Is SHAADI.COM reliable? Is it SHADY? - Page 2

What a collection Vinzy 😆

i love my patner i marriage the patner ok i search my patner and i love the patner ok thik hai the patner has a graduate ok (I am again clueless but I liked the use of "ok". The person is suffering from "Ok-syndrome")

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Whether it is Shaadi.com or western dating sites like E-Harmony or Match.com, there always is a certain amount of risk associated with it. Most members are genuine and come from decent backgrounds. But there are also many scammers, perverts, sociopaths also lurking out there. You have to proceed with caution, use best judgment and do your homework before proceeding.

When it comes to marriage and relationships it isn't just online sites that have risks. Even traditional arrange marriages can end up in abusive relationships, cheating or conning for money.

As for the other questions. Everyone has set expectations in a relationship. Personally for me it doesn't matter if the person is a divorcee, abuse victim or even a rape victim. If I click with a person and there is genuine affection and chemistry, the other background factors seem frivolous.

IMO if you are looking for "love" and "see what's out there" I would recommend using the western sites like Match.com, Chemistry.com, E-Harmony, OKCupid etc. These sites have people actually seeking to date, fall in love and marriage is on the books only if it works out. Shaadi.com, BharatMatrimony and other south Asian sites are actually for people seeking to get married. People are seeking to find a good significant other from a good family. The concept and approach to love is very different.

Hailllaaa, you're out to get married ? 😲 Baal Vivaah ? 😲

Originally posted by: Avocado.Girl.

Hailllaaa, you're out to get married ? 😲 Baal Vivaah ? 😲

Originally posted by: Avocado.Girl.

Baal Vivaah ? 😲

Originally posted by: LoveProfusion

I am shocked by SHAADI.COM and the responses I get for my ad. 😕 There are lots of people on there trying to find a partner. This is the kind of response I got today for my ad:

"My sister went to USA on a Fiance Visa and got married in 2002. Her husband abused her both physically and mentally. Then she was rescued by the COPS in a dangerous

condition. After this event (approximately 5 months after her marriage) her husband applied
for divorce which never ended until 2008. This was an arranged marriage and the groom and his family is known to our family. She went through many hurdles in her life and Mr. Makkar,
a punjabi person helped her during the economic hardship. To return him this favor my sister agreed to help him by sponsoring Makkar's brother on family petition. This was an understanding between the parties involved and there was no real relationship. The first divorce got finalized in 2008, and the second one in 2010."

I politely declined, at least someone was being honest. But, I say I am looking for love. Would you want to be with someone who had an abusive marriage?

Please share your thoughts as this is a serious topic and I value all your opinions from all forums.

Great topic,

I don't think there is anything wrong with accepting someone with a past. A lot of people go through different things in life, and a lot of those things are not even their fault. We shouldn't judge. At least that's the way I think.

There are some matrimonial ads today that even say they want the girl to be a virgin. Which I find ridiculous, I personally don't care if the girl is a virgin or not, because if shes expected to be a virgin, then I should be one too.

My issue is, with shaadi.com and the authenticity of these claims. There have been many cases of fraud that have occurred because of this website and that is what makes me apprehensive in this particular situation. If you ran into someone in person, and after a few dates she/he told you about the "past", I would find it normal. But here, you have no option but to think that there is a ulterior motive. Its hard to judge someone online, so I personally wouldn't take the chance. Its different when you are face to face with someone, and you can take into considerations their body language, tone and your own gut feelings.

Online interactions do not have certain aspects of in-person meetings, so I do not think you are wrong to politely decline.