Is cancellation of IF ID good or bad? - Page 7

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

Why wouldn't there be no need to cut off all linkages? And why would that equate to trying to be an island? Don't you think that the time spent on the forum is inversely proportional to the time you spend on "real" world and socializing with people in flesh? Which one's better? Of course the latter, isn't it? Quitting I-F cold turkey is absolutely acceptable, irrespective of the reasons behind doing so. If you ask me, anything goes, so long's you're not losing it here. (yeah, yeah, that's what I'm doing right now but still....😆)

Kya baat hai. Thanks for dropping by.

Originally posted by: Summer3

Well to reiterate my point I think we should all maintain our IDs as far as possible unless we have very good grounds. I hate to see the withdrawal of some IDs ( eventhough this is a cyber world).

Some IDs I miss due to their long lay off are ( some do appear once in a blue moon):

1. Kuhu or Koel

2. ROA

3. King Kal

4. Middy

5. Gumsum

6. Antar

7. Cloddy Bhai

8.Google Bhai

9. Mr. K

10. POH

11. Nazia

12. Empty

13. Krystal

14. Shehzaadi

15. Angel

Recently Gauri too has decided to call it a day.

Personally I do not care how many IDs a person has so long as they do not cause problems or confusion. But since the Forum rules only allow one ID , we should just stick to the rules.

Hmm Out of this list I ve never seen Antar, Nazia and Shehzadi. The rest make occasional appearances. Middy and Mr. K have already graced your thread summerbhai 😆 And which Angel are you referring to ? Angel as in Devil - there are two actually Angel like Devil and Angelic devil ? Boy !did I enjoy my arguments with her esp about that temple issue 😆 Or did you mean Angie ?

Originally posted by: Summer3

Kya baat hai. Thanks for dropping by.

Yes Cold Turkey is no good and IF addiction should be cleverly handled.

In office I have a fair bit of time inbetween meetings so I can post a few comments.

DID seems quite dead. SRGMP is under water.

But if members take IF too seriously then they better cut down. We have to get our priorities.

At home I reserve my time for family, unless they are asleep then I may watch TV and IF at the same time. Sometimes it feels as if we can see the other person on the other side of the world thru IF.😆

Originally posted by: psychoboblehead

I disagree too. I will attack some of the replies in a bit.

Thats the spirit Shaks and the Mod says theres no debate 😆

Yes Sunny Bhai I meant Angie our Miss Little Genius. She had plenty on her plate the last I spoke to her.😆

Originally posted by: Summer3

Kya baat hai. Thanks for dropping by.

Yes Cold Turkey is no good and IF addiction should be cleverly handled.

In office I have a fair bit of time inbetween meetings so I can post a few comments.

DID seems quite dead. SRGMP is under water.

But if members take IF too seriously then they better cut down. We have to get our priorities.

At home I reserve my time for family, unless they are asleep then I may watch TV and IF at the same time. Sometimes it feels as if we can see the other person on the other side of the world thru IF.😆

Summer I think you misread Middy. She said it is perfectly acceptable to quit cold turkey. Indeed this is an online forum, barring a rare few most people are just random acquaintances in the passage of time. Addiction or not, I think each individual is in a place to make their own choices on how much time they want to spend time on forums and if they just want to get out altogether. These choices are made by what the individual feels is right for themselves, and should not be influenced by what other forumers want for themselves.

To my understanding, we are still talking about people who were once active members but later decided to deactivate their accounts. The ban (?) is an unintended consequence of that. Whether or not people know about the ban before they requested a deactivation, while relevant to the topic, doesn't necessarily augment to the list of reasons as to why they chose to take such a seemingly drastic measure in the first place.

FYI: Once banned, temporarily or otherwise, a member can neither PM anybody nor reply to scraps. This point is relevant when considering possible reactivation.

Some worldly-wise people, having fully grasped the finer points of life, seem to callously dismiss these deactivation requests with a cavalier tone and a ready-made homily such as "it's an online forum! Who cares?! Let's move on!"

While that outlook is most admirable and comes in handy when facing the cold hard facts of life, one can't help but wonder why would these same people liberally use such emoticons as (🤗, 😆, 😭, 😡, 😉, , 😍) on an online forum?! Either those emotions are phony (who would hug and laugh and cry and wink and spill their guts detailing their daily schedules and travel plans and school curriculum vitae to complete strangers? Who would go out of their way to show that they are embarrassed or they are happy or they are shocked or they are applauding a stranger's thoughts? Who would wish strangers on their birthdays, taking pains and making efforts to copy paste images of cakes and candy and flowers?) Or the attitude that's on display when a member leaves is phony. Which is it?

Sure, there are all kinds of reasons. I cited a few. The others cited a few. The truth is hidden in one of those possibilities. What is not apparent to many, however, is that the person who chose to cancel/deactivate an account is basically making a statement. You could argue that probably they are seeking attention but even seeking attention is the same as making a statement. The statement could be as simple as "you are going to miss me, wait and watch" to something a little more complex like "not all is right with this forum" to something extremely brazen such as "this is my way of giving you people the middle finger!"

The statement itself might not be aimed at just one person. It could be aimed at the general audience too. So who should care? Whoever the requester had in mind. How would anybody know what was on the requester's mind when he/she requested a cancellation/deactivation? Simple. If you care enough, you could easily retrace the events. If you don't, then please be a little more cautious before using emoticons or flirtatious language or engaging in spirited discussions that might leave lasting impressions on some people. You can't be goody-goody one day and pretend not to care the next day. That's just wrong!

Disclaimer: I have zero emotion vested in any of this, because that's just the way I am. I am only speaking on behalf of the others, trying to put myself in their shoes. I could be completely wrong in my assessment and that's a possibility.

I use emoticons because they're there lol Ironically I havent used any emoticons in this post.

Originally posted by: old-black-joe

I use emoticons because they're there lol Ironically I havent used any emoticons in this post.

You loled. 😆 That is verbal emoticons. 😛 Sadly, I used way too many in this post. 😳