Youth (18-25 yrs)-We don't need support ?

1. Parents morally have tons of responsibility towards children.

1. Today's teen are well informed and educated on life.

1. It's a free world for adults, parent back out we know how to deal with world.

1. Parents are children's responsibility.

1. Let adults live there lives please don't interfere.

1. After a certain age kids give hoots to parents and let them figure their lives, since they already have one for themselves

Amidst all the above should children about legal age of being adult look

Out for themselves, let it be shelter/education etc etc…? Since we are in

in the newer generation. OR be dependants on parents for food/shelter/educations etc

What do think is the right time for parents to pull their resources and

Let there siblings to lead life on their own specially for cultural follower parents?

Originally posted by: raj5000

1. Parents morally have tons of responsibility towards children.

1. Today's teen are well informed and educated on life.

1. It's a free world for adults, parent back out we know how to deal with world.

1. Parents are children's responsibility.

1. Let adults live there lives please don't interfere.

1. After a certain age kids give hoots to parents and let them figure their lives, since they already have one for themselves

Amidst all the above should children about legal age of being adult look

Out for themselves, let it be shelter/education etc etc…? Since we are in

in the newer generation. OR be dependants on parents for food/shelter/educations etc

What do think is the right time for parents to pull their resources and

Let there siblings to lead life on their own specially for cultural follower parents?

raj u know this is the world of call centers...the right time of childrem to pull off the resources when they get call for that interview....

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

raj u know this is the world of call centers...the right time of childrem to pull off the resources when they get call for that interview....

Its sad, if parents earned 10K and kiddo is earning 20K talking in western fake accent without pursuing long term growth (education) wats the use... this turns into not a personal but a political problem where is country's development headed ??? From potrayla of ... we are techies/docs / intellegent folks with great education background to " Hi this is Raan (Ron), How can I help you today? " ... sad..i tell you ..someone needs to inject right kind of sense to all (parents / kids) !!

There's nothing more pathetic than a 30 year old who is still living with the parents not out of choice, but out of sheer dependance. I think parents who shelter their kids well into their adult years might believe that they have the kid's best interest at heart but they're actually creating a parasite who is unable to look after himself/herself. While no parent wants to throw their kids out on the streets to fend for themselves, there's a difference between supporting a kid until the kid is able to fend for himself/herself and sheltering the kid to a point where life is so comfy and cushy for the kid that the kid refuses to move out into the real world. There's a thin line between support and dependance.

As for when is the right time to pull back their resources, I guess that has a lot to do with the maturity of the kids, and how the parents perceive their kids. I'd imagine that 18 would be as good an age as any...since that is considered the age at which the kid turns to an 'adult'.

And no, I'm not suggesting that kids move on with their lives and the parents move on with their lives and each remain oblivious to the details of each others' lives. Nope. That's not what families do. Families support each other...your parents supported you when you're younger and you support them when they're older. There's an art to living your own life while remaining respectful of all the other lives that are entwined with your own. 😊

^^^^ globetrotter -- U bet nothing more disgracing then a adult sitting at home... no one but its upto parents to bring reality in such lazy individuals eyes (WAKE UPPP...its your life...Bang Bang 😆 😆 )

I personally believe in family as a cohesive unit, irrespective of age. Dependency on each other is never healthy. However, forming a support system for each other is a positive option.

Whether youth live by themselves or with parents is not the question. What is important if the interaction is of dependency or mutual support. While some families would prefer seperate lives, I am in favor of togetherness. Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.

There is no hard and fast rule.It need to be taken on individual basis. Generalization wouldn't be helpful.
I agree with RTH , that dependency is not desirable for anyone but at the same time. Parents need to provide a sense of support to their children , regardless of their age. This is something totally different than making them responsible for their finances , which again can be decided on individual basis.

For centuries the way it is structured in India, Parents take care of kids all the way till they graduate and get on their feet, the unspoken expectation the kids(boys and their wives) will take care of their parents when the parents get old. That is the retirement account.

With this generation, kids want more freedom so after they get married so they want to stay free without the responsibilities of the parents.

Parents need to learn the lesson from their kids and think about themselves first and plan for their old age, just like the kids want to think first about themselves 😉

Let the kids fend for themselves right after the age of 15 pay for atleast one of the following education/clothing and food

Originally posted by: sareg

For centuries the way it is structured in India, Parents take care of kids all the way till they graduate and get on their feet, the unspoken expectation the kids(boys and their wives) will take care of their parents when the parents get old. That is the retirement account.

With this generation, kids want more freedom so after they get married so they want to stay free without the responsibilities of the parents.

Parents need to learn the lesson from their kids and think about themselves first and plan for their old age, just like the kids want to think first about themselves 😉

Let the kids fend for themselves right after the age of 15 pay for atleast one of the following education/clothing and food

I so agree with you on this one.. With kids education/college centric culture we have today, I see a lot of Indian (boomrang) kids in their mid 20's pursuing "higher" education and yet to get their first full time job. I am not kidding , a lot of these kids come back home to live with parents and maintain a pretty busy social lifestyle in the evenings while their parents are slogging off with 10 hour work days well into their 50's .

I don't think any donkey need to be enlightened about his/ her dependency on his/her parents ...they themselves should realize their responsibilities. However parents need not pull out theri resources....after all they are parents of that good child or donkey child 😛