~*DOTW: Sticking to tradition*~

Chinchinchoo

@Prinsesse.Suvi

Sparkler

31

+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

#1

Hello everyone!🤗

So this is the first Discussion of the week, and as you know, we are currently having a track about honour killings. Nityanand didn't want Alka to marry Ralph because he was an American, he didn't care that Ralph might be a nice person, might be able to financially support Alka, maybe even better than Jai (okay I know he can't, but what if he could", he didn't even bother to ask, as long as he is American, he is an unsuitable groom for Alka.

I think same with Ramesh and Indu (I so do not know the guy's name😆) , the parents don't care whether Indu is a good bahu, just that she is from a different caste.

Would you stick to tradition at all costs?

Now I know that most of you won't give a damn about marrying intercaste, but possibly you will be wary about marrying someone from a different country or religion.

Suppose, in the future, ten years from now, you children do something totally against your main um... culture, or conventions, would you agree? For example, if he/she wants to live with their bf/gf before marriage, would you mind? And I know live in relationships happen now, and possibly in ten years or more it will be even more common--will you stick to your old customs and beliefs, even though most of the world has moved on? Is it right to do so? At some length, I guess it's okay, in fact it is right to keep your culture intact, but when everyone is moving on, why should you slow down that progression. A few decades back, if you had even thought of a love marriage, it would have resulted in defaming your family, possibly, but now, it is alright. But there are still families that would kill to make sure everyone sticks to traditions, to keep their family's 'honour' intact.

What is your opinion on this issue?

Edited by Suvi7884 - 14 years ago

3

Reply

Quote

ozzyie

@ozzyie

Rocker

26

Posted: 14 years ago

#2

well, thanks for the Dotw😊

Frankly speaking , i'm not entirely on any side.

I think , love marriages are so common these days , that parents normally accept. so, i am really very much against of those who adopt the ways of eloping. These people , by their acts , encourage the phenomenon of having done something wrong , that gives rise to honour kiling. If u are not brave enough, leave it, don't spoil others chances.

As far as live in relationships are concerned , it is better to flow with the time rather than being stucked.

it is better to give away one's rigid attitude.

But, at the same time, i would really like to have our soceital values preserved. although , it is difficult , but it would have been fun if could follow both.

1

Reply

Quote

Chinchinchoo

@Prinsesse.Suvi

Sparkler

31

+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

#3

No one really interested in DOTW?

Edited by Suvi7884 - 14 years ago

2

Reply

Quote

ozzyie

@ozzyie

Rocker

26

Posted: 14 years ago

#4

lets discuss about the current situation here.

After Abhisheks mom's refusal, what nandini is going to do?????????

suicide ,i think.

Really, she's feeling so humiliated.😭

1

Reply

Quote

stoneheart

@stoneheart

Explorer

8

Posted: 14 years ago

#5

Seeing all this on TV and there's another show on child marriage and yet another on honor killings...is a bit alien in this day and age (for me at least). At the same time I know people who have married outside their religion or societal strata only to regret bitterly.

And if parents object to a prospective spouse for reasons such as character / habits (basically reasons other than different religion / caste / community / citizenship type) then children should give pause and consider. After all no parent would want their child to be unhappy .

Life is short enough as it is and it would be sad if you could not spend it with the people you love but then life aint that simple either...there is no right or wrong....just case by case basis.

1

Reply

Quote

Chinchinchoo

@Prinsesse.Suvi

Sparkler

31

+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

#6

^It still happens though,

Exactly, there isnt a proper right or wrong, it depends on everyones case...

I dont think parents can make the judgements for kids anymore, they have 'experience' they might be biased, they arent willing to take risk etc....it s just better to let the kid take a fall and understand how to get up after that....

1

Reply

Quote

Rita Patel

@autoriksha

Explorer

8

Posted: 14 years ago

#7

Suvi,

Interesting topic. Its always better to move on with teh world then not too especially if your children are at the receiving end. If you don't then you may end up loosing your kids. My parents insisted that i should marry a guy from a same caste but i know i can't insist that on my son - as long as he is happy, i'll have to accept his wish.

Rita

1

Reply

Quote

TrulyAditi

@TrulyAditi

Explorer

9

Posted: 14 years ago

#8

Hey I think it's totally subjective...love marriages are common now and even inter-caste marriages are deemed to be okay and honestly if one's soulmate is from another caste , one can't be expected to leave him/her just because of a different religion!

1

Reply

Quote

-Amrita2010

@-Amrita2010

Inactive

23

+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

#9

Falling in love (having a GF/BF) doesn't mean that one is against the traditions. Choosing own partners are very common now and hence it turns out to be the best in most of the times.

The same way, one simply cannot leave his/her lover just for the sake of tradition. Tradition and lifestyle are two different things, so I must say that I'm balanced.

1

Reply

Quote

Chinchinchoo

@Prinsesse.Suvi

Sparkler

31

+ 4

Posted: 14 years ago

#10

@Amrita

maybe not traditions..social conventions/customs...Yes, a balance is good..but some people are just too...argh!😡