Marriage is about a guy being a mess and a women fixing him- Shahid - Page 10

Originally posted by: infinity101

I don’t know what to make of his statement or what kind of a relationship he shares with his wife but the family where I come from, my mother and father both equally make efforts to make it work, try to “fix” each other whenever they are a mess, bring a balance in each other’s lives. Human beings, irrespective of their gender, age etc etc aren’t perfect. Marriage is a life long commitment and it takes two people to make it work, both go through struggles of their own. It’s neither a man or a woman’s job to fix their partner, love and respect for each other is enough and it’s also true that a lot of carefree people change when responsibilities are brought upon them and they start a family of their own.

His comment was made in a jovial way ... 😃

He was actually holding her (Mira) his wife ... to a high esteem

Originally posted by: rckRadhe

His comment was made in a jovial way ... 😃

He was actually holding her (Mira) his wife ... to a high esteem

Originally posted by: atominis

Men do not even look at a woman who is a mess. Let alone marry her or fix her or stay married to her.

They want all coddling for self. Will never show so called nurturing or true love or sacrifice or care for a woman who is a mess. Even their families do not accept meased up woman as DIL.

It is all one sided scam as usual

They do sometimes marry such women such as divorcees or "widows" just to show to the world how great and mahaan they are, but they can't keep up the act for longer than a month.

We can see why he married such a young girl.🤔

He was, is and will remain a misogynist POS, today tomorrow and forever.

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

They even negate and rejects the law of nature and gender based characteristics and think that their twisted stupid unproven philosophies as some absolute facts which is sad and funny at the same time.

😥🤣

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Sounds like leeway

Originally posted by: Tanya1991

think that their twisted stupid unproven philosophies as some absolute facts which is sad and funny at the same time.

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The irony 🤪

I am amused at constant mention of biology and nature by illiterate trolls here.

In animal kingdom, females nurture only young ones, babies and even they are abandoned and left to fend for self once they are grown. No female birds or animals 'fix' or feed or nurture or clean mess of adult males.

No adult males in any other species expect coddling all life nor are they coddled the way MANY (not all) entitled human man babies do.

Read and study a bit of biology, zoology before blabbering.

A person who keeps making new fake IDs every other day despite being banned for obviously abusive or obnoxious posts and cheap personal attacks at other members, is not suited to call anyone else names or make presumptions about background of others.

Amused how nowadays basic logic is also called rebelliousness or bitterness blah blah.

Marriage is a partnership where both partners enrich, help, fix, enhance each other and take equal responsibilities. It is NOT about woman coming to fix a man and teach him how to be decent or make up for his poor upbringing, bad parenting or teach him what his parents never did or clean his mess. Shahid is wrong. And I am glad he has been criticised rightfully all over the internet for it. If you are a mess then seek therapy. Marriage is a responsibility and commitment, it is not a rehab. Messed up losers never deserve to be spouse or parent. Such a loser cannot be a good father and usually they are absent or negligent dads, not good role models for kids either and woman is left to handle responsibility of both kids and the overgrown manchild she married.

Same applies to reverse situations also. No man needs to marry a messed up woman or fix her or marry a child woman either.

Childish brats, messed up men and women are not suitable to handle responsibility of marriage and kids. They are especially a total disaster as parents and kids suffer due to messed up, immature parents.

High time Bollywood, TV shows, celebs and their fans stopped glorifying irresponsible behaviour or treating marriage as some substitute for bad upbringing or therapy. Marriage is NOT meant to heal or treat your issues or fix your mess. Get a therapist for that instead and marry only if you are healed yourself and able to take responsibility for yourself, others, future kids.

Originally posted by: piya2025

That's sadly a fact. He just said it out loud. That's how women are basically seen, demanded, crafted, brought up to be. To fix, to clean up after others, to endure, to heal, to sacrifice, to take care of the manchild. Very sadly, it's also romanticized by 70% of women intentionally or unintentionally.

However wrong it is that's how we are meant to be according to the whole universe. :/

This is not how we are meant to be. This is what patriarchal society compels women to be. Always asking even little girls to be more mature or quieter or patient or responsible and justifying even violent, reckless behaviour of even adult men in name of men will be men.

One can see lot of brainwashed women with low self esteem, self hate, internalised misogyny, or probably brainwashed by religion, serials, films, society, culture, defending Shahid.

It is there only among humans. Never seen any species where female has to coddle or fix adult male and serve him all life. Only humans seem to want woman to mother them all life.

This is not according to universe but manmade society.

Some women also seem to take pride in the fact that man depends on them or is too dependent on them and see that dependence as some form of love.

They raise their sons, nephews, grandsons same way. Too entitled, spoiled, coddled ROTTEN. No wonder same coddled boys grow up to be overgrown manchild with zero responsibility or accountability and assuming all women should fix them, serve them, be a punching bag, tolerate it all or be the 'bigger person' blah blah, while the man gets away with anything and still pretends to be superior or head of the family even if he cannot even clean his mess or take responsibility or accountability for own behaviour nor knows where his own clothes are kept or arrange his own wardrobe.

I wonder if men are 'a mess' and woman has to fix them then why are they labeled or think they are head of the family? Let woman be in charge then. Why should a mess of a man think he has to lead family?

Originally posted by: la_Reine

They do sometimes marry such women such as divorcees or "widows" just to show to the world how great and mahaan they are, but they can't keep up the act for longer than a month.

I have hardly seen a man marry a divorcee or a widow or even a woman with mental health issues or a woman who is older than 30 or a woman who had kids from previous marriage or even a woman with temper issues or a criminal record. Unlike how there are plenty of cases of women married off to even criminals, alcoholics, druggies, rapists, militants, oldies, divorcees, widowers, mentally unstable, physically challenged men.

Man gets a bride no matter what. And woman is supposed to tolerate it. Men even buy brides from poor areas and openly indulge in human trafficking if they cannot find bride in own area of own choice. Women have no such thing.

But men are very clear on what they want and always go for younger, prettier, easily pliable women. PC or Kat are exceptions though.

You are right about act not lasting more than a month. Shikhar Dhawan had married a divorcee but he left her ultimately. Saif married Amrita who was 10 years older than him but left her after 2 kids.

Rekha was labelled a vixen after Mukesh, her husband died by suicide. No man married her again. She was labelled a man eater, crazy and whatnot.

Zeenat Aman also never got remarried after death of Mazhar Khan. She raised her son alone. She has had a few live in flings here or there but lived alone.

I am amused why only women agree to marry any type of man while men never ever compromise or lower their standards or marry or fix a messed up woman. Guess it is all about money. But then, no man is willing to marry a messed up woman even for money, property or huge dowry.