I get you. I mean that's a description of Narcissism. That can be anyone to be honest. Parents, siblings, friends, a partner anyone. People who are always playing victim. First, they'd push your buttons & when you snap, they act like it's your who have hurt them. They are manipulative, great at mind games, makes you guilty when it's not your fault or even double take everything you say or do, to see if it was really your fault. Not sure if they themselves are aware or not but if they are, that's when we can then sadist. People who takes pleasure in others misery.Originally posted by: sharaban
I am not sure if I can call it a pattern.
It is more like the narcissist condition his/her victim in such a way that the victim reflects out those energies that can be sensed by other such toxic beings and narcs instantly, they convert your aura and being in such a way that your energies turns out to be the ripe fruit and staple diet for narcs as you reflect out those vibes after been contaminated by a narc, once.
Narcs are not normal people like us, they don't have an active conscice, they are although extremely manipulative but emotionally disabled so no matter how worst they do to others they never feel what a normal person can feel, infect most of them are sadists as well as they enjoy and get triggered by sadistic pleasure when they psychologically and emotionally abuse their victims.
Narcissist abuse can linger on for years or even for a lifetime if not been treated.
The trauma bond is way too severe even if the narc physically exits the reality of your physical world.
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I had the misfortune to know people like these but sadly, I had to learn it all by myself. To get back on my own feet. Understand what red flags are & why one should never ignore the 1st time they feel something is wrong about a situation a person. No matter how lovely or at a time broken they appear, such people are actually evil who'd hurt you the moment you show them mirror & don't reciprocate their feelings. They make you feel miserable & the trauma is just .. !
I am just not sure if this can be associated with the cult culture. Sure these traits are demonic but how the world actually perceive "cult" who bows down to Satan & requires to sacrifice in order to gain what they wants are very different, no?
ETA ,- Read the last line of yout post again & true! Even if those people no longer exists in your life, the trauma stays & it's so horrible that even after years you are left with the fear of what if they appear again & boom! It's like you never moved on.
It's sad that we learn with experience but some experience never leaves you no matter how much you try.
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