do u forgive/forget easily? - Page 3

well yes, they are the same thing:

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

yup.........sometimes the spat is too nasty to be forgotten......like the Tiger woods one u just posted .....😉

True that. Applies to all, I guess. Like I said before, I do NOT forgive and forget BUT I do lose the experience to avoid any negativity from creeping in.

At the end of the day, one should do whatever floats their boat.😊

Originally posted by: rongna

even though many people said that we have to forgive and forget other people's bad attitude towards us there are some things that can be forgiven but not forgotten. there are also some things that cannot be forgiven and forgoten especially it is in human nature itself to be angry and to hate someone when other people hurt us and do bad things on us.

thats also a kind of forgetting only😉

Originally posted by: krystal_watz

well yes, they are the same thing:

when u apologize for the wrongs uve committed in the past, ur trying to mend bridges...........so they ARE, in fact, the same.

they r the same thing- so no confusion between the two terms here.

hmmm....nicely explained. I distinguish between the two though.

For me, mending bridges is like extending an olive branch --- making peace and moving on. Of course, one can accept it or reject it. Usually happens between acquaintances.

Seeking forgiveness is way too personal and other person better mean something for one to seek forgiveness.

Regret is something many of us don't like to live with. Better to try fixing the regrets and learn/observe new things in the process than keep wondering whether they should or should not have done this or that.

This brings us to the next turn in this debate --- Are regrets same as being sorry?

Enough food for thought.

G'night.

thats a good point, though the dictionary meanings of "regret" and "sorry" would be found to be synonymous....

Originally posted by: souro

People say learn from your mistakes and that experience should make you wise. Now if I forgive and then totally forget about it, where is the learning, I've simply forgot about it and will get into such a situation again.

here "forgetting" imples forgetting about a bad expierience or bad blood u had with someone.😃

Originally posted by: Summer3

At leat you are very fair about it. Give and take.😆

Summer, I may have numerous faults but being unfair is definitely not amongst them😆

I dish out real good and I know how to take it back too. No hypocrisy with me at all. This is why it amuses me when pot starts calling the kettle black😆

Originally posted by: souro

People say learn from your mistakes and that experience should make you wise. Now if I forgive and then totally forget about it, where is the learning, I've simply forgot about it and will get into such a situation again.

Bang on target. This is why I say keep the lesson but lose the experience.