Is softness misconstrued as incompetency?

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IdeaQueen

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Posted: 18 years ago

Is softness misconstrued as incompetency?
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Are Incompetent people Soft😊?

or Is harshness a method to prove competency ???

Edited by mythili_Kiran - 18 years ago

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Aanandaa

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Posted: 18 years ago

Well its all subjective Mythili..There is no this way or that way which is the right way...Some people are extremely soft but firm at the same time...

But some incompetent people who are so self defensive and lack any inner sense of security, prove themselves to be fools by wearing a fake exterior of harshness/rudeness...

My 2 cents...😊

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Deepak Tamang

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Posted: 18 years ago

Not necessarily, ek kahwaat hai naa "Jo Garajte Hain Woh Baraste Nahin".

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rockstallion

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Posted: 18 years ago

those who compete , are said to be bold

In that relation those who dont can be said as soft... 😊

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Aanandaa

@Aanandaa

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: rockstallion
those who compete , are said to be bold

In that relation those who dont can be said as soft... 😊

Can one NOT compete softly???...😉 😆

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rockstallion

@rockstallion

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: raksha.l

Can one NOT compete softly???...😉 😆

hey raksha 😃

ya one can , but if he does softly, he would be incompetent 😕 😃 (now confuse myself 😆)

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TallyHo

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Posted: 18 years ago

I remember some years ago I appeared for an interview and maybe I was speaking too softly so the MD asked me..." You required to be aggressive for this job....when was the last time you lost your temper? "...

I got the job but the incident had me thinking...subsequently on many occasions I have consciously tried to project myself as an assertive person...
Yes...softness can be misconstrued...
But again in my work experience so far...being soft and polite works way way better than being aggressive... 😊

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sourav1

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Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: mythili_Kiran
Is softness misconstrued as incompetency?
or
Are Incompetent people Soft😊?

or Is harshness a method to prove competency ???

I think if a person is not flexible, he is anyway incompetent be it one's inability to sometimes forsake one's "softness" or one's over attachment to "harshness". A competent person can be accommodating as well as firm according to the situation.

(Yes, the use of "accomodating" and "firm" in lieu of "soft" and "harsh" respectively, is intentional)

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IdeaQueen

@IdeaQueen

Dazzler

Posted: 18 years ago

Originally posted by: raksha.l
Well its all subjective Mythili..There is no this way or that way which is the right way...Some people are extremely soft but firm at the same time...

But some incompetent people who are so self defensive and lack any inner sense of security, prove themselves to be fools by wearing a fake exterior of harshness/rudeness...

My 2 cents...😊

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