Originally posted by: gayatherry88
Sharadaji got your point ☝️. They can't stand her because of her being mahan and placing d family about raghav Rao her husband.. they feel she is emotional fool to always trust and d family when they done so much wrong with her. They feel by marrying raghav she got new life, status, freedom, love but she don't to value to it because she didn't get over with her past. Even after knowing mandar also she didn't even asked heart felt apology to him. She is a hypocrite, she didn't asked sorry to Amma and keerthi for photo scandal. What kind of live she lived on d family, always stressed, working on home and shop but here Anna kept her as queen but She takes Amma and Raghav granted that's why she do everything as per own wish.. because of her raghav faced humility on his most important day of his life. How can she be a inspiration to him when he earned everything by his own sweat and blood. Who will give priority to d family than husband family. Raghav is idiot and fool to sacrifice for a woman who don't deserve him. It's their on many of their minds that's why when small line is crossed or went wrong she gets bashed by MF.
You know, I don't even think its bc of all that. Bc despite liking Pallavi a lot, I felt a lot of these things you mentioned above, during the initial stages of the Mandar track. I'll be 100% honest about it. In that beginning part of the Mandar track, it really felt like she was bulldozing over everyone to do what only she thought was right, and was taking advantage of RR + Rao family's patience and good will. please dont throw any chappals at me yet LOL......
HOWEVER, I think she unintentionally did everything she did and I think that's a huge difference between those who cut Pallavi slack and can move on vs those who are still stuck on what she did wrong. I don't feel what I felt about Pallavi earlier in this track. I've moved on and even understood how she got lost in all this.
I think a lot of audience members are like she knowingly made the decisions she did (which I do agree with) and therefore they equate that to intentional action = intentional disregard of her husband & in laws (the part I don't agree with). And I think that's why they can't let go & move on.
I also think they just want the FL to always be about the ML and nothing else. Like past FLs in ITV have been. They want her to be the doormat in the relationship, and not Raghav. And I don't mean doormat in a derogatory or mean way. But in a lot of relationships, it's seldom always an equal balance. And that's ok to show. I'm perfectly ok with Raghav being the more "willing to back off" partner. With the way their relationship started, and considering how new it still is, it makes total sense why he lets her take on the reigns of their relationship. But people who crib against Pallavi so much are the same people who can't stand to see a man be the one who backs down in a relationship. They can't handle the woman being the more dominant person in the relationship.
Edit: I will also add, a lot of fans consider Raghav an alpha male. Many of the people who are so harsh on Pallavi are the same people think Alpha male = dominating male, so when they see him backing down to her needs/requests/issues, they start freaking out and are like "he's losing his edge" ". And that's just a very.. surface/basic way of looking at "alpha male" / "alpha female" types. Both Raghav and Pallavi are alpha people but that doesn't mean giving your loved ones priority, importance or the "control" (can't think of a better word atm) makes them any less "alpha". If anything letting his wife be center stage is all about alpha male behavior. It takes a strong, competent, and secure man to be able to "bow" (as we've also physically seen Raghav do naturally) to the women in his life. If they don't have issues with him doing it to his mother, why the issue with him doing it with his wife?
Edited by fria319 - 4 years ago
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