A few questions

1)How does life change after marriage??

2)Does life necessarily change after marriage?(Barring the in laws angle😊,how does life really change(if it at all does) after marriage.)

In the recent debator versus debator,we had divagated alot and had debated about the importance of marriage and also about the differences between a marriage and live in relationships…I was wondering if we could debate more on this issue😛…….

3)Are live in relationships as impregnable as marriages are supposed to be??

4)Why is it that some people prefer live in relationships to marriages??

5)Is love the ultimate essential factor in a marriage,or is it the duteousness and fidelity??

6)Digressing a bit,is it possible to love a person without knowing him/her in and out..meaning to say,is it possible to love(a la spousal love) somebody who one doesn't know personally(a ka liking Eijaz khan etc and calling that true love and not infatuation😕)

7)How easy is it(or is it possible at all) to forget the person whom one loved,but could not marry????😭

8)Your take on blind fan craze that some stars enjoy,which borderlines on worship😕

9)Is it just natural that when we like a person,we turn a blind eye to all their faults

10)edited😆🤢😭

Originally posted by: abhijit shukla

'Husband' stands for 'Has' and 'Band.'. He has to srater and stop laughing when the wife tells him to.

Abhijit i beg to differ. (and its nice to know some one else who knows this whole hasi- band joke😉) See my Hubby has been clearly taught by me that when he came into my life he made my "Hasi- Band". He made me frown and troubled me.😆😆 I always spring it on him and he always uses it on me when he wants to drive me crazy.😆

Originally posted by: Buffie

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Originally posted by: Buffie

1)How does life change after marriage?? I have no practical experience so everything i say here is pure speculation. I think that after marriage you have to start compromising more on issues because you are in a relationship and it has to be give and take.

2)Does life necessarily change after marriage?(Barring the in laws angle😊,how does life really change(if it at all does) after marriage.) I think I answered this already in the first one.

In the recent debator versus debator,we had divagated alot and had debated about the importance of marriage and also about the differences between a marriage and live in relationships…I was wondering if we could debate more on this issue😛……. Ah while in the debate we were digressing now we can actually discuss this. I dont think there is a difference between marriage and live-in relationship except the legality of marriage. If two people are in a committed relationship then they dont need marriage. A committed relationship offers the same amount of love, fidelity, caring, understanding and companionship that marriage does. Marrige doesnt necessarily mean that people will care about each other. The only difference is that marriages are recognized legally.

3)Are live in relationships as impregnable as marriages are supposed to be?? A live-in relationships offer the same amount of impregnability as marriage (except for the legality) because all relationships are made by people and if two people love each other and are faithful then there relationship is just as strong as any marriage. Marriages break up all the time because the people who are married dont love each other or aren't faithful or dont care about each other, thus marriage doesnt offer impregnability but people do that.

4)Why is it that some people prefer live in relationships to marriages??Well I know so many people who find them unnecessary, they say that they are in committed relationships with each other and dont need to prove that to anyone else. Other than that I see no harm in marrying but that doesnt mean marriage is necessary. Marriage is something that if you have then its great but if not it doesnt really matter.

5)Is love the ultimate essential factor in a marriage,or is it the duteousness and fidelity??Ah the eternal romantic is saying that but love is not enough. Relationships need so much more than love. There has to be caring, willingness to stick with each other thru the good, the bad and the crappy. There has to be fidelity, devotion, companionship an understanding. Love is a great thing to have but it in itself is not enough.

6)Digressing a bit,is it possible to love a person without knowing him/her in and out..meaning to say,is it possible to love(a la spousal love) somebody who one doesn't know personally(a ka liking Eijaz khan etc and calling that true love and not infatuation😕) I dont think wat peopel feel towards stars or people they dont know is love. I mean that is definitely infatuation and adoration is to an intense degree, because love is a stronger and more encompassing emotion which accepts people's faults and problems but that comes with knowing someone to begin with.

7)How easy is it(or is it possible at all) to forget the person whom one loved,but could not marry????😭I think we always remember the people we feel that we love and we lost due to whatever reason.

8)Your take on blind fan craze that some stars enjoy,which borderlines on worship😕I think that is crazy (sorry if i offended anyone). I mean stars are just people and these guys and girls go crazy over them and do the stupidest things for them. I honesty dont get how people act that stupid.

9)Is it just natural that when we like a person,we turn a blind eye to all their faults I dont think that we turn a blind eye to their faults but we are more accepting of them because we love them. The things they do dont bother us that much because we are more capable of forgiving those we love thus their faults dont seem that bad.

10)can everything(meaning every small detail) be divulged to the spouse😉I dont think so. I think there are certain things that people are just better off not knowing about you be it your spouse or anyone else. That doesnt necessarily mean bad things or things you are ashamed of but just things that u dont want to share.

Originally posted by: Buffie

1)How does life change after marriage??

Well it changes in some ways 1) you stop thinking of your self as an individual and feel like aq couple. You plan things together 2) You compromise. .3) Often if you live with in-laws you have to bring in a lot more to the relationship as you are sharing and compromising with other members of the family too. 4) You start enjoying some new experiences . 4) you hate some new ones 5 ) some people have to give up lots like their friends (i did not). But i know some friends that did.

2)Does life necessarily change after marriage?(Barring the in laws angle😊,how does life really change(if it at all does) after marriage.)

Answered in the first. For some people its a 100% change, for others its not that huge. But change it is !! Especially for a girl !!

In the recent debator versus debator,we had divagated alot and had debated about the importance of marriage and also about the differences between a marriage and live in relationships…I was wondering if we could debate more on this issue😛…….

Haan ji we could. go ahead and post a seperate topic if you wish.

3)Are live in relationships as impregnable as marriages are supposed to be??

Well no Marriage is completely impregnable too. I would say if love trust, faith and compatibility is strong then they both stand on the same ground.

4)Why is it that some people prefer live in relationships to marriages??

Its because they don't need a piece of paper to justify their love.(In the words of a friend who explained why she was happy living in)

5)Is love the ultimate essential factor in a marriage,or is it the duteousness and fidelity??

Love, compromise, friendship, understanding, caring, respect , fidelity all are equal pillars of a marriage. Even with out one the marriage is on shaky grounds.

6)Digressing a bit,is it possible to love a person without knowing him/her in and out..meaning to say,is it possible to love(a la spousal love) somebody who one doesn't know personally(a ka liking Eijaz khan etc and calling that true love and not infatuation😕)

I believe this is immaturity and infatuation.

7)How easy is it(or is it possible at all) to forget the person whom one loved,but could not marry????😭

I have friends who got over their first love as they married better people and didn't have residues from the past(Kids) to remind them of these first loves.
I can't say for all. If one is dis-satisfied in their marriage they may long for their first love or any other love besides the one they are bound to.

8)Your take on blind fan craze that some stars enjoy,which borderlines on worship😕

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9)Is it just natural that when we like a person,we turn a blind eye to all their faults

Well some fools do. I personally don't and love pointing out the faults my hubby has much to his chagrin.😆

10)can everything(meaning every small detail) be divulged to the spouse😉

hehe !!! You want to put your foot in your mouth so go ahead !! Later you will regret !!😉