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So what attracts you to someone else (from a relationship point of view)... similarities or differences? And why?
Or what's better in general? Having a partner with mostly similar hobbies/personality or someone who is different than you? And why?
P.S. You can't choose both...
To begin with.. for me, I feel the clear choice is similarities.. I've noticed that when someone has different tastes than mine, I often don't enjoy what they're doing and vice-versa and there's a compatibility problem... even then, for their sake, I will probably do it to make them happy.. but there comes a point of time when you want to do something that you like and that person doesn't.. and if they refuse to join you in that, you're left with no other option but to sacrifice doing it.. or do it alone.. or do it with someone else..
Over the long run, this creates problems.. because somewhere down the line, you expect the other person to also do the things you like, especially when you do all the things they like without any hesitation.. and when you don't get it back, you start feeling they're selfish and don't care about the things you like or want to do.. for example, watching Bollywood movies or going for art exhibitions or anything like that..
So yes, I feel it's better to have someone with similar likes/hobbies rather than conflicting ones... especially when one partner is strictly adamant on NOT DOING THE THINGS YOU LIKE even when you're doing all the things they like.. Ofcourse some people will argue here that maybe you shouldn't expect someone to do the things you like and never force them, but imagine how does it feel when you do everything they like BUT the things you like doing don't get any participation from your better half... doesn't it become very one-sided because you're not able to enjoy the things you like with the one you love?
Thoughts?
Friends, yeah probably both are important but this debate is to know what's more important so however difficult it may be, please choose the more important one 😉
Or what's better in general? Having a partner with mostly similar hobbies/personality or someone who is different than you? And why?
P.S. You can't choose both...
To begin with.. for me, I feel the clear choice is similarities.. I've noticed that when someone has different tastes than mine, I often don't enjoy what they're doing and vice-versa and there's a compatibility problem... even then, for their sake, I will probably do it to make them happy.. but there comes a point of time when you want to do something that you like and that person doesn't.. and if they refuse to join you in that, you're left with no other option but to sacrifice doing it.. or do it alone.. or do it with someone else..
Over the long run, this creates problems.. because somewhere down the line, you expect the other person to also do the things you like, especially when you do all the things they like without any hesitation.. and when you don't get it back, you start feeling they're selfish and don't care about the things you like or want to do.. for example, watching Bollywood movies or going for art exhibitions or anything like that..
So yes, I feel it's better to have someone with similar likes/hobbies rather than conflicting ones... especially when one partner is strictly adamant on NOT DOING THE THINGS YOU LIKE even when you're doing all the things they like.. Ofcourse some people will argue here that maybe you shouldn't expect someone to do the things you like and never force them, but imagine how does it feel when you do everything they like BUT the things you like doing don't get any participation from your better half... doesn't it become very one-sided because you're not able to enjoy the things you like with the one you love?
Thoughts?
Friends, yeah probably both are important but this debate is to know what's more important so however difficult it may be, please choose the more important one 😉
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