Why is Ram known as 'Mardyada Purushottam'? - Page 2

Why Ram is considered MARYADA PURUSHOTTAM?

for many see BANISHMENT OF SITA as a non-ideal husband behaviour

Lord Rama had to banish her away over rumors and gossip. People of Ayodhaya started questioning her fidelity. Lord Rama was now king of Ayodhaya- his first job was to serve the needs of his kingdom, take care of their happiness-this was his RAJADHARMA- which should always be given the topmost priority.

And even if at that time he had not banished Devi Sita it would have led to chaos in Ayodhaya-the same people who were questioning Sita's fidelity would have qustioned Rama's Devotion as a king
that why he gave his wife more importance then his Kingdom? He wouldnt have been an ideal king-which means PEACE OF A WHOLE KINGDOM could have been destroyed easily. Hence his action of Banishing Sita was "only left option"

actually its through these questions and the route to their anwers that I can explain that why Ram is called MARYADA PURUSHOTTAM- that is an ideal human being

see the point is that we say that RAM was an ideal human being and I wanted to justify it
IDEAL HUMAN BEING means being ideal son, ideal husband, ideal brother,ideal student, ideal friend, ideal king even ideal foe... Read More
in totality ideal in every human relation-

but where we are having problem in judging our actual doubt
our actaul doubt is what should have been given "priority"?
the same thing that makes RAM an ideal king is in contradiction to what we say an ideal husbandyes what happened to SITA was surely DISGUSTING but the thing is RAM isnt the CULPRIT its People of AYODHAYA who are cause of separation of RAM and SITA and MISERIES of SITA and not RAM

SITA was LOVE of RAM
he faught with Demon RAVANA to save SITA for he cared for her happiness, her security, her wants, her needs, her emotions if he hadnt then there was no point in rescuing SITA he could have completed his exile with Lakshamana, gone back to Ayodhaya and would have married someone else
he could have lied that SITA had died somehow to people of AYODHAYA and JANAKA
he did care for her that is why he rescued her- that is why he is an ideal lover and an ideal husband
but at that very time he was "only" a husband not a king...

when he banished SITA at that time he was also a KING not only a husband
that very situation was actually a situation of conflict where he had to choose between the welfare of his wife or the welfare of his kingdom and he chose the latter that is why we call him an ideal king
he put forth welfare of his kingdom sacrificing love of his life

firstly, I think now I have explained it enough that what happened was the only possible way to keep AYODHAYA happy
yes those werent IDEAL janta but still this was only possible decision "only left option" BANISHMNT OF SITA
yet even after banishment of SITA he is known as IDEAL HUSBAND also now here people find hard to accept it

some people ask that he could have renounced the throne
No it could have never happened AYODHAYA wanted RAMA to be their KING and no one else
the reason why all of PEOPLE of AYODHAYA cried when RAMA was given VANVAAS
the wanted RAM to be their KING and no one else and even BHARATA and LAKSHAMANA they would have never agreed to be a king when their ... elder brother was alive
AYODHAYA, LAKSHAMANA, BHARATHA everybody wanted Ram to be their king because they knew that he would be DUTIFUL to them but PEOPLE OF AYODHAYA they were not dutiful towards their KING and QUEEN

even earlier Bharat who was crowned the King of AYODHAYA accepeted it because he didnt wanted RAM to break the promise given by him to his father, he didnt wanted to be a hindrance in his elder brother's duty
and even he actuallynever ever accepted to be called a King he called himself a mere caretaker of the kingdom which according to him belonged to his elder brother RAM only
If Ram had given the rule, neither Bharat nor Laxman would have accepted it!!

He could have renounced the throne and given it to his brothers but people and all the sages and gurus wanted Ram Rajya which could be possible only with Ram as the King... He abolished Sita so that his subjects are convinced that their King is not keeping a Queen who has been with another man for so many months... Ram's Rajyadharma was above his Patidharma and all his personl dharmas so he had to banish sita to forest...



SITUATIONS OF LIFE
life is full of situations where our roles may become contradictory to each other !!!
the same action that makes you an ideal husband can be seen as a Non-ideal son

Because its NOT POSSIBLE to keep every one happy in this world at the same time!!!
and this something that we all must have realised in our lives because its a truth and it cant be explained with logics
this is a very fact about life that you cant keep everyone happy at the same time
we have to choose our priorities that is what RAM did!!
he chose priority!! which was in favour of AYODHAYA but total anti against SITA
RAJADHARMA prevails because peace and welfare of a whole kingdom was more important than welfare of a lady
but that doesnt makes him a non-ideal husband for his personal intentions were never to hurt her

SITA did suffer but RAM also did
because both loved each other PAIN OF SEPARATION was equal to both of them
what happened with SITA is unjust but its AYODHAYA not RAM who are the cause of this UNJUST
this is the point I wanted to put forward

They set right many of the wrong beliefs & traditions of their times by opting the route of "Personal Sacrifices".Many people don't know that Rama also rescued Ahilya, who was a victim of wrong belief & traditions. Ram was fully aware of the character as well as the caliber of her wife, when he decided to banish her. It was meant to teach proper lessons to their Praja & the nobles. Sita fulfilled all the duties & responsibilties of queen mother by raising the future kings of Ayodhya without getting any support from Ayodhya in the most exemplary manner. Finally the Ayodhya realised their mistake, and pleaded Sita to become their queen without any Agni Pariksha. But Ram was Ram & Sita was Sita. They were only creating examples for all the humanity/future generations thru all kinds of sacrifices.

Jai Siya Ram


Jai sita maiya !!
jai jai shri ram !!