Arranged Marriages

Hi

Please vote on ur opinion on whether marriages should be arranged...

I think NO because what is a marriage withoout love and knowledge....If u dont know the person then what's the point and also if u don't love the person what is the point of a marriage...It then all becomes fake like a scam...

Ur views,

asianpride05

Originally posted by: bgdesai

I think arrange marriages and love marriages are both good depending upon individual's culture, belief, expectations, values, choice whatever you call. Arrange marriages are part of Indian tradition since years and I don't find anything wrong with that. Girls in India are usually brought-up with the environment of arrange marriages and they are prepared for it when they are ready to get married. I don't see anything wrong with this tradition. If you see in western countries there are also upto certain extend arranged dates. Your friend, neighbors, parents, cousins, etc. introduce to this person. Ofcourse, not like India though. You are right there is no love in the beginning. It is more of respect in the beginning, but then eventually after year or so you tend to fall in love with all the sweet moments and gestures from your opposite partner.

According to survey around 92% more more are arrange marriages in India. In most cases girls nowadays are not forced to marry a guy or vice a versa. They meet, talk, their family are with similar background, they may meet second time and then they decide to get married. The difference here is they don't have initial love, they don't have physical relationship, they don't stay together. But love does follow after marriage in most of the cases. But then there are exception that relation does not work out in arrange and also in love marriages. Infact, there are less breaking up in arrange marriages than in love according to survey.

Our culture is very different from western culture and so are our traditions. It totally depends upon what individual want. Mine was an arrange marriage and that was something I wanted to. My parents never asked me to have arrange marriage (AM). But I always wanted to have one 'coz it made my parents happy and not only that they are the best person I know who will find the best mate for me. They know me since birth, they know my lifestyle and they won't introduce me to someone totally out of the way.

Now, love is also very beautiful thing. Its really nice to fall in love and then end up spending your life with that person. It's just two different way to find your soul mate.

I agree with u at all!😊

well said bg............................i dunno wat 2 say now but yea i agree wif u cuz i fink aranged marrieage iz better den luv. cuz our parentz noe us better n sumtymez v fink v luv da person but itz jus lust n it wearz off n dat marrigaw iz more likely 2 end

i have to agree with TV maniac, just because something has been followed for centuries doesnt always make it right. your parents do know how u act and behave, but matching u up with someone who is extremely similar to u may not always be the best thing. And ofcourse there are preferences that our parents dont know we have or like.

Having the same social status and behavior doesnt always lead to a prosperous marraige life. Sure there are disadvantages in love marraiges but there are also many advantages that u dont recieve in an arranged marraige.

I'm not saying that arranged marraige is a bad thing, but i dont think girls should grow up expecting their parents to match them up with a boy who is suitable for her. In western society, if there ever was an arranged marraige and the two partners did not like each other then they would get divorced. but in india, where after divorce a woman has no life, because society wont let her remarry because she has lost the most "valuable gift" a.k.a. her virginity. So the girl fears that no matter what, and no matter how much she dislikes her husband, she cannot let him go because she knows that society will not accept her back as she was before marraige.

In a love marraige, many problems can arise, such as social standing and each partner's personal income BUT i think that the marraige would have a better success rate because atleast before making the commitment of marraige, the two people understand each other's needs and feelings, but in arranged marraiges it could take years to do so, and it isnt necessary that after marraige that the girl will fall in love with her husband, and she will spend her entire life wondering why she can't and what a mistake she has made.

Some people like the idea of an arranged marraige, and i am fine with that, but i do think that love marraiges are better in comparison to arranged marraiges.

Originally posted by: tvmaniac

I disagree with the concept of arranged marraige. Just because
something is followed by many people , or from a long period of time or
by important people it cannot be concidered as right.

What is arranged marraige? Where the guy looks at the swelled up bosom
& the girl looks at the swelled up wallet. Its like a cattle market
where pairs are made based on their features.

Its odd to say the least to spend your whole life with a person whom
you didnt know at all , didnt care for forget falling in love.

No one in this world understands himeself better than himself ,
leave sentiments aside & the hindi movie melodrama in the cinema
halls.

The point i want to make is - If you are in love in someone then go ahead & let you parents know.

Arranged marraige is nothing but deranged marraige.

well it kinda depends arranged marriges where ur parents find a guy u might him once and then get married r wrong. but like wen ur parents find a guy u meet for atleast 10 months and itz ur choice if u get married those r'ent that bad!!!

Arrange marriages...

Im kinda 50-50 here...

In love marriage..you think your in love, and ya you do get married with the guy/girl you think is right, but after marriage you regret getting married and want to get a divorce and stuff...it turns out to be a mess and sometimes even worse. On the other side its kinda good cuz you are picking someone that you have known for a while and you think that he/she will be a good life partner and after marriage it works out. Arrange marriages sometimes work out and sometimes dont. Most of the time arrange marriages dont work out...thats cuz you havent known him/her for a long period of time like 6 months is fine...but you dont get that much time you get 1 look at eachother and boom your getting married no matter what. Anyways lol...Im kinda in the middle of yes and sometimes lol Im going to go with yes.

YES and NO... yes, they shoule be arranged if you do not love any1 and you believe ur parents can make a better decision then you. AND no because if you love some1 then you should get married to that person.