Am I weird for listening to my parents and being a good Indian son?

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Singh23

@Singh23

Voyager

Posted: 10 years ago

Hello all I have something to get off my chest and this forum is the only place I could think of to vent. Your all desi so you'll get where I'm coming from. I used to come on this forum all the time but I don't watch much indian tv anymore.

I'm 28 years old and born and raised in canada to indian parents. I have a great relationship with my parents and have always tried to make them proud I've always tried to me a good indian son, be good be dutiful, honorable, I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, stay out late partying or sleep around (don't wanna be irresponsible and get a disease or something).

Yes I am Canadian and I'm a Punjabi Sikh to these are NOT contradictory identities for me I'm all of them; I genuinely feel our culture is important does a lot of things, our families our ideas of honor.

But lately I've realized that my fellow young Indians really don't care about the things I care about, it seems like there are more young people rebelling and being wild childs then have happy, healthy relationships with there parents and not identity issues.

And this type of thing is put on such a pedestal like its an achievement, I think being a good son, not a white wannabe is much harder.

Okay I hope this post makes sense and isn't just a insane rambling.

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Summer3

@Summer3

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Posted: 10 years ago

I would say you are a great guy ! An obedient and filial son is every parent's dream.

Listening to the parents is generally useful as they want to protect their child.

But as we get on in years and have our own family and lead our own lives our priorities change. There are also social and other pressures to handle.

It is not always easy to follow the guidelines set by your parents, so most people tend to compromise a bit here are there, and cut corners.

Problems always arise when what we wish to do and what our parents want us to do are in conflict. In such a case perhaps some adjustments can be made. For example if you need to live on your own perhaps you can ensure you do not stay too far from your parents and also visit them at least once a week.