A few questions - Page 2

Originally posted by: Buffie

If we could have more takers 😉

Originally posted by: Buffie

1)How does life change after marriage??

In some simple ways

* all the essential and major decisions that influence life / living involve 2 people, rather than just yourself. It has a great benefit as well as a downside to it, depending on what you prefer as a single / ultimately plan as a couple.. there may be a change.
* the constant sharing of almost everything (bed, comforter 😡, TV remote ) etc can be very annoying / very cuteee.. depending on the mood. it definitely is a change though.

* if extended family is involved (in-laws / other relatives living together), it can seriously mean thodi khushi, thode gham.. I can see a lot of compromise there 🤢and perhaps big changes??

* for couples living away from family, other factors may require some sort of compromise- for eg trying to find jobs in different fields in a particular city (personally, i think this has been the only change i was forced to do.. and it was / is hard)

* whe u wake up next to the same person EVERYDAY, there is a certain some sweetness on decline. one has to keep working on it. It is a BIG CHANGE from being single / dating --> being married.

* One change in your thought process is that u work and learn to STAY in love. It is easy most of the tims, but at times, everyone .. even people who eloped! will ask themselves" what the hell was i thinking! basically, everything is not about U.. it is about BOTH of U, so yes there are some changes.

2)Does life necessarily change after marriage?(Barring the in laws angle😊,how does life really change(if it at all does) after marriage.)

that depends on the type of person you are and type of person you married. i think that when u marry a friend (myself) changes are minimal.. but for someone who barely knows her fiance, there may be several changes in store! ( i am not promoting love marriage, in fact, with arranged marriage, atleast u get parents to blame 😉)

In the recent debator versus debator,we had divagated alot and had debated about the importance of marriage and also about the differences between a marriage and live in relationships…I was wondering if we could debate more on this issue😛…….

Buffie, I do know that it is banal in India today to ahve such relationships. The India I dwelled in, this was really not so common. I dunno how many wil openly speak for it.. i dunno.

Live in relationship definitely make s you get to know ur spouse inside and out, his daily behaviour, little things that matter later.. its a trailor.. screen teaser.. it can be misleading, but still worth watching.. 😆

PS parent, plz don;t kill me. i am not promoting irresponsible, irrational behaviour here. i did say fiance, not boyfriend😳

3)Are live in relationships as impregnable as marriages are supposed to be??

marriages are supposed to impregnable. u said it right. Blessed / well-thought, suited, worked out marriages indeed are.. Similarly, live-in relationships based on strong virtues also are impregnable.

4)Why is it that some people prefer live in relationships to marriages??

various reasons i guess- financial Tax issues😛, committment issues🤢, family issues🤢,

piece of paper , religious rituals, symbols- mangalsootra sindoor means nothing to some.. they are contended with a strong bond they are happy to share outsdie of a traditional marriage.. 😊

5)Is love the ultimate essential factor in a marriage,or is it the duteousness and fidelity??

All these and many many more as aparna listed.. Marriage is not at all easy. It needs some work if you want it to shine.. Love, respect, emotional bonding, physical attraction, committment, agreement on IMPORTANT things and priorities in life.. all these are essential. Fidelity just tags along EASILY when all the above is present ( Plus there is no Abhishek bachchan in town 😉 )

6)Digressing a bit,is it possible to love a person without knowing him/her in and out..meaning to say,is it possible to love(a la spousal love) somebody who one doesn't know personally(a ka liking Eijaz khan etc and calling that true love and not infatuation😕)

That is extremely immature behaviour.

7)How easy is it(or is it possible at all) to forget the person whom one loved,but could not marry????😭

Many might say "i forgot". i may say "i din;t" i can also say that it made me a much better mellower nicer softer person.. & some will agree.
I guess it is not necessary to forget them when you find something "that good" or "even better". you can smile about it and move on.. Life brings so many people for you to share certain special feelings. Why forget something you once treasured? Let your past not get mixed in your present to destroy your future. that's all one has to do. i don;t think anybody truly forgets their INVESTED relationships, unless they became terribly nasty before break up.. and its okay.

8)Your take on blind fan craze that some stars enjoy,which borderlines on worship😕

Yikes!!! (only dude who deserves that kind of worship is baby bachchan.. ) Other fans are borderline crazy 😉

9)Is it just natural that when we like a person,we turn a blind eye to all their faults

Hahahah.. Yes , when we are dating / betrothed.. / newly wed ...

every fault comes under a magnifying glass later on.. and here we can talk about changes again

10)can everything(meaning every small detail) be divulged to the spouse😉

Depends on what this "secret" is really! it better not affect your lives together.. if it is a girly issue from planet venus while men are from mars, yeah, i don;t divulge it to my husband. i think it's healthy. why get him all ryled over something he'll never understand being an XY dumbo 😉

Originally posted by: abhijit shukla

😊 Bumping

very unfair only one is required😆, but yes this is serious, so I can understand why had to use both😉

Originally posted by: Buffie

1)How does life change after marriage??

Ever heard the phrase "from fire to frying pan"

2)Does life necessarily change after marriage?(Barring the in laws angle😊,how does life really change(if it at all does) after marriage.)

you have to share the remote, you have to maintain a "honeybee's" nest inside the home, If that does not matter, well it does not

In the recent debator versus debator,we had divagated alot and had debated about the importance of marriage and also about the differences between a marriage and live in relationships…I was wondering if we could debate more on this issue😛…….

sure, sure

3)Are live in relationships as impregnable as marriages are supposed to be??

the play on words was intentional I guess😉

Yes, If a live in relationship lasts over the "certifiable" time, it becomes as much

4)Why is it that some people prefer live in relationships to marriages??

Probably the live-in relationships do not go on books, maybe thats the reason

5)Is love the ultimate essential factor in a marriage,or is it the duteousness and fidelity??

define love

but affection, care for the other person certainly is, needed, I mean

6)Digressing a bit,is it possible to love a person without knowing him/her in and out..meaning to say,is it possible to love(a la spousal love) somebody who one doesn't know personally(a ka liking Eijaz khan etc and calling that true love and not infatuation😕)

expectations always lead to frustrations

7)How easy is it(or is it possible at all) to forget the person whom one loved,but could not marry????😭

Pass.........😆

8)Your take on blind fan craze that some stars enjoy,which borderlines on worship😕

huh, is this a googly? Or a fulltoss on middle and off? especially ..............😆

9)Is it just natural that when we like a person,we turn a blind eye to all their faults

sure, point out a fault of Hrithik/Abhishek and see the result😉

10)edited😆🤢😭

I will double that😉

Originally posted by: sareg

very unfair only one is required😆, but yes this is serious, so I can understand why had to use both😉

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Originally posted by: Buffie

1)How does life change after marriage??

2)Does life necessarily change after marriage?(Barring the in laws angle😊,how does life really change(if it at all does) after marriage.)

In the recent debator versus debator,we had divagated alot and had debated about the importance of marriage and also about the differences between a marriage and live in relationships…I was wondering if we could debate more on this issue😛…….

3)Are live in relationships as impregnable as marriages are supposed to be??

4)Why is it that some people prefer live in relationships to marriages??

5)Is love the ultimate essential factor in a marriage,or is it the duteousness and fidelity??

6)Digressing a bit,is it possible to love a person without knowing him/her in and out..meaning to say,is it possible to love(a la spousal love) somebody who one doesn't know personally(a ka liking Eijaz khan etc and calling that true love and not infatuation😕)

7)How easy is it(or is it possible at all) to forget the person whom one loved,but could not marry????😭

8)Your take on blind fan craze that some stars enjoy,which borderlines on worship😕

9)Is it just natural that when we like a person,we turn a blind eye to all their faults

10)edited😆🤢😭

Nice questions ,I need some months of time to answer these questions !!