Why do we look down upon 'ghar jamai'? - Page 3

Originally posted by: shikara

Mythilliji I respect your opinion but I disagree. You are only reinforcing the stereotype as to why this stigma exists.

If the Girl is only daughter and no sons in and around and if those parents are sick then its okeven then Girls parents can come and stay in Son in law's house.

My 1st point:

I am an only child so my parents have no sons to look after them but even if I had brothers why is it only their res@nponsibility to look after our parents. My mother went through the same difficulty to give birth to me. My parents spent the same amount of money, love and tears to raise me and make me an independent woman who can stand on her own 2 feet.
As much as my husband owes to his parents I owe to mine. and I have a duty to do as much for them as he has to his.

2nd point:

stay in Son in law's house.

I was under the impression that after marriage the house belongs to btoh the wife and the husband so it is as much the duaghter house as the son-inj-laws.

My 3rd point:

When we hear so much about the inferior tratment of girls , isnt it the reposibility of us educated folks to break at least small stereotypes so that we may bring about a little change in society. It takes a small drop in the pond to create ripples.

I didnt mean to offend anybody and if I have I sincerely apoligise.

First let me clarify one point!!! I'm not married yet!!! This is just my view.

I'm not saying Girls need not serve parents and its only the responsibility of Sons.All are equal and all share same duties and rights😳

I'm not here to change the Indian system of marriage in which Girls go and stay in her husband's house,I'm not interested in rewriting the history or bring dramatic changes in marriage system because the present system is OK for me.Parents can stay wherever they want.However ,I think I'm very very orthodox in this matter.

Hope I did'nt hurt anyone and Shikara ji ! So sweet of you!!!Love and affection towards parents is the most important quality I like in any person.I liked this quality of you very much.

cheers,

Mythili

Originally posted by: abhijit shukla

No harm living with in-laws as long as the couple is pulling their own weight and providing for their own food and shelter. Living with parents for a marride couple is unacceptable - weather with husband's or wife's parents - if the parents are still providing for either or both of them.

People ought to be productive before they can be re-productive.

well-said. ghar-jamai always appeared to me as a term used for husbands living off of wife's parents's wealth / is dependent on them for everything. that to me, is something to look down upon!

Ifthe man is facing Destiny's unfair and unfortunate physical challenge due to which he has become incapable of supporting his family and the wife cannot support either, it is okay, not otherwise!

Ghar-jamai is a spineless, weak individual who cant make it on his own and wishes to be supported by a total stranger for his livelyhood.... There is no more shameless thing than that....woh kya kahate hai chullu bhar pani mey... 😊

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

Ghar-jamai is a spineless, weak individual who cant make it on his own and wishes to be supported by a total stranger for his livelyhood.... There is no more shameless thing than that....woh kya kahate hai chullu bhar pani mey... 😊

Ya to phir haathon me chudiyaan pahen lena 😉

On a serious note there is nothing wrong with man being "Ghar Jamai" . If Woman-Bahu can go and live with Saas Sasur why can't man-Jamai do that?? 😛

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Ya to phir haathon me chudiyaan pahen lena 😉

On a serious note there is nothing wrong with man being "Ghar Jamai" . If Woman-Bahu can go and live with Saas Sasur why can't man-Jamai do that?? 😛

come on you cant equate the two... men have something called a self-respect....

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

come on you cant equate the two... men have something called a self-respect....

U means women don't have it ????

Originally posted by: qwertyesque

come on you cant equate the two... men have something called a self-respect....

You mean to tell me women do not have self-respct 😳 or they just lose it as soon as they get married to the MCP 😡 🤢 😆

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

You mean to tell me women do not have self-respct 😳 or they just lose it as soon as they get married to the MCP 😡 🤢 😆

aila no i dint say dat..😆😆😆

Originally posted by: tania.ganguly

Did that bangled fist hit you quite hard? 😆Would like to give you the opportunity to elaborate on that "men having self-respect" before I say something.

Tisha

Qwerty Did not expect that from MOI 😳 😉 😛

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

You mean to tell me women do not have self-respct 😳 or they just lose it as soon as they get married to the MCP 😡 🤢 😆

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