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hydrogensulphid

@hydrogensulphid

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Posted: 9 years ago

#31

Originally posted by: yawfeh

yeah right they don't have it all the time, they apply but it vanishes after sometime or they clean it while going outside..😊

Natural. where is the need to show all the religious marks on the face while going to work? they wear coat suit to work why have all the kumkum vibhooti marks on the forehead? One's prayers should be perfect I mean private. Sorry I used the word perfect. .

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hydrogensulphid

@hydrogensulphid

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Posted: 9 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: yawfeh

you know something ... when they released lungi dance in chennai express.. my mum was literally laughing , and she told barbaad kar diya tamilians ko 😆

The person who sang Lungi dance could not dance properly because of the "lungi" That was the funny part.

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hydrogensulphid

@hydrogensulphid

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Posted: 9 years ago

#33

Originally posted by: VIMAL.M

May be I missed to notice it.In which epi they said Swa is a Tamil Brahmin girl.So if she is Tamil Brahmin the vegetarian is fine. I remember in one epi when Azad was eating kabab .He asked Swa will U eat.Swa did not react much.So I felt may be she can occasionally eat non veg.Some of my Brahmin friends eat non veg.

Still Swa's parents are really fine with Swa staying in a house where they cook non veg from morning onwards. I mean for Hindus there are fasting days and normal non veg days. but in a Muslim house it starts from the morning. Still they are fine with it. She gets treated like the beti of the house. that is really touching.

But how do even Swa's parents stay in the same house where non veg is cooked and eaten for every meal?

Tamilians do eat non veg. And one says even Brahmins eat non veg. I have seen many brahmins who do not even eat egg. or cakes. even in this generation.

And then even those who eat non veg those brahmin kids they do not have it on a every day basis. they may have it occasionally . They are not meat eaters that much. I have seen on occasions. these kids pick and choose the non veg items they eat in parties and stufff.

But since house is vegetarian they do not eat every day every meal. they still have that vegetarian feeling inside them that makes them feel when meat and other stuff are served somewhere.

Occastional eating chicken/egg etc. they may do . but not hard core meat for every meal.

How swa is staying there seeing all meat prep every day?

And swa's father being what he is would he put up with her eating kabab ? he may become kabab main haddi LOL.

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Sadie

@--starstruck--

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Posted: 9 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
Not just dhoti. That dhoti which Brahmins wear for marriage. Panchagajja right. That's what Tamil Brahmins wear right. Correct me if I am wrong and he has to tell Adarsh should not wear shirt 😆😆

And yes I would love Adarsh taking Kaashi yatra. where his eyes will be lined with kajal, he will be given a long umbrella, a stick and asked to take a walk 😆😆

OMG why can I imagine this happening? 🤣

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Srividya

@moonwearer

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Posted: 9 years ago

#35

hydrogensulphid I am a Tambrahm and i am a strict vegetarian i am ok eating at the same table with nonveg eaters, I do not share the cutlery but My other half and son can eat it outside can't bring it home.

My Uncle was married to an Angol Indian...my grandmom would go stay there she would get fresh vessels and during the months she was there they would not cook non veg at home. My Uncle remained a vegetarian despite nonveg being available at home. My husband is a hard core non veg eater though even egg is not cooked at home. I guess it is a matter of choice and acquired taste.

I guess with more and more cross cultural marriages rituals are getting melded and fusion food fusion music fusion weddings fusion life style is the norm.

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hydrogensulphid

@hydrogensulphid

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Posted: 9 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: moonwearer
hydrogensulphid I am a Tambrahm and i am a strict vegetarian i am ok eating at the same table with nonveg eaters, I do not share the cutlery but My other half and son can eat it outside can't bring it home.
My Uncle was married to an Angol Indian...my grandmom would go stay there she would get fresh vessels and during the months she was there they would not cook non veg at home. My Uncle remained a vegetarian despite nonveg being available at home. My husband is a hard core non veg eater though even egg is not cooked at home. I guess it is a matter of choice and acquired taste.
I guess with more and more cross cultural marriages rituals are getting melded and fusion food fusion music fusion weddings fusion life style is the norm.

I understand eating in the same table with non vegetarians. and still remaining a vegtarian.

As for your grandmom's Anglo Indian bahu hats off to her for getting fresh vessels in the house when sasu maa comes to stay. and for being OK with not cooking non veg at home. It is a big thing given the circumstances.

It is because of women like these our country is what it is. a potpourri of cultures. I am touched.

As for husband and off springs being hard core non veg eaters outside. that too I have seen it happening. it other places too. If you don't want to hold on to one's brahmin hood it is their choice.

As for those who want to hold on to their traditions one should not bother them with showing these hard core non veg eating brahmins. because to each their own. their diet and their choice.

I know a friend who was hard core non veg a great fan of chicken as a kid . She married a brahmin tamil brahmin and voila she is strict vegetarian now. her hubby's household accepted her totally. including orthodox sasu maa and she is total vegetarian because hubby does not eat even egg. and it takes will power to turn into a vegetarian to leave foods you love. so much and grew up eating .

Her kids are typical brahmin kids brought up in a brahmin household. vegetarians strictly so and every single thing she did was out of her own choice.

Now that is what i would call real intermingling of cultures.

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shruthiravi

@shruthiravi

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Posted: 9 years ago

#37

@hydrogen for some people language comes fast. Konkani is my mother tongue. But since in Kerala I use Malayalam more frequently. People who don't me are always surprised when they hear me speaking to mom or my hus. My hus has heavy accent when speaking Malayalam. When I speak Hindi to north indian colleagues they ask whether I have been in north India. I say no.But have watched movies and shows. Swa being a lawyer command on language is something that should be her strength. Coming to jeans.my mom wears saree only and even my bua was not allowed to wear salwars.But I have worn jeans and tops and even now I use kurti pyjamas. Saree only occasional. And my parents deeply religious. Me spiritual but rarely visit temples.I am a complete contrast so u can't tell because parents are like this daughter has to be like that. And I had enough Muslim friends who wore jeans tops and didn't cover the head.

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spdp

@spdp

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Posted: 9 years ago

#38

I honestly like how they show a very common cultural scenario of all big cities of India (not just metros, even 'smaller' big cities as well)

Appa is strict in his rituals & beliefs, but he is not sticker to not allow Swadheenta to live & study with Mamu. Nor he stopped his wife from having sisterly connect with Mamu-Mami when they were in Chennai.
Mamu-Mami equally respects his beliefs & adujsts their daily routines- including food habits accordingly while he is with them.

Appa is open minded enough to not create an issue about his daughter marrying Bihari. He doesnot restrict her in clothing or any such thing. Well perceived.

In any cross state/ cross cultural weddings- adjusting & respecting each other's little things are very important. And this is becoming so very common these days. Food habits- cultural celebrations - how you address your parents, siblings (amma/ mom/ mamma/ ammi) .. many things. And it gets interesting when they have kids & this issues still come up.
I have many cross state couples in family & friends. My cousin -gujarati married to Marathi : His kids call him baba & call their grandma Ba- a complete cross over & everyone is ok with it.
My Bua is married to Tamilian- and wedding happened in both Gujarati & TamBrahm way.

I personally love this.

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hydrogensulphid

@hydrogensulphid

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Posted: 9 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: shruthiravi
@hydrogen for some people language comes fast. Konkani is my mother tongue. But since in Kerala I use Malayalam more frequently. People who don't me are always surprised when they hear me speaking to mom or my hus. My hus has heavy accent when speaking Malayalam. When I speak Hindi to north indian colleagues they ask whether I have been in north India. I say no.But have watched movies and shows. Swa being a lawyer command on language is something that should be her strength. Coming to jeans.my mom wears saree only and even my bua was not allowed to wear salwars.But I have worn jeans and tops and even now I use kurti pyjamas. Saree only occasional. And my parents deeply religious. Me spiritual but rarely visit temples.I am a complete contrast so u can't tell because parents are like this daughter has to be like that. And I had enough Muslim friends who wore jeans tops and didn't cover the head.

Jeans tops are not what I am talking about. Jeans and tops kind of cover your body.

Swa wears sleeveless and short dresses. That is what I am talking about.

Nobody's mom or bua were allowed to wear jeans and pants. But their daughters wear what they feel like providing they are modest clothing.

In fact there is no difference between pants and shirt and salwaar kameez. salwaar kameez is more comfortable than even pants.

As for skirts short skirts are less modest than pants. and jeans.

And sleeveless that too spaghetti straps are not very modest in a country like India. That is IMHO.

And Swa's god parents look orthodox.

P,S religion has nothing to do with dress. unless the dress is revealing your body. which many religions object.