polygamy and Purdah - Woman's view? - Page 2

Thanks for the interesting facts on how polygamy came in to being .
Goth princess 😆 Sweety there is so much for you to still learn , am glad this forum helps. 😊

Another question - polygamy - Does any one know a first wife ? How does she feel about her hubby's second ?

My experience , in India , my Chairman - who was a Muslim of a multiNational( won't mention details as his name is famous) . Had a Sikh wife( not converted ) and a hindu second wife . All we know is that he lived with wife No:2 , and wife No:1 was taken out for all official function at work .( Ofcourse lots of people giggled about "one in the hand and one in the bush" . One is displayed as a trophy and another one is a working wife . I knew wife no:1 very well . ( i couldn't ask her personal stuff) but always wondered what she felt)

purdah question - Is it mandatory in Pakistani schools and Colleges for girls to wear them ?

P.S - Thanks for being understanding and not misundersatnding my intention to know the other culture. 😳

well, im still learning, but im only little yet 😳
i dont know if u have to do purdah in Pakistani schools and Colleges, but most ppl would wear atleast a head scarf

well, i know one person who had more than one wife, but wen she found out she divorced him, and he wasnt treated her fairly, im sure he wanted divorce, he would beat her etc. so i guess thats a sin, right cos he was suppose to treat them equally and dop wotever he could for both of them

Originally posted by: Aparna_BD

purdah question - Is it mandatory in Pakistani schools and Colleges for girls to wear them ?

LOL aparna di...NO!!...haha i went 2 pak over da summer and its no way near wat i thot it wud b like...lol...maybe cuz i went 2 a big city (karachi) i dunno if such things r done in rural areas but in karachi its not mandatory

Purdah means covering its a general term...by wearing it do u mean da loong burka coat? or da whole veil and everything? or jus a hijab(head-scarf)

Originally posted by: ~PaKi*PrInCeZ~

LOL aparna di...NO!!...haha i went 2 pak over da summer and its no way near wat i thot it wud b like...lol...maybe cuz i went 2 a big city (karachi) i dunno if such things r done in rural areas but in karachi its not mandatory

Purdah means covering its a general term...by wearing it do u mean da loong burka coat? or da whole veil and everything? or jus a hijab(head-scarf)

Sorry Jav , dear i probably sound like once this boy i was tutoring in a homeless shelter "asked me ," aren't you supposed to be wearing that thingy on your head ....like some cloth". I have no idea what he meant , what was he confusing me with .....some turban wearing snake charmer may be ????!!😆😆

lolz yea sumtymes pplz associate weird things with our culture/religion lolz itz ok u jus wanted 2 noee

Originally posted by: Aparna_BD

Purdah - Islam wants the women to be covered .Are there women who cover themselves and feel covering themselves curbs their rights . Or do you feel its a good way to feel secure against one wanted stares etc . From a woman's point of view would like to hear an Islamic woman's point of view ,

OK so i think its abt time i talk abt this issue as well.....

there r certain levels 2 "purdah" and den der r da extreme cases...did u know dat technically women r NOT supposed 2 wear da veil over der faces? im sure many of u r surprised. well ders nuttin against it or in favor of it..but during Namaz prayer and Visiting da Kabah durin Hajj women cant have der face covered....so if itz not allowed durin such holy and religious events y shud it b implemented in2 daily life? im not sayin its wrong or nething jus sayin dat da veil over da face is unnecessary and makes us muslims luk opressed and stuff.

this typical image of an "opressed" Muslim woman really pisses me off...i mean not every1 is like tht and media makes ud luk soo bad.

ok i prolly sound like sum1 hus against all this but im not..lol infact i wear a hijab myself....but i dun think u need 2 go overbaod with the whole veil and burka and everything. I guess it depends on da individual's circumstances and situation..if ppl r forced 2 wear it n dey dun wanna den i guess dey c it as oppression. But i Luv it...its soo much kewler 2 b different den 2 b like every1 else..lol...i like wearing a hijab and im sure all those hu chose 2 wear it on der own feel da same way. I c it as a protection. i mean c'mon if ur walking down da street and ur all covered a weirdo stalker is less likely 2 b interested in u den sum other grl walkin beside u in a tanktop and a mini. Itz kewl cuz it also makes ppl curious abt wat it is and dey ask me stuff or ppl c it and already know im a Muslim so dey ask me questions and i luv xplainin abt mah religion 2 oda ppl its soo fun..lol (maybe dats y topics like this amuse me while others c it as a battle ground) i dun c how it can b an opression...i mean its not stoppin u frm doing nething..i wear i hijab but i still go 2 skool and will go 2 college and thn on 2 da professional world...i know many many ppl hu r successful and have dun a lot in der life and dey wear a Hijab head covering and dress Islamically...i dunno y ppl consider it a weakness...i consider it a strength

Its better to live alone than marry a man who already got a wife........(Provided that gal is also surviving)

Originally posted by: Minnie

goth princess, inspite of being a muslim, you did not know of this.....this goes to show that inspite of having the liberty, albeit with restrictions, most of the muslim men do not go for a second wife, neither is it the norm. They love their woman and are mostly faithful to her, which is such a heartwarming revealation. That you have not been exposed to this fact, and those who have don't really know much about it goes on to show that it is not a universal concept celebrated by all muslims.

I beleive that even in the Hindus there are men who would go for a second wife without a blink of an eye, inspite of knowing that it is a punishable offense. Polygamy has been outlawed for centuries in the Hindu society but still the khatriya and the brahmin class practiced it rampantly. However, for the last 1000 years or so, polygamy has all but dissapeared. Now it is consitutionally outlawed in india.

Unfortunately, many Indian Hindu men tried to take advantage of the fact that the Muslim men in India are allowed to take upto four wives. There was a huge controversy few years back,most of this controversy arose from the fact that since polygamy is banned by law for the Hindus,an increasing number of Hindu men had been showing a propensity to convert to Islam whenever they wanted a second wife.

Finally, the Indian Supreme Court on the May 5, 2000 plugged this last legal loophole for good for all potential Hindu bigamists. Now, if it's found that a newly converted Muslim has embraced the faith only to embrace another wife or two, he should be prosecuted under the Hindu Marriage Act and the Indian Penal Code. Thus, bigamy for all Hindus, has been ultimately outlawed.

minne..In hindus, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one. ....Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives....In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives....and you said.."since polygamy is banned by law for the Hindus,an increasing number of Hindu men had been showing a propensity to convert to Islam whenever they wanted a second wife. " its not true.......am not supporting multiple wives but just point out that in hindu religion its not restricted bt indian law is restricted.