a bad idea. Ahana is not a bad person, but she is making the wrong decision. She is marrying for revenge, but I also think she is marrying Anant because she think she can build their marital life on the mutual respect and affection she and Anant have with each other. Maybe she could learn to love him (if not fall in love with him). Trust me, in our world, people marry for less. She is like trying to kill two birds with one stone. But, she is not factoring in the fact that she might fall in love with someone else. That's her biggest mistake.

She is marrying Anant for the wrong reasons and that one decision will be her ultimate downfall. And therein lies the crux of this story. Without this decision, we wouldn't have our story. I feel sorry for her, because she is not essentially a vindictive person. She is just someone angry and tortured by her tainted relationship with her mother. Being human, we make irrational decisions, when we are badly hurting. I am not defending her, but my sympathies are with her.

in last night episode, laila raichand explained to her daughter why it is a bad idea marrying anant,

she explained to her that she knows that her daughter is doing it for the sake of revenge, she wants to stop her daughter from doing so, she explained to her that she knows well that laila wants to marry anant just for the sake of peaceful life but her daughter who claims to be in love with him does it just to punish her mom, she doesnt love anant truly.

so she explained that marrying an old man is wrong idea, u r still young and he is becoming old, she wants to stop ahana from doing the same mistake as she did by marrying an old man and then realizing that she wants more then just love, she wanted happy married life in all means, money / bed and all other things she needed which her husband could not give.

Now... when i see this one, i can say laila is rite she knows that her daughter is doing wrong, but how can she stop her actually she can not. but she knows when her daughter will fall in love with someone it will be hard life because it might be not with her husband

**as i heard, it is not going to be her husband with whom she will fall in love.

that's life

ahana thinks her values are greater but sometimes with great values person falls.

sad thing but soul needs, body needs at times when not fulfilled people do same mistakes as their parents did.

Originally posted by: malikakas

I agree completely. Especially in Indian culture, we are sort of accustomed to people marrying for the sake of getting married. Arranged marriages very often are based on mutual respect and compatibility with the idea that one can grow to love the other. So I don't think it would be unusual for Ahana to think in that way. Also remember Ahana said that she was afraid of love. She saw how her father's love for her mother killed him. She is not factoring falling in love because that's not a dream she has for her life.

The other factor is that she feels secure with Anant as she did with her father. Whether she understands it or not she is looking for that parental figure. Anant, himself, had an inkling about that which is why he asked her.

This is where I feel the bigger mistake is actually Anant's for not thinking it through. He rushed the proposal instead of dating her for a while and seeing whether they are actually compatible. He should've introduced her to his children first to see if they got along. What he is asking of her is a big deal for someone her age. And while Ahana may not have the experience to understand why its a big deal, he does or at least should. Personally, Anant is being a little selfish by not taking into consideration how being with him limits Ahana from having a normal life.

Even in the Turkish version, I felt that Adnan was a little inconsiderate to the compromises Bihter was expected to make. He was sort of expecting her to fill a void in his life without accepting that his life would also have to change for both good and bad. When he overruled her decision over the housekeepers that was sort of the death knell for the marriage.