Are you UNHAPPY with your LIFE?!! - Page 3

Originally posted by: maha2us

Sara Singh, I am also with you and I can quite understand you. I myself am going through painful break up with my wife. May be when I got married, I would have said I gave 200% in the relationship. But the point is the relationship does not work, if there is no balance between giving and receiving. Relationship works only when I take care of myself and am gentle on myself. Throughout the marriage, my wife used to accuse me a lot but during that period I used to feel guilty also for not being able to satisfy her. That was unhealthy from my side. What I didn't know then was what is in for my Highest good is the same for my wife's Highest good also.

Relationship works when both the partners first take care of themselves, love and value themselves and then radiate that love to the other partner. But not by giving away a lot. I learn this in a hard way. But one thing I know now is, if I am to go for a relationship again, the first thing I do is try to understand my partner and know more about her outlooks and based on that I can learn whether she will be happy in relationship. I know that I will be fully committed and I will improve being more and more caring, compassionate, gentle, tender and understanding with anyone but still she will be happy only if she is committed to take care of herself and being loving and valuing herself instead of expecting me to value her.

Originally posted by: sarasingh86

Moreover I am emotional fool too. I give 200% to relationships contrary to what people around me do. I expect them to do show same amount of passion as I do which they can't because they are not made like that n they can't be me bz they are what they are. I know that very well n I need to stop expecting from people and rather change myself first or kick them out of my life. Yes I do feel that Life is a b****** but what can I or anybody do ...we have to deal with it and move on. Its easy to do say but at least the thought motivates you to learn and improve current situation

Originally posted by: nishu786

Sara 🤗...Nice to see you here after long time.

Don't blame yourself for being an emotional fool. At some point in life,everyone goes through same phase. Expecting from your loved ones & close friends are normal,but most time expectations leads to disappointment. We can't blame the other person always for disappointing us,they never asked us to expect anything from them in first place. But it's hard to make them understand that sometime one can't help,but start expecting from their closed ones or with whom we are emotionally attached.

We can only have expectation from ppl whom we know well or trust. But now my experience is that,it's better not to expect anything at all. Just do what you want to in life & live life in your terms. Don't try to change yourself for other person. Bcoz if they value you & value the relationship they share with you,they will stick with you & love you for what you are. If they don't value you,then doesn't matter how much you change yourself,they will walk out of your life sooner or later.

It's better not to depend on anyone for your happiness. Don't hold onto their memories,let them go,or you will never be able to move on completely in life.

It's quite strange but true that we end up writing more about those who hurt us than those who love us. Sometimes, life becomes all about an act of letting go. It will be wrong if we are upset bcoz of those who know how we felt,but don't care about our feelings.

I read one quote,& i truly believe this.

"Some scars, they start healing when you stop taking care of them."

Edit:- Typo

Originally posted by: enigmatic_zephy

Did you ask Sobti's fans 😆

Jise aap itna pyaar karein aur wo aapki aankhon ke samne na ho to..

#An example of unconditional love unfulfilled..or may be superconditional love 😆