The curse of insecurity ...
Wondering why this heading? Well somehow to me it represents all three boys belonging to the Purohit family...
Virath- Who throws a tantrum at the earliest opportunity as a means to attract attention. Probably having a self-absorbed mother like Maheshwaryi and a very weak father, he learnt very early in life that if he does not shout and scream then he will not get anthing in this family. Also has a short fuse and gets offended very easily because thinks that people are not respecting him. His mother has taught him that respect is his birthright and not something that has to be earned. His mother has built his life on a dream, the foundations of which does not exist...the dream of becoming an RP. Today his dreams came crashing down and he lashed out threatening to kill anyone who stands in his way...Maheshwari was shocked (because she will also be in his hitlist) but if one plays with fire then chances are that one will be singed. She has built and fanned this fire in him and once that breaks out, all hell will break loose.
Rohan-Also throws a hissy fit to gain importance. Is very insecure and also manipulative...he knows that people do what he wants them to do. Is emotionally immature and that's why is ready to do drama to get his way...Is very possessive and thinks possessing something is equal to being in love. He will make his wife's life a living hell, because possessiveness combined with insecurity will give birth to irrational jealousy. His insecurity is coming from having an insecure and weak mother and no other strong positive influence in his life. The grandfather did his best when both Virath and Rohan used to throw tantrums but he was not always around. Nobody was there to teach him that one does not give ones responsibility to others...in fact when he used to do that as a kid people used to brush his behaviour aside and no one corrected him. He knows what his mother's position is in the house and probably plays with people to get what he wants becuase he knows that his mother is not that strong to get them for him. His mother is not blind to his faults and she has herself said that he is immature but she is scared of losing him and so lets him get his way...maybe she thinks that she will lose him to Maheshwari. Today she is saying yes to the marriage even after believing in all those signs and upshaguns just because her son wants to get married knowing how unstable he is...I am leaving aside Radhika here but did she once think whether marriage and its responsibility will push all her sons buttons. I am also leaving aside the lies that Dev said because that is separate from her beliefs. If tomorrow something happens...whom will she blame? Dev, again? Maheshwari for saying yes to the marriage or herself that she did not stand up for her beliefs...Rohan is only happy with letting Dev do his stuff so long it does not clash with his wants(Angie borrowing your sentence here)...although he did say how can this marriage happen if Radhika loves Dev but he did create a scene to make everyone do as he wants...but he does have it in him to swing the other way and become complex character.
Dev-What do I say regarding him...his insecurity and misplaced sense of duty is making him blind and he is committing one mistake after another. He knows how insecure Rohan is...knows how emotionaly unstable and possessive he his and thinks that Rohan understands love? He is ready to do anything for his duty towards the grandfather even forget his own judgement...but can we really expect him to be a strong and secure person?...he never had unconditional love while growing up...he has been fed on sacrificing for Rohan and looking after Rohan since he was a child...he is so insecure that sometimes I feel whether he thinks that he as a person exists independent of the family ...I don't think he has any sense of individual identity...his identity is linked in a very convoluted and destructive way with this family who will suck everything out of him. Whenever he has tried to indirectly ask permission to stake his own claim his head has been patted that he should sacrifice...and today he also lost his self respect...In the beginning he was resisting saying anything but the go manipulated by Maheshwari and her drama regarding dadaji way (her way of pushing his buttons and reminding him of the promise) ...then got manipulated by Rohans suicide drama and Rohan also told him indirectly that he is weak while Dev is strong...so again he was reminded of his duty that has now become a part of him. To me the tears in his eyes and the unspoken grief in them are my saving graces regarding Dev...his guilt is alive and he is sorry.
Now coming to Radhika...She listened to everything but did not promise Dev anything...infact said that fine if that's what you want...I will fight for my dharma and you fight for your duty...(both doing for family, both want to protect their family)...and she left...Thanks creative for giving this dialogue toi her...wanted to hear it from her. Radhika is a person who will bend but will not break...her self belief and faith are so strong that she will pull through times of need. But does Dev have that?
Today the episode was good but the most poignant scene for me was when Radhika comes running and very happily rushes telling him that she knew he will come and the everything will be ok...she is pretty good at reading people but this time in her relief she did not realise the utter silence and the stone like appearance of Dev's...but she was brought down to earth...the drama build up is good hopefully the audience will also be treated to a good emotional closure...
So no commentary from me today...I have been thinking of doing a character analysis of the three brothers for a long time and today when saw that all three were there, thought about doing it.
Today Dev reminded me of a poem by Emily Bronte
The wild winds coldly blow ;
But a tyrant spell has bound me,
And I cannot, cannot go.
The giant trees are bending
Their bare boughs weighed with snow ;
The storm is fast descending,
And yet I cannot go.
Clouds beyond clouds above me,
Wastes beyond wastes below ;
But nothing drear can move me :
I will not, cannot go.
Arjun
