Is SHAADI.COM reliable? Is it SHADY? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Shaitan-Haiwan

My issue is, with shaadi.com and the authenticity of these claims. There have been many cases of fraud that have occurred because of this website and that is what makes me apprehensive in this particular situation. If you ran into someone in person, and after a few dates she/he told you about the "past", I would find it normal. But here, you have no option but to think that there is a ulterior motive. Its hard to judge someone online, so I personally wouldn't take the chance. Its different when you are face to face with someone, and you can take into considerations their body language, tone and your own gut feelings.

Online interactions do not have certain aspects of in-person meetings, so I do not think you are wrong to politely decline.

I think it depends, you know.

Originally posted by: King-Anu

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I am not clear how this site works but if there are frauds I won't put blame on the website but people involved. I think the purpose of such sites isto initiate a contact.Lets say if Mr. Profusion finds a girl and likes the picture I don't think he will start running towards her singing a romantic song and next day they will be married.

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He would probably make more contact, talk, meet, involve family, then meet, take time and with time a solid decision would be taken. If this is not done then blame goes to people and not site.

In short these websites do translate into real life in the end so there is consideration of body language, tone etc. Unless someone wants to marry in virtual life. Now I have seen such incidences as well lol but they are for fun

<div><font color="#0000ff">@ ulterior motive. I dont see how there can be an ulterior motive with this post. If anything the sister mentioned about 2 divorces and they are nor hiding it. This decreases their chance of future marriages/relationships. It makes it difficult. There can be cases where person is put into such situation due to bad luck. At very least they are being honest</font>

<font color="#0000ff">If you dont want to take a risk fine. I get it. However I wont doubt these people. As I said earlier they have the right to have a great future. If it is not with you fine. Maybe someone will understand.</font>

Well that's your opinion. I personally would hold the website itself accountable for cases of fraud. What you are saying is like saying I wont blame a bank if an employee steals money, the bank still has a considerable amount of liability. I treat this the same, I would think Shaadi.com would take fraud seriously and they should. Whether or not the people are fraudsters or not, they have a duty to ensure their website is free of that kind of stuff. Obviously that's hard task and I don't know if they are even REQUIRED to uphold that, but regardless IN MY OPINION they should.

Secondly, I know what the website requires and nowhere did I mention anything about anyone running anywhere, so that part of your comment is irrelevant.

I don't think you understood what I meant by ulterior motive. I was just speaking generally. You never know what someone is saying online, maybe its the half truth, maybe the whole story has been tweaked to make the person look better. Maybe in this case she had 2 divorces because she herself is the problem. No offence to anyone, you can never be sure. Just because someone is forthcoming with information doesn't mean that the itself information is the truth.

That's the way scammers get you, that's their ammo. Using the "honest" card. Its a typical sign of deluding people and getting people to believe what they said.

And do not twist my words. I never said people with a past shouldn't have a good future or be happy. I don't know where you got that from my message. My main point is that you cant blindly trust people in general. I'm sure there are good people out there, who have met their soulmates and all, but I have heard more bad than good when it comes to online dating websites. I work in the Fraud and Investigations department for a reputable company, So I think I would know what I am talking about.

To hold Shaadi.com solely responsible for all fraud is like holding a bank responsible for customers cheating each other. Legally and ethically Shaadi.com is bound to prevent fraud. Shaadi.com does hold to privacy and confidentiality standards. Shaadi.com does have reporting options for suspicious activity. Shaadi.com will investigate serious allegations.

It is just like Craigslist or E-Bay. It offers an intermediary service for two people to connect to each other. Once you are connected, you have some responsibility to exercise reasonable caution. If you blindly believe every comment/post on Shaadi.com, it is your fault, not the websites.

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

To hold Shaadi.com solely responsible for all fraud is like
holding a bank responsible for customers cheating each other. Legally and
ethically Shaadi.com is bound to prevent fraud. Shaadi.com does hold to privacy
and confidentiality standards. Shaadi.com does have reporting options for suspicious
activity. Shaadi.com will investigate serious allegations.

It is just like Craigslist or E-Bay. It offers an intermediary
service for two people to connect to each other. Once you are connected, you
have some responsibility to exercise reasonable caution. If you blindly believe
every comment/post on Shaadi.com, it is your fault, not the websites.

Well ofcourse not. You cant hold anyone soley responsible whether its Shaadi or a bank. Im sure they don't want to invite people to fraud others.

But like I said, there does need to be some sort of monitoring or process to prevent and/or take action against cheating or fraud cases. From your post, it sounds like they do, so that's good!

Originally posted by: LoveProfusion

Why do you always suspect me? 😡

Well, blame your threads and replies. Not my fault that you come across a young teen, you know 12-13 yr old 😆

@LoveProfusion, I will write based on your first post. This is an important question which you asked in this forum and the experiences others had of shaadi.com and websites when they share their experiences can benefit many others.

Originally posted by: maha2us

And I learn, the hardest point. I will find the right loving person if I am looking to extend the love within me and not if I am seeking love. Will you be able to say, instead of 'I am looking for love', 'I like to share the love, I have within me.' Know that, you have lot of love within you. When some woman puts an ad in any website, she too may be looking for love. If you say, you are looking for love, do you believe you have no love within you and the woman whom you meet has love inside her? When you answer this question honestly and know your truth, you will get the true love Each person who likes to marry has to accept that he/she has love inside and he/she wants to love someone. If he/she believes he/she has no love and the other person who will be his/her partner has all the love, he/she will meet with disaster in the marriage. This applies to both male and female.

Cheers and Good Luck to you for finding the dream girl of your life,

A few of us recently convinced a friend to join shaadi.com, we even got him to pay the 6 month subscription fee and we were convinced he'd find someone. What surprised me was that a large amount of profiles are actually created by brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers etc. So while I agree that when you marry someone, you marry their family, to meet/interact with the family before meeting the guy/girl would be a personal turn off for me. (Though I realise this is seen as culturally appropriate for many Indians and Pakistanis) and quite honestly, I'm not a big fan of the concept. Majority of people will reject someone based on their profile picture. In reality, yes, an attraction is needed but you get to know more about someone than just their face before you decide never to see them again. At the same time, many people have found their life partners on this website so I don't think it deserves to be the butt of all NRI jokes!