Do you really think VD's decision is for Nivi??? - Page 2

I'll give my opinion after seeing the episode tomorrow :)

Originally posted by: anjubala

Minu, if you see Nivi has changed a lot and has definitely kept her boundaries since the day DD blamed her that why did she marry Viren. Today too, she did not want to go to her room to give salad, it was VD who sent her. You could see her hesitation. And she took her time to go and help DD when she was calling for servants. Tell me one thing, if you love your sister and if she needs help then will you not help her? How is that interfering in her life or invading the privacy? That day when everybody went for name ceremony, Nivi was the one who knocked on DD's door and asked her how she was instead of directly barging in her room.

I agree Nivi needs to hold off little more but come on yaar, it is family. If somebody is sick or is calling for help will you not go and help? Delivering salad to her room on the request or order of chachiji and still hearing all the bakwaas from DD - is that all reasonable?

Yes, you're absolutely right that Nivi hesitated each time, and has tried to stay away from DD earlier also. But I feel that Nivi does babysit her sister too much. At least that is what I feel is her instinct. Its fine to be protective of your sister and family, but she knows there is a misunderstanding in DD's mind at least in part because things are not fully open to her about Nivi and Sid's past. I feel there is a dilemma here both for Nivi and DD. But in her self-talk, Nivi doesn't seem to realize that part of DD's insecurity may come from the sense that she doesn't know everything. Even the other day Nivi stood there and told Sid to not talk to her and trust her...etc. She was cryptic, aadhi baat ki. I feel either things should be discussed fully and plainly or then stay away. This half spoken truth, even hiding things from Viren, is really a recipe for further problems, not a way to resolve them.

So maybe I'm missing something but I can't relate to Nivi when she responds like this (keeping things to herself and making a decision on her own what is best for someone else to know or not - e.g., Viren, and DD). i'm not saying she should tell DD that I sacrificed Sid for you. That is for Sid to tell, but she should have an inkling that being in the dark is part of what's making DD's behavior worse, and at least try to talk to Viren about her dilemma rather than think I'll handle everything myself. In my mind it would human and a sign of some humility if she could confide in Viren and talk to him about all this and maybe think through a way forward together... hope I haven't offened anyone -- sorry in advance if I have, but this is my own point of view...

Anju - I'm honestly not sure of VD's decision. If she is doing for Nivi or for DD. She was definitely shocked to hear DD talking to Nivi like that. I will reserve my opinion after tomorrow's episode

Minu, I am totally with you on the aspect that Nivi should confide in Viren and tell him everything. That is what I have been saying since the day 1. They are husband and wife and are life partners. They have to share everything - tan, man, dhan, problems, sorrows, happiness etc... Nivi cannot be selective and tell only what she wants to. That is not how a husband-wife relation works. Nivi gives away everything for DD but what about Viren. She has a responsibility towards her hubby too. Aadhi adhuri baatein batake aur misunderstandings hongi. When she told him yesterday she should have told that DD thinks Sid and I are close and also about the abortion... Minu, also how will Nivi know whether Sid has told DD about their past or not...Maybe Nivi is thinking that she knows that is why she is behaving this way with her and that is why Nivi has always said to DD that there is nothing between them and why is she saying that way. Nivi cannot assume that DD does not know about Sid-Nivi. Like Viren knows about her past so she can think that DD knows it too.

Originally posted by: savera2007

I'll give my opinion after seeing the episode tomorrow :)

Anju I agrree but dear COMMUNICATION ? n tht2 wid DD ? Do u thk it is possible ? tht woman hav no brain n She is foolish n utter DUMB . I don't thnk any1 cn knock any sene on her .

Originally posted by: anjubala

, also how will Nivi know whether Sid has told DD about their past or not...Maybe Nivi is thinking that she knows that is why she is behaving this way with her and that is why Nivi has always said to DD that there is nothing between them and why is she saying that way. Nivi cannot assume that DD does not know about Sid-Nivi. Like Viren knows about her past so she can think that DD knows it too.

Anju, you make a very good point here. I never thought of it that way. It is true that Nivi has no way of knowing whether Sid has told DD about their past or not. Thanks for pointing this out.:) And there are so many layers to that too ... that Sid and she have a past, and then the whole reason why she married Viren. Here even Sid does not know 100% because she kept saying that she did not love him till the end...quite a mess.

I do hope she begins to sincerely open up to Viren. After all before their marriage she was so open with him -- he is the only one who knows the truth about why she married him. I hope she can truly trust him and share everything -- like Abidah's Nivi does. I'm sure that that in itself will pull them closer together and take them to a new level of belongingness that will leave less room or inclination for too much babysitting of others...lets see what the CTs have in store for us.

definatelyy rachu Fully aggree wid u , n me2 want DD 2 know d truth becozz It's her right 2 know abt her husband's past . So tht She could live wid him wout havng any doubt in her heart . 2dy if she would hav been aware frm d truth , i don't thnk She would hav behaved like dis like she is behavngg .