Okay so I couldn't resist so I'm just going to drop my two cents on this subject (the Manik v/s Nandu sacrifice debate) just to get it out of my system.. also, this is entertaining😆
First of all, she has never said that this choice is 'for his own good' or that it won't hurt him very badly.. on the contrary, she is fully aware of just how badly walking away HURTS which is why she didn't want to do it at all.. she wanted to talk about it and discuss it all just to save him from experiencing the same pain she herself went through..
BUT then, he himself told her today (for the umpteenth time) that when it comes to Fab5, he would rather suffer anything himself than let them be affected. He very clearly explained how not being there for them whenever they need him, makes him feel miserable and guilt ridden.. Now when he only is telling her that my choice is always going to be Fab 5 over myself (every single time), then what should she do.. insist on him being selfish? Even if she did, that wouldn't work, because it would make him feel like a failure as a friend and he wouldn't be able to live with himself.. and she KNOWS this about him very well.. that's the whole point.. she is operating from a position of intimate understanding of his thought process (unlike him who was completely ignorant of her mindset when he tried to make an ASSUMED choice for her)
Secondly, this is not a 'trust' issue.. she is not hiding her decision from him because she thinks he won't understand her.. or that he will be 'impulsive' and make a stupid or rash decision.. why would she think that? She saw the way he so wisely handled Cabir today in such a serious situation.. and it's not even ki she is ignorant of just how much clout he has in the city and how he can always bend the rules in their favor if need be..
Nope, none of the above.. fact of the matter is, she doesn't want to put him in that position where it comes down to making a choice at all.. where he would need to do any of that..because regardless of what he chose in such a case he would still be losing something and would have to live with the guilt of hurting/letting down someone.. THAT is what she is trying to protect him from.. the 'crossroad' that he was talking about today, that is exactly the kind of scenario she was trying to avoid by making this decision (so obviously now there is no way she can 'communicate' all this with him otherwise what would be the point)..
But what she has no clue of(and what we the audience know, therefore it becomes difficult for us to relate to her POV) is that he is ALREADY at that point of conflict because he is now fully aware of Soha's evil plans and so is compelled to take some action against it..
Since she remains in the dark about his now altered frame of mind, her unfortunate choice remains the only one at hand for her from her limited perspective.. because if it comes down to it, she would rather that he stand by his friends guilt-free(albeit hurt) for the sake of his own peace of mind than continue to swing between divided loyalties out of obligation to her..
That being said, 'walking away' is not, of course the ideal solution at all.. but from where she stands she can't see a better option because all the facts aren't revealed to her..
Finally, the greatest difference between the two situations is that in the first case, it was about a woman's right to chose a partner for herself, which can always and only be an individual preference (no two ways about it) and where he superimposed his own will upon her personal freedom while in this case, the issue at hand is a conflict of personal priorities where she is not denying him the right the choose but preventing him from having to make an impossible one..
Whew! Okay I'm done now😳
Edited by 13thwish - 10 years ago
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