Posted:
Shailaja my dear,
I was touched by your comments, which say more about you than they do about me. Of course I will always be there for you, for whatever that is worth. I only hope your husband is not cheesed off by the part @bold!šš
Your detailed explanations about the motivations of your characters are decidedly interesting, and I do not think anyone would find them excessive. It is always intriguing to have an insider view, so to speak, of the thought processes of a writer.
I have only one comment to make here. Which is that if Nandini had simply followed Avantika's advice of passive acquiescence, things would have ended up as badly if not worse. For Chandragupt would have immediately sensed the difference between his expectations and what he got, and it would have put him off just as much as this pity-revulsion combo.
Shyamala Aunty
Originally posted by: shailusri1983
Dear Aunty,Thank you! Your words of appreciation mean a lot to me. I try to keep all my psychology and literary theorizing out of my story as my husband does advise me when I occasionally discuss my story with him. But they enter into it as unconsciously and superfluously. I really can't unlearn what I have learned all along even if I wanted to.So finally I have decided to write as I would and explain to my readers why I wrote so instead of writing something I didn't feel like or subscribe to for the sake of comprehensibility and simplicity. In effect, I am listening to your advice to me over my husband's.I immediately ran to the online dictionary as soon as I saw the phrase "squared the circle". I learned a new word in vocabulary thanks to you. Even I have read about real life case studies like this which is why I attempted it in the first case. Generally, girls in a traditional marriage are taught in advance about all this.But in the circumstances in which Chandra and Nandini got married and the innumerable twists and turns their relationship took, Nandini is clearly not physically and emotionally equipped to deal with this situation. Nobody would have thought about taking her aside, preparing her for it, or counseling her properly. Avantika does speak pretty strongly but her manner is hardly welcoming and encouraging to a girl of seventeen or eighteen. So, though Nandini physically and auditorily hears out her mother, she rarely listens to her.To top it all, Chandra is not the easiest of husbands to understand and deal with. There are many occasions when she lacks the sensitivity to deal or understand the situation or catch the right nerve in her conversation with Chandra. I know most of my readers absolutely love and adore Nandini with all her intrinsic and innate flaws and good qualities. For that matter, even Chandragupt has started loving her for these very reasons.But all the same, I have shown Chandragupt's side of the story as well and his justifications for why he is the way he is. I have tried my best to never whitewash either Chandra or Nandini anywhere in this FF. From Chandra's perspective, he is very right in completely ignoring and feeling hurt even after everything Nandini explains, philosophizes, or reassures because all of it has come a tad bit too late from Nandini.Nandini could have avoided all this if she had been able to do what Avantika had advised her to do. But she is utterly helpless and incapable of doing any of that. It is simply beyond her. Her pity and revulsion are two things which Chandragupt simply cannot ignore or overlook, and unwittingly Nandini committed both of these mistakes. The sheets, of course, belonged to the letter Chanakya had written. They just added one more layer to Chandragupt's anger for Nandini.Now regarding the promo, the very reason why this jealousy angle comes now is because Nandini is naive, gullible and sweet but not smart enough to deal with this situation. She has boxed herself into a Catch 22 situation.Damned if she does, damned if she does not. She needs a bit of external help and support at this point.That is where this jealousy angle comes in. In a sense, Chandra is a bit commitment phobic with regard to Nandini. The once bitten twice shy case! Since he has been unchallenged till now, he has never bothered about the fact that Nandini could have been anyone else's as well. The thought just does not enter his head at all. So he takes her for granted on many occasions. Whatever jealousy is happening, is happening just by the way, and is circumstantial. Nandini is and will not be doing anything purposefully.Both of them need a push at this point and jealousy is the name of that trick. The war track is again going to turn everything topsy-turvy, so at least some of the things have to get resolved before that if both of them have to remain strong and emerge intact out of this war which will take a heavy toll on both their inner resources leaving both of them completely drained out.Your reviews always bring the best out of me. On several occasions, they give me ideas about how I should proceed further when I happen to be confused. Thank you for being there for me.Shailaja.
Mannat Har Khushi Paane Ki
Hindi TV Shows
