When love is a drag ?

All rosy rosy when fallen in love fresh, slowly things unfold weakneses come out, compatibility takes it toll and disagreement occurs.

Fine kich pich once in a while is fine, but turns out to be every hour event, still there is some force that makes the bond tight.Neither one is ready to understand and realizes there is some major issue, still continues...for years and years...Some just understands and make adjustments, atleast they enjoy days of fun time and essence of love.

I agree nok jhok adds to value to relationship, but in the as mentioned above I mean there is no end to it still people continue...

Questions is (most cases) : at first moment of understanding(not realizing) that there is problem why cann't guy or the gal make a tough call and say it's over when neither party is gonna step down on uncompatibility issues ?

Related : if someone says I love you but I don't love you? what does that mean ?

Originally posted by: raj5000

Related : if someone says I love you but I don't love you? what does that mean ?

It means you need to get away from that person as soon as you drive them to a psych...

more later..

Originally posted by: lighthouse

It means you need to get away from that person as soon as you drive them to a psych...

more later..

😆 Absolutely, heard this on radio (94.1 FM) way back and this gurl caller was like ... no but still still ..trying to understand what it meant..I was like...get off him gurl..he is just there to suffice some personal goal...coward cann't say truth etc... take hold of your life and make a call... God bless her anyways..

Originally posted by: raj5000

All rosy rosy when fallen in love fresh, slowly things unfold weakneses come out, compatibility takes it toll and disagreement occurs.

Welcome to the real world call married life.

Fine kich pich once in a while is fine, but turns out to be every hour event, still there is some force that makes the bond tight.Neither one is ready to understand and realizes there is some major issue, still continues...for years and years...Some just understands and make adjustments, atleast they enjoy days of fun time and essence of love.

It takes a mature person to realize and admit there is an underlying issue in the marriage.

I agree nok jhok adds to value to relationship, but in the as mentioned above I mean there is no end to it still people continue...

Tooo much of anything is not good. I say look at the issue head on and take proper decision with head and heart. Sometimes it is better to end than drag for inevitable.

Questions is (most cases) : at first moment of understanding(not realizing) that there is problem why cann't guy or the gal make a tough call and say it's over when neither party is gonna step down on uncompatibility issues ?

Have you not heard of Personal Ego 😳

Related : if someone says I love you but I don't love you? what does that mean ?

There is a difference between loving someone and being In love with some one. May be they are not all that into you that is what it means and it is time to move on.

Personally I believe marriage is WIP. Constant work with positive attitude, and open communication. Which couple does not have issues in their relationship??? All relationships have problems. Parents-children, Siblings, Friends we all do have issues at times. We do work at ones which mean alot to us and some of them we just let go and move on.

Atleast try working on problems and finding a solution so one can live with themselves. Quitting even before trying is coward IMHO.

Originally posted by: raj5000

All rosy rosy when fallen in love fresh, slowly things unfold weakneses come out, compatibility takes it toll and disagreement occurs.

Fine kich pich once in a while is fine, but turns out to be every hour event, still there is some force that makes the bond tight.Neither one is ready to understand and realizes there is some major issue, still continues...for years and years...Some just understands and make adjustments, atleast they enjoy days of fun time and essence of love.

I agree nok jhok adds to value to relationship, but in the as mentioned above I mean there is no end to it still people continue...

😊 that's life for most...i guess.

Questions is (most cases) : at first moment of understanding(not realizing) that there is problem why cann't guy or the gal make a tough call and say it's over when neither party is gonna step down on uncompatibility issues ?

lot of other factors...at least in our culture. if the couple has kids...pretty much all such issues take a back seat. family and societal pressure is there too. abuse is diff than incompatibility...i mo. will elaborate later.

Related : if someone says I love you but I don't love you? what does that mean ?

i think u mean to say when someone says.....i love u but i'm not IN love with u...what does that mean😊

wish i had the words to explain that😊

Originally posted by: raj5000

Related : if someone says I love you but I don't love you? what does that mean ?

It mean soo simple......You keep love her then Last she will marry a handsome..well settled guy...n live happy....tum log devadas bankee goomega idar udhar....😳thats it😛

Aamir khan ki dialog ki tara...ye Rang roop ki duniya main kuch majanoo bane,kuch raancha bane.... kitne bardaad huyee😳😕😉

😆 such bolo Kitne baar hua aisa😉😛😆

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Personally I believe marriage is WIP. Constant work with positive attitude, and open communication. Which couple does not have issues in their relationship??? All relationships have problems. Parents-children, Siblings, Friends we all do have issues at times. We do work at ones which mean alot to us and some of them we just let go and move on.

Atleast try working on problems and finding a solution so one can live with themselves. Quitting even before trying is coward IMHO.

very well said VD👏👏👏

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

Right Said. Loving someone and being in love with someone are very different. It is really hard to explain, but here goes. When you love someone, you care for them in a special way, it could be like a friend, family, sibling or even romantic but it is just an emotional feeling. Being in love with someone is when you feel a deep intimate sexual emotional spiritual connection with a person making you realize that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

When someone says 'I love you, BUT I'm not IN love with you' they mean that they love you as a boyfriend/girlfriend but they still feel that there is something lacking in that intimate connection that prevents them from moving the relationship into the next step of commitment.

thanks. beautifully explained. this is what i had in mind as well. was finding it hard to put in words😊

Ah it is one of my favorite quotes of all times right after "It's not you It's me" tying with "I'm confused" and preceding "We can still be friends".

😆😆😆

seriously, if u really r in love with someone, it's hard to stay "just friends" then. i feel it's important to tell the other person upfront that platonic is not gonna work here so feel free to move on if all u consider me is just a "friend"😊

Actually scratch that, my favorite is "Can we cut out all the BS and get in each others pants" 😆

😆😆😆 i think it's very important to distinguish LOVE from LUST. some people try to camouflage their lust as love and keep on calling someone they r sexually interested in their "dear friend". have seen this more in women and seldom in men. men r pretty straightforward on whether it's only s*x they r looking for or is it something deeper. just my opinion based on my verrryyyy limited experience in this area😳

from ur post, looks like u r doing a great job of separating the husk from the wheat😆👍🏼

thanks for pitching in here. u explained it very well👏