Whose responsibility is new born ? - Page 4

Originally posted by: Gauri_3

😆😆😆 u brought it all together...and that too very nicely😆

In UP, we have this not - so - common - anymore tradition that the girl goes to her parents' home for her very first delivery. The tradition started in the older era when most of the household chores were manual and families were large and joint. By going to her parents' place, the girl was getting a break and time to rest and, later, bond with the baby. Due to joint family system, the bhabhies were also there along with the girl's mother to help her with the transition that motherhood brings. All the delivery expenses were borne by the girls' parents during that time. The in-laws used to do this for their daughters. So, the intent was to give as comforting and loving environment to the expecting mom as possible.

No one is really bound by this tradition anymore and most people do not follow it either in today's times. One of the reasons is that families are smaller and nuclear families are on a rise. The girl feels comfortable in her nuclear household and usually do not want to leave her house for a long period of time as the hubby will face problems....miss ghar ka khana etc as the family is not joint anymore. On top of that, husband and wife are emotionally lot more closer today than what they used to be in our dada-dadi's times. The father also wants to be involved with the whole child birth process and the couple does not wish to stay apart from each other during these landmarks of their life.

I personally feel that the couple should bear all the expenses and shd not expect either side of the parents to foot the bill BUT if girl's side wants to be involved and willingly wants to take care of all the expenses then it is really the couple's wish whether they want to honor these wishes or politely refuse.

Great Views... loved reading them see you also know this happens.wonder why its not common all over states in India... may be bollywod's fault😉 😆