Jab We Met

The basis of the movie is wrong. Everything is not fair in love. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, its important to not forget your morals. Cheating which Aditya's mom did was not right no matter how much you love and I am going by the personal experience.

Yes, Geet’s whole “woh pyar main thi “ was ridiculous. When you are married and have a family, you have responsibilities towards your spouse and child and can’t just do what you want. Though, Aditya was right on forgiving her later on because he needed to let go.

This is an age-old question and there are no easy answers.

All I will say is, in love there are no wrongs and rights. And I don't mean that in an immoral way, but just that sometimes love transcends the narrow morality code.

Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose

Yes, Geet’s whole “woh pyar main thi “ was ridiculous. When you are married and have a family, you have responsibilities towards your spouse and child and can’t just do what you want. Though, Aditya was right on forgiving her later on because he needed to let go.

it’s not a good precedent if you let cheaters off the hook (regardless of he genders) and I know more about it because i have personal experience

Originally posted by: InspectorShirke

it’s not a good precedent if you let cheaters off the hook (regardless of he genders) and I know more about it because i have personal experience

Imagine if everyone started following their “heart” and acted selfishly. Consequences would be disastrous for the society.

I agree. That's absolute bullshit that you can do anything in the name of love. Cheating can be justified in the name of love. Robbing, hurting people can then be justified because someone was in love. That's a very dangerous concept.

Yes. I hate how BW romanticises married women running away with lover trope.

You talk about JWM, well JTHJ is even worse. Remember how Neetu's character just abandoned her daughter and eloped with her lover without giving her husband any explanation? And the movie glorifies this kind of irresponsible behaviour as some kind of other-worldly love?? 🤢And because of having such a bad mom, Kat's character grew up being so emotionally closed off. And the film had Kat forgive her useless mom because she finally understood the beauty of "true love"??? Like really? Just f off.. 🤢

I agree with MintyBlue. Somethings are complicated. They exist in a murky area beyond traditional norms of right and wrong.

Cheating on someone and betraying their trust will always be wrong. Breaking up a family and hurting innocent people will always be wrong. But falling in love is not wrong either. Life changes. People change. People fall out of love with their significant others and fall in love with other people. Living a lie is not healthy for relationships either. Forcing yourself to be with someone you no longer love will keep making it worse. Individual happiness is just as important as the happiness of spouse and children. The other person is also a human with feelings, emotions, and needs. When you fall in love outside of marriage - no matter what path you take - people will be hurt.

I don't think Geet tells Aditya to let his mom off the hook. In fact, he has already punished his mom for her transgressions. He has spent years letting her know he is angry and hurt by what she did. Geet makes him realize that his mother was only human. Forgiveness is not letting people off the hook, but giving yourself closure so you can move on.

Monica has Chandler do the same for their wedding. Chandler grew up in a toxic family where both parents cheated and sniped at each other. But Chandler's father was also living a lie leading to some of the toxicity. Chandler feels betrayed and hurt by his father and punishes him. Finally forgiving doesn't let his father off the hook, Chandler has punished him his entire youth and adult life. But forgiveness actually helps Chandler get closure and move on. He can now enjoy thanksgiving again with friends and loved ones. He's happy at his wedding to have his parents there just like Monica's. He overcomes his lifelong commitment issues and becomes ready to become a father himself.

Originally posted by: mintyblue

This is an age-old question and there are no easy answers.

All I will say is, in love there are no wrongs and rights. And I don't mean that in an immoral way, but just that sometimes love transcends the narrow morality code.

If you are not happy in a relationship break up and be honest.

How’s not cheating on your spouse, whom you have a child with a narrow morality code?

Originally posted by: FilmiDhun

Yes. I hate how BW romanticises married women running away with lover trope.

You talk about JWM, well JTHJ is even worse. Remember how Neetu's character just abandoned her daughter and eloped with her lover without giving her husband any explanation? And the movie glorifies this kind of irresponsible behaviour as some kind of other-worldly love?? 🤢And because of having such a bad mom, Kat's character grew up being so emotionally closed off. And the film had Kat forgive her useless mom because she finally understood the beauty of "true love"??? Like really? Just f off.. 🤢

The only place where it’s justified was in Akashvani. It wasn’t an affair though. She married because she wanted to save her parent’s izzat and the husband was toxic.