Marriages or Mirages

When people marry for love there is that huge expectation and people tend to be on their best behaviour during the courtship period. But at some point, the mask does fall off and people realise that the person they married is not the same as the one they loved.

Love in general is hard to define. I think the purest love is what parents feel for their kids and that is the kind of love couples should strive for too.

After all, time is passing by every moment and whether we think about it or not, all are just passing this life time. So why not do it in the happiest and most peaceful way possible.

Who needs drama and nagging in their life.

Often it is the love for the children that keeps the family together during difficult times.

But for most men, it is very useful to have a woman to organize and put things in order at home.

If we love someone for their beauty or wealth then the love may last as long as beauty and wealth last. If we love them for their good points then love may last very much longer.

I know people who breakup because they had no kids ! yet some break up and both do not want the kids too !

Break ups happen because one party may look for more excitement with another partner !

especially when one party is working away from home for long periods in an overseas country.

Reality is harsh... The man gets busy with his work, vying for recognition and promotions in his job he has absolutely no time for wife and his offsprings. The woman tries hard to adjust with his family, morning till night she is on toes taking care of the members without a word of appreciation from anyone for herself.

The man devotes more time at his office to prove himself as the most dedicated and efficient officer..Herein he gets attracted and attached to a lady colleague thereby developing a tender relationship... Compares his wife with the lady colleague and castigates the former for being uncivilised, dull and charmless. Whereas he finds the lady at office to be smart intelligent charming and well maintained. As time goes by his lust for the lady dares him to leave his wife and live in with his new found love.

Friends, many such cases have come forward, Nowadays couples who have celebrated silver jubilee of their togetherness have separated for want of freshness and lust in new partner.

So marriage is a difficult institution only when both the partners are prepared to accept each other and compromise should go for it.

This!

I don't know what the actual definition of love is, still exploring it but it has become very conditioned. I think you attract those people in your life, who are vibrationaly match to you and subconsciously who can fill the void you desire. When that "wholeness" comes in, which partner brings along - you feel completed. That experience people name it as love imo. But then i think with time some people evolve and manages to fill that void by themselves, so would that person be still in love with their partner if they can fill the need by themselves ? That's why we see very unloved couples regardless of divorce.

But then there is different aspect to it specially who are spiritually evolved. When they fall in love or in a relationship where there is no need to fill that void - relationship tends to go towards unconditional love. There is attachment but yet detachment, there is oneness but there is freedom. And when these people choose to be in different path or when things aren't working out - that doesn't mean they don't love - i think they express highest form of love by "letting it go". Letting it go doesn't mean only physically you let that person go - it means emotionally, the control on that person, the hurt, the anger, the resentment, freeing the person from that bond and just be happy for them. Have you seen those couples who look so happy even after divorce and tend to remain friends ? and people question why they even took divorce in 1st place. That's what i am talking about. 😆

So, I really don't think that people who tend to go in different ways - its because they don't love. It could be that there is too much of love. And with the conditional lovers - well, they have done their job of serving, time to nurture other piece of void.

Its possible that couples get into a comfort zone and love or no love they dont want to get out of that familiar zone 😊 If there isnt any compelling reason to separate they may continue to stay together however something may happen that makes them take the step to part ways. That may or may not be accompanied by bitterness towards each other.