Feminist until you get married ? - Page 3

I find nothing wrong or anti-feminist to take your husband's surname lol if you have full agency in it.What matters is the fact that whether you had the option of not to as well. That option is proof of agency of self. Yes women are forced around the world to take their husband's surname but that's all patriarchy's fault. Its human rights that you have the freedom of choice.

Double post.

Originally posted by: FateBeChanged

the example above is a woman who is raised with a belief that men are right and she has no standing in the society without his acceptance otherwise..so she 'thinks' it is ok to be mistreated by him..it is not free will

are you implying it is the same in priyanka's case?..that she is forced to believe that she had no other choice but to keep her husband's surname? do you think nick jonas would have rejected her if she hadn't?:)

also even though western countries are more open-minded when it comes to women rights but taking the husband's name after marriage is a norm there too as well as wearing a wedding ring...would you call them backward too?

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

I find nothing wrong or anti-feminist to take your husband's surname lol if you have full agency in it.What matters is the fact that whether you had the option of not to as well. That option is proof of agency of self. Yes women are forced around the world to take their husband's surname but that's all patriarchy's fault. Its human rights that you have the freedom of choice.

Muslim women don't change their surnames after so it's mostly a western norm . Even in east asia , I think the names don't change after marriage

Calling it "choice" is illusory. Your choices are based on societal expectations and pressures. It's the same reason some burkha wearers call it a choice but how when it's clearly something that's prescribed by their society and value is placed upon it and people who wear them are seen as 'better' or 'more traditional?'

We are living in a simulated world. There is no free will. Its an illusion.

We are clouded by a very western sense of oppression. They think anything thats' covered is oppression. Well that's bland white feminism for you. But if burqa wearers have a choice not to that's enough and they do have a choice in many parts of the world. If they wear the burqa then because of their own personal beliefs there's nothing wrong in that. That's freedom of choice too. In fact Muslim women have reclaimed the Burqa in so many countries. Like I said Patriarchy is the problem.

"reclaimed the burkha" 🤣

Originally posted by: Luna46

Is that so? But what name will Neha's daughter take when she gets married? Mehr Dhupia Bedi<Husband's surname>? 😕

And what about Mehr's child? What name will he/she get? <First Name>Dhupia Bedi<Husband's surname>😲

Man, it'll be so much trouble while filling up forms of such loong names.🥱

Let's face it. This surname system doesn't support modern day feminism. Feminism is about equality between men and women, and this surname system can either be patriarchal or matriarchal. Even if women don't change their surnames after marriage, but when the couple has a child, they give him/her the husband's surname. Why? Because the child is seen as the son/daughter of his/her father first and foremost. Then comes other relations.

If we really want equality then we have to ditch this surname system completely. What's the need to know about our bloodline? I am who I am. I don't need anyone's name attached with me. I've my own identity.

This surname thing is also the root cause of caste-based and religion-based differences between people.

And to those who are talking about feminism being "free will", there are women in the backward classes o f society, who consider it right if their husband beats them for any mistake done by them. Will you also call it "free will"?

Originally posted by: whispermist

"reclaimed the burkha" 🤣