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@-Awaari-

Voyager

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Posted: 10 years ago

#51

I came across the intriguing title and its by the curiosity I am here.

And KUDOS to whomsoever is concerned.

I salute the courage of bringing up such an alarming situation in this part of the world.

I was brought up and have lived in 3 different countries during the course of my life.

India stays apart?

Reason,Money! Surprised??

Call of all the poverty stuff,everyone has money.

Everyone has enough money to buy off every single law and not fear it.

And in other places,the fear wins over the money [even if you're the king]

That's why someone manages to sleep peacefully without the ghosts of trauma engulfing them!

And Lets look forward to such a day,I believe that's exactly when write will seem right and wrong will be pointed wrong!

Hats off to all of you anyways 👏

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SRK

@KINGKHANFAN

Rocker

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Posted: 10 years ago

#52

Brilliant topic.

Agree with u completely.

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Tich

@Jin.

Rocker

+ 4

Posted: 10 years ago

#53

Brilliant job by creatives of this post.

Hats off for bringing such sensitive issue which is brushed off under carpets in many Asian countries including India and Pakistan.

Unlike other countries, the reason why marital rape is not considered as a crime in India is not because of age old beliefs of a submissive wife is ideal wife kind of ideology. If that was the case then domestic violence and dowry cases would not have been punishable under law. But the reason is that it is difficult or rather impossible to tell if it was sex or rape between a husband and wife. We already see many fake dowry cases being filed against innocent families by few conniving women. We have to understand that if dowry cases are being difficult to scrutinize and differentiate between genuine and fake ones, then marital rape authenticity is just out of question.

The possible solutions?

Well unfortunately I don't have a solution for this heinous sin.

It is a catch 22 situation where the solution (read punishable under law) aggravates the problem.

Every second woman may just avenge her husband on trivial fights by slapping marital rape against him and he may not be able to defend himself.

People may be scared to marry in our country. A country where marriages are given a huge importance.

Yes, marital rapes are not punishable under law in our country. However, if a woman does not want to have sex with her husband she can get court's stay order before hand, according to which her husband is not allowed to approach her for sexual needs. If he does, then the woman will be medically examined and if rape is proved, then the man will be punished.

I feel it is the only solution for this problem. The lady has to get stay order before hand. For this every woman should be educated or made knowledgeable about her rights. Can we do that? Well, yes. We can.

But, again this is a country where we think about those "chaar log" than ourselves. The society will speak hundred ways on how a lady has got a stay order and is denying her husband his "sexual rights". Will the lady be strong enough to face such criticism? My answer: She should. If she is brave enough to think about when to have sex and if at all to have sex with her husband then she should be brave enough to fight the society too. We cant expect her to be served everything on silver platter. Want a right, fight it!

I personally liked the graphics used in this post. They symbolize the trauma faced by the victims so aptly. I also agree that sex education should be taught in schools, so that young people get first hand information from experts and doctors, not second and third hand and manipulated information through peers or through internet.

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Maria

@x.titli.x

Stunner

+ 13

Posted: 10 years ago

#54

Much needed post! thanks CCs for coming up with such posts which create awareness...

Relation in marriage means loving caring understanding and respecting not afflicting such an atrocious trauma!

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Madhuri

@Viswasruti

Moderator

+ 29

Posted: 10 years ago

#55

We, the People [to be precise women as human beings ] , questioned ,debated , protested , denied , divorced , but it is still prevalent in this modern day society ! Slavery , surrendering our senses to those mindless vultures .Still it is going on and on !

Kudos to the team, amazing work ! This topic is very much needed . I am proud of you all my friends .👏

This thread is thought-provoking one . It is time that people understand that when we say NO, we actually mean it. Learn it, realize the power of it and Live it.

In a way sex education is very much needed in this present day society . Sex should not be a taboo subject, it is an important part in our lives , share it, care it , respect it , express your likes and dislikes in congenial atmosphere , with proper understanding .

If a wife said no , means NO ,that's all ! Marital rape is a crime everywhere and anywhere , irrespective of laws and rules .Marriage does not give a husband to do anything with his partner . We are all humans , so give due respect to your partner , which is necessary to make a beautiful relationship to sustain, to flourish .
Trust me, I'm not from a village and neither my friends here are. We are all from cities and having an educated back ground. Still in many homes it is still prevalent, regularly happening behind the closed doors . It really hurts me to see them like lame lambs , when it comes to marriage and coexistence .

Marriage must be built on love, understanding, sharing and adjustments. Not slavery, not physical force .

Respect your spouse who is giving you your future ,the future generations to the mankind !

My dear Woman, first know what is really right and what rights you are entitled to as a human being , know what you want, speak out , for God's sake , please engage yourself in talking and questioning '.

Thanks for this thread . Very much needed in today's context !👍🏼

Edited by Snehamadhuri - 10 years ago

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Mantasha

@tasha001

Navigator

Posted: 10 years ago

#56

Love the article
Right now in this age its one of the prime concern to take this matter seriously
Like c'mon in this so called technological advance age women are still considered a mere object of pleasure
All this sick

It's very important to have sex education in school for children to learn so children can protect themselves from any abuse
Hats off to u guys for putting such a sensitive topic 👏

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Starry

@.StarryPhoenix

Stunner

+ 7

Posted: 10 years ago

#57

the graphics are too touchy, hats off to the creator👏
and also, the subjct itslf is sensitive, grt wk with the post

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AASUS

@AASUS

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 10 years ago

#58

Ty for informative topic.

Graphics and avs are v apt for topic.

Mou 😃 graphics came out well.

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mythili

@mythil

Beginner

Posted: 10 years ago

#59

Brilliant Job👏

Thanks for making this post

Edited by mythil - 10 years ago

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Janaki

@RamKiSeeta

Achiever

+ 6

Posted: 10 years ago

#60

Great thread! You really hit on all the pointers, but I have just one concern.

You made it seem as if marital rape is something only women go through, and that's not true. I know men who have been raped, and literally no one cares about them. There are no social causes for them, no one who's willing to listen to their story or show any empathy, because there's this ingrained belief in people's mind that RAPISTS are MEN and VICTIMS are WOMEN. Isn't that a wrong concept to put into people's minds? To see women as weak, as victims, is totally against the basic, fundamental aspects of feminism. Neither gender is the perpetrator, and neither gender is the victim.

Women can be rapists, and men can be victims too. Marital rape does happen against men, but many women rapists feel it's ok for them to rape their husbands, because no one ever says marital rape is not ok when a woman does it. No man ever feels brave enough to talk about his rape, because people laugh at him for not being "man enough".

This post would have been even better had it been against marital rape in general, not just marital rape against women.

Also, the following comment didn't sit well with me, because saying women are better than men is no better than what chauvinists feel, that men are better than women. What's the difference between both mindsets? Men are not better than women, women are not better than men. We all are equal. Feminists don't try to be better than men, they try to be equal, so it really gives feminism a bad name when women say they're better than men.