I don't feel sorry for Kastur? :O

Hey Everyone! New-ish around here so hey to all! =] People who know mee, know I tend to post looong posts so please bear with me, my intentions are not to bore you, just I enjoy essay writing 😆

Coming to my post- I don't feel sorry for Kastur! I sound evil and hard hearted but I actually sided with Mohan upon hearing his explanation.

1. I don't get why Kastur had to ask Mohan? It isn't something he said as a joke, I mean it was pretty obvious in the way he had said it so why keep on conflicting more pain.

2. Mohan like he said wanted to share his happiness with his wife. The date wasn't in his eyes him wooing or being romantic. AND he was under influence of alcohol. How can Kastur take him seriously? He obviously was wooohziiiee! & completely OOC yet still Kastur believed he loves her.

3. Mohan explained that they had an arranged marriage and that his responsibility is to ensure she is happy. About 95% of the time, in an arranged marriage the couple do not love each other but learn to love one another and it shouldn't be forgotten that Mohan lived in a whole different environment for his early years of adulthood. He came back to India after years of living abroad so it is natural for him to find himself following the same mind-set values as followed in the countries abroad.

4. Mohan isn't saying he hates Kastur, only that he doesn't love her. Ultimately he needs time to get to know her. He came back and was throttled into marriage. [Not blaming Kastur or saying Mohan is innocent there] but he didn't get a chance to court, date or get to know Kastur properly.

5. Like Mohan said when did Kastur feel that he was in love with her, he hasn't really given her any excuse to believe he is or was in love her. I ask- Do you not hug your friends? Do you not support your friends in time of need? Do you not love them to a certain extent SO why is Kastur any different to those friends? I'm sorry for anyone who thinks I am being evil or irrational but just because Kastur is Mohan's wife does not mean he is romantically in love with her. It just seems as though Kastur expects him to love her just because she is his wife. She hasn't even asked him before and caught off guard he answered the question quite truthfully. How can he love someone he hardly knows. Her likes, dislikes, what her favourite colour is, what her favourite film is. Does he know any of that? No and can she truthfully say she knows his likes and dislikes? I doubt it, personally I don't understand why Kastur couldn't have just said to Mohan, fair enough you don't love me but that doesn't mean we can't build a real relationship. It seems as though all the mushy romance is what Kastur sees her marriage to be about? Why not stay back with Mohan, get to know him, his ways and what he is genuinely like instead of assuming?

I apologise in advance to everyone, if anyone thinks I am being unfair or just supporting Mohan because he is Mohan. In actual fact, I haven't actually supported Mohan on anything till now because he seems like a self-absorbed, spoilt, ignorant, selfish, lying mommy's boy who wants what he wants without thinking of his consequences first but here I just can't understand why Mohan is guilty here? I know everyone has their own views and I respect them but I would like to know if anyone actually understands this from Mohan's POV rather than just feeling sorry for Kastur.

Okay that's mee all done. =] Please do comment and debate! Would love to know your thoughts and conflicting views as I know many will have on this topic! :D

Thats what her character is at the moment, well was. She had this fantasy that all married men and wife are to love each other immensly.

Hi, 😛

First of welcome to the DP forum Sanju 🤗

I'm surprise your essay is shorter then normal 😆 and what a entrance

I don't feel sorry for Kastur but I do feel her pained and am not against anything Mohan said cause I saw it from his POV which most us did. Okay I agree it was naive for Kastur to think Mohan loved her but her thinking wasn't just based on just the outing. Kastur felt the moment Mohan agree with the marriage it was willingly on his part and that he had feelings for her and the outing was confirmations of those feelings to her. I think if Mohan just said I don't love and left it like that kastur wouldn't have felt so broken but to make her feel like she was a burden and since he had to get married anyway she hit the jackpot is something that no woman / man will take easily and then to add injury to the wound he said come I'm hungry and want to eat 🤣 Mohan just need to starting thinking about others feelings, I know he doesn't want to lie to which I understand but he need to start exercise little thing called manners or be tactful while being honest.

" he seems like a self-absorbed, spoilt, ignorant, selfish, lying mommy's boy who wants what he wants without thinking of his consequences first "

I you sure the is nothing else you want to add 🤣

Originally posted by: ummesulaiman

But Mohan Ji, there is something called tact. You don't tell total strangers you've never been in love in a game of truth and dare, when you're sitting right next to your wife, who you've checked into the honeymoon suite with! 😲 That's just plain callous, and deserves at least one direct hit with a sandal.

What was he suppose to do lie and raise kastur's expectations even further? See from Mohan's POV since the beginning love is not important for marriage, marriage was the last thing on his mind and even though he was forced to marry kastur for financial needs what he told saroj was actually true from his POV "shadi tou kisi sey karni hey then why not kastur" ... Am sure when they sat down to play he was not thinking hhe would be asked such a question but when he was he did what his char is all about, said what was on his mind without giving it a 2nd thought so i don't see anything wrong in that

I feel sorry for her not because Mohan told her truth but she was dreaming him since Mohan went abroad. She never dream anybody else.

I'd say that I feel bad for both Mohan and Kastur. Actually none of them are at fault. Situations have brought them here.

See, after Baapji talked about Mohur rishta with Jitu, Kastur had only one dream.. to lead a beautiful life with her Mohan ji! She believes in dreams and fantasies and considered love as a fairytale. She never thought that love can be painful too because the image of Mohan she had in her heart was like Lord Krishna (her other Mohanji), but when she faced reality, she was broken. She went back to Gala House because she didn't want the family members to blame Mohan and also she didn't want them to be sad. Now she is normal but her genuine smile is gone and it's affecting Mohan for sure and me loves it totally. 😃

Originally posted by: ummesulaiman

But Mohan Ji, there is something called tact. You don't tell total strangers you've never been in love in a game of truth and dare, when you're sitting right next to your wife, who you've checked into the honeymoon suite with! 😲 That's just plain callous, and deserves at least one direct hit with a sandal.

He never told Kastur that he loves her. Neither he is rude nor he hates her. He is friendly with her and I'm sure we all agree that he is always honest with her. He never pretended, except the propose, though, but that was only because he wanted to get out of the mess. After that, he was himself in front of Kastur.. no love talks, nothing! When he answered the question in the game, he didn't actually think of the consequences. He answered it casually and didn't realize that it'd hit Kastur, and that goes with his character. The biggest thing was that he was honest. He didn't lie to her anymore. Hope you got my point. 😊

I do feel a little bad for kastur that her dreams are shattered but i don't feel sorry for her because her dreams were very unreal and based on her illusion she needed to wake up and face the reality.