Member Topic: Your opinions on cheating partners? - Page 2

My views on this have changed as I have grown chronologically and emotionally. I looked at things through a very black and white lens in my early-mid 20s. I don’t hold any rigid opinion on this or most things, anymore. I could be convinced any which way with a compelling argument. Personally though, it’s easy for me to walk away with a clean break, if I suspect infidelity. I have done it in the past. It’s probably easier for me because as I have grown, I have found that I am not a jealous person and I don’t hold grudges. Having said that, this change in belief systems did not happen over night. I went through a very taxing/toxic relationship with a narcissist in my mid to late 20s. But I am thankful for that experience. It definitely changed my life for the better, both personally and professionally. It’s more fulfilling now.

Let me have someone to cheat on/be cheated on first. Uske baad I’ll watch Kank and deep-aiyaan to understand complexities of cheating and then decide.

Get into an open relationship if you cannot handle monogamy. Simple.

Ek mile toh usko sambhalne mein hi dimaag kharaab ho jaayega, doosra kyun mol lena? 🤦‍♀️

But yeah, not a fan of people who cheat on their partners, it's like the shittiest thing you can do to someone as it breaks their trust and even their confidence. Extreme cases can cause major commitment phobia.

I think it depends if they own up or you or someone catches them. Like they should be dumped regardless but if they had the honestly to tell you and own up to it as a mistake I guess we could stay friends otherwise they are dead to me in every capacity

Originally posted by: bollyqueen0

It's just very complex! Extremely complex! Us simpletons do not understand and start judging but you cannot judge! It is just not simple and it is complex.

It all comes down to emotional and financial security.

Can this person be able to survive without their cheating partners help? If so, please dump them.

But if it's a matter of dependency, and especially kids, then its different.

It's hard to come out of such situation.

But even then I feel, they should try and leave the cheating partner because where there is no love or respect, that's not a good life to live, however hard that burden might be. There is always way to come out of it

So I have to share a story -

One of my closest friends (a girl) cheated on her husband. I tried very hard to be a supportive friend, but at some point, I just couldn’t. It really soured our friendship. A few years later, a guy friend in my group of friends was cheating on his girlfriend, I was livid, and so mad at him. I stopped talking to him, and other guys in my gang of friends were telling me not to be judgmental and that this was between him and the girl.

This is my take, for me,

1. cheating a big no no. For me. Even in case of unbalance financial situation or sharing children, the same children grow up to think cheating is ok. Because kids know.

2. I don’t find anything “complex” about it. Yeh koi carbohydrate nahi hai ki andar jaake alag pachti hai. It’s wrong, it hurts. You are always better off breaking up even if the thought of cheating occurs.

3. From a gender lens - women are generally more judge mental about it, “judgemental” is actually a convenient word, women just expect and want more from a relationship. When a guy cheats, rarely ever does he lose his guy friends, they are more than willing to look the other way. Women are not, when a girl cheats, she loses her girlfriends.

4. If it is circumstantial, drugged, intoxicated into cheating. Correct it ASAP!

This isn’t about bashing, it’s about having lines and standards in a relationship. If everything goes, then why bother at all? Kissi ko bhi Uthake Ghar leke jao na. Exclusive kapde, exclusive lifestyle, but relationships mei all inclusive. We are basically hypocrites!?

Cheaters are cheaters , invest in oneself than in others n move on .

I always thought cheating was the worst, but as you grow up you do realize that sometimes things are not black and white and in about 10% of cheating there are complications, rest 90% it is a choice.

If you are not made for monogamous relationship, don't get into one. expectations are very important in a relationship, some are okay some are not,

Problem is if you are in a commited relationship and your partner is not okay with it and you still cheat, then it is an issue, no it is not morality or religious it is just basic decency to not hurt