I don't feel sorry for Kastur? :O - Page 3

I'm a newbie to this forum as well so hi5 from me!!! 😃 Mohan is a straight shooter & he responded to the game question in just that fashion...I actually thought his answer was refreshing; unlike most young couples who drop the 'I love you' at the drop of a hat, Mohan's answer appeared to be a wise one... If I were Kastur I would have said right on! Love is not just abt romance, being attracted to each other, wanting each other physically...love is a continuum...it may start with an attraction, but then it takes on different meanings at different points of the relationship...this is why some ppl remain married for decades while others end a relationship within days...

Originally posted by: _Sanjana23_

Hey Everyone! New-ish around here so hey to all! =] People who know mee, know I tend to post looong posts so please bear with me, my intentions are not to bore you, just I enjoy essay writing 😆

Coming to my post- I don't feel sorry for Kastur! I sound evil and hard hearted but I actually sided with Mohan upon hearing his explanation.

1. I don't get why Kastur had to ask Mohan? It isn't something he said as a joke, I mean it was pretty obvious in the way he had said it so why keep on conflicting more pain.

2. Mohan like he said wanted to share his happiness with his wife. The date wasn't in his eyes him wooing or being romantic. AND he was under influence of alcohol. How can Kastur take him seriously? He obviously was wooohziiiee! & completely OOC yet still Kastur believed he loves her.

3. Mohan explained that they had an arranged marriage and that his responsibility is to ensure she is happy. About 95% of the time, in an arranged marriage the couple do not love each other but learn to love one another and it shouldn't be forgotten that Mohan lived in a whole different environment for his early years of adulthood. He came back to India after years of living abroad so it is natural for him to find himself following the same mind-set values as followed in the countries abroad.

4. Mohan isn't saying he hates Kastur, only that he doesn't love her. Ultimately he needs time to get to know her. He came back and was throttled into marriage. [Not blaming Kastur or saying Mohan is innocent there] but he didn't get a chance to court, date or get to know Kastur properly.

5. Like Mohan said when did Kastur feel that he was in love with her, he hasn't really given her any excuse to believe he is or was in love her. I ask- Do you not hug your friends? Do you not support your friends in time of need? Do you not love them to a certain extent SO why is Kastur any different to those friends? I'm sorry for anyone who thinks I am being evil or irrational but just because Kastur is Mohan's wife does not mean he is romantically in love with her. It just seems as though Kastur expects him to love her just because she is his wife. She hasn't even asked him before and caught off guard he answered the question quite truthfully. How can he love someone he hardly knows. Her likes, dislikes, what her favourite colour is, what her favourite film is. Does he know any of that? No and can she truthfully say she knows his likes and dislikes? I doubt it, personally I don't understand why Kastur couldn't have just said to Mohan, fair enough you don't love me but that doesn't mean we can't build a real relationship. It seems as though all the mushy romance is what Kastur sees her marriage to be about? Why not stay back with Mohan, get to know him, his ways and what he is genuinely like instead of assuming?

I apologise in advance to everyone, if anyone thinks I am being unfair or just supporting Mohan because he is Mohan. In actual fact, I haven't actually supported Mohan on anything till now because he seems like a self-absorbed, spoilt, ignorant, selfish, lying mommy's boy who wants what he wants without thinking of his consequences first but here I just can't understand why Mohan is guilty here? I know everyone has their own views and I respect them but I would like to know if anyone actually understands this from Mohan's POV rather than just feeling sorry for Kastur.

Okay that's mee all done. =] Please do comment and debate! Would love to know your thoughts and conflicting views as I know many will have on this topic! :D

Welcome to the Forum .. Do post often ... Liked the synch and the convincing tone in your essay 😆 I am also an essay person, not intentionally but I just end up writing them 🤣 so hi5 😆
Agree with most of what you have said and have been pointing out the same since 2 days already 😆 I do feel bad for her but dont fee sorry because what she believed/believes as her love for Mohan is stil not the real love yet in my opinion atleast ... Have said it before and am saying it again a person's chhavi is really not enough to fall in love ... Her love was/is illusional and she has yet to discover the real love towards Mohan ... And I dont think Mohan has ever given it up that he loves her ... its she who has been assuming it ... So somewhere assuming and being kinda too dreamy is Kastur's fault ... I agree totally with your last point

Somewhere I kinda dont agree that all that he said or did/is doing is any consequence of "vilaayati sanskar" 😆 Yes his perspective and attitude towards a lot of things has changes because of being a foreign-returned but I dont think his views on marriage are influenced by that ... The most important thing is that marriage was never on his mind ... He was just put into it because of his helplessness and ambition ... He doesnt consider their relationship to just be a concern and responsibility from his side just because he had been abroad ... Its because all that he wants to think about and focus on is his work ... and marriage was and still is the last thing on his mind

And abt Kastur going back to Mumbai instead of staying there thinking she should try understand him more, I agree she was very heartbroken to stay there any longer but still returning back home was not any soution to this ... Ofcourse again I dont expect Kastur to understand that so soon but then if she returned back taking that decision hastily then how did she decide to continue being his dharampatni within 24hours of her previous decision?

About someone here saying he should have been tactful while answering in T&D game, Mohan has always been honest (except when he wants to really make things work) so that truth coming out from him without him even realising it came as no surprise ... Yea his wife is sitting very much beside him but as a matter of fact he thinks of her no more than a responsibility and eventhough there are arguements that his excuse of arranged marriage was wrong, but its a fact that this marriage was an arranged one (eventhough its not going on like any other arranged marriage) ... And in arranged marriages both dont love each other already do they? I dont expect Kastur to realise that ofcourse but am just stating the fact that it can happen that a couple has come on their honeymoon but they dont yet love each other ... I dont think that deserves a sandal in any way whatsoever 😆

Hey, Manasi😃 I agree with your post except for the part abt Kastur staying back in Alibaug...Mohan was there on a business trip, there was no way of it turning into a honeymoon, the fairy tale she had spun for herself had just unraveled...on top of it, Mohan had made it clear that he did not want her interfering in his business matters! What was the point in staying back in a room by herself feeling miserable and, in turn, making Mohan feel miserable and angry? In fact I liked that she stood her ground and distanced herself despite Mohan's concern abt the family's reaction...

Soapy, what happened to not replying?😈 Anyway I didn't get a chance to read all of it, and I'll get to it later.

Originally posted by: likarsh

Soapy, what happened to not replying?😈

That was for your sarcastic post in edt that cat being skeptical thing cause such things don't make a difference to me 😛

Rest if you post anything i have something to say on i will surely reply whenever i will feel like cause this is an open forum

Sanju I read your whole post and points to say and then I saw your BruCas siggie and forget everything 😛

I completely get what you're saying and to an extent I do side with Mohan too, but there was an episode where Mohan found out he has to marry Kastur and went and insulted her saying she's only 9th pass etc and then saying he didn't wanna marry her and she was stupid to think he would want to marry her and just becoz he helped her and took her out didn't mean he liked her to marry her.

Originally posted by: Soaps1

That was for your sarcastic post in edt that cat being skeptical thing cause such things don't make a difference to me 😛

Rest if you post anything i have something to say on i will surely reply whenever i will feel like cause this is an open forum

Yea laugh all you want, i can be nasty too but i don't come here to take digs at others nor i will do it no matter how much anyone tries to provoke :-)

Originally posted by: Soaps1

Yea laugh all you want, i can be nasty too but i don't come here to take digs at others nor i will do it no matter how much anyone tries to provoke :-)