Jab We Met - Page 2

Originally posted by: desigal90

I agree. That's absolute bullshit that you can do anything in the name of love. Cheating can be justified in the name of love. Robbing, hurting people can then be justified because someone was in love. That's a very dangerous concept.

Sounds like a crime patrol episode 😆

Originally posted by: InspectorShirke

The basis of the movie is wrong. Everything is not fair in love. It doesn't matter how much you love someone, its important to not forget your morals. Cheating which Aditya's mom did was not right no matter how much you love and I am going by the personal experience.

The point in Aditya's mother's case was not about pyaar alone. It was about forgiveness which Aditya desperately needed to experience in order to let go and become happy.

If you go to any spiritual teacher, therapist or scriptures- all of them talk about the act of forgiveness and releasing judgement as something essential to freeing yourself. The morality of the person who wronged you is one thing, but if you choose to hold on to that anger and bitterness, you are corrupting your own true self and your own happiness.

I feel Geet's dialogue "woh pyaar mein thi" is stupid but Geet is supposed to be childlike and naive and she does suffer too because of this attitude. But Aditya did right by his mom- he learnt to be respectful and forgiving while not necessarily denying the pain his mother caused. And that allowed him to be truly happy- even with or without Geet at that point as shown in the song 'Naa Hai Yeh Paana

This complex idea was shown quite well for a change, by Imtiaz's standards.

exactly .. like cheating can never be right no matter what .. and Aaditya forgave her was healthy for his own sake , he was harbouring bitterness and not cos his mother was in the right

Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose

Sounds like a crime patrol episode 😆

Crime Patrol is based on true stories and where do you think people get this idea from? Exactly

Originally posted by: Sashay01

The point in Aditya's mother's case was not about pyaar alone. It was about forgiveness which Aditya desperately needed to experience in order to let go and become happy.

If you go to any spiritual teacher, therapist or scriptures- all of them talk about the act of forgiveness and releasing judgement as something essential to freeing yourself. The morality of the person's actions are one thing, but if you choose to hold on to that anger and bitterness, you are corrupting your own true self and your own happiness.

I feel Geet's dialogue "woh pyaar mein thi" is stupid but Geet is supposed to be childlike and naive and she does suffer too by the midpoint of the film. But Aditya did right by his mom- he was being respectful and forgiving while not necessarily undermining the pain his mother caused. And that allowed him to be truly happy- even with or without Geet at that point as shown in the song 'Naa Hai Yeh Paana

This complex idea was shown quite well for a change, by Imtiaz's standards.

now I’ll give you an example. It’s all hypothetical. Imagine your dad marries a woman other than your mother and then asks your mom for forgiveness and when you grow up and get married, your husband does the same thing thinking that you would not say anything since your dad did the same thing and the trend continues in future generations as well, how would you feel?

Cheating is wrong. No two ways about it.

Bollywood just want to be seen progressive by showing it done by woman and forgiven eventually since for long only man get away with it in movies.

But as usual Bollywood lost it since cheating is wrong no matter what circumstances or who does it.

Originally posted by: FilmiDhun

Yes. I hate how BW romanticises married women running away with lover trope.

You talk about JWM, well JTHJ is even worse. Remember how Neetu's character just abandoned her daughter and eloped with her lover without giving her husband any explanation? And the movie glorifies this kind of irresponsible behaviour as some kind of other-worldly love?? smiley11smiley29And because of having such a bad mom, Kat's character grew up being so emotionally closed off. And the film had Kat forgive her useless mom because she finally understood the beauty of "true love"??? Like really? Just f off.. smiley11

But then how long can you really pull a loveless marriage? Meera's mother didn't love her husband.. it's not like she didn't try.. they did wait for 8 years till Meera was a bit old and not dependent on her mom before leaving.. would Meera have been better off emotionally if she saw her mother sad and mopey in a loveless marriage where her heart wasn't there? Wouldn't she even then have become emotionally challenged?

And unless I am wrong, it's her father who decided that her mum can't meet her( can't say i blame him)

The movie had Meera forgive her mom because she realized that her mom faced the same battle years ago that she was facing now.. Her mom lost the battle to her heart but then can you really blame someone for choosing their happiness

And Aditya didn't fully forgive his mom.. he learned to move past it.. there is a difference

Aditya's mom was quite a loose character 😆

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

But then how long can you really pull a loveless marriage? Meera's mother didn't love her husband.. it's not like she didn't try.. they did wait for 8 years till Meera was a bit old and not dependent on her mom before leaving.. would Meera have been better off emotionally if she saw her mother sad and mopey in a loveless marriage where her heart wasn't there? Wouldn't she even then have become emotionally challenged?

And unless I am wrong, it's her father who decided that her mum can't meet her( can't say i blame him)

The movie had Meera forgive her mom because she realized that her mom faced the same battle years ago that she was facing now.. Her mom lost the battle to her heart but then can you really blame someone for choosing their happiness

And Aditya didn't fully forgive his mom.. he learned to move past it.. there is a difference

I never said Meera's mom should have continued suffering in a loveless marriage. My problem is she completely gave up her responsibilities towards her daughter after she eloped with her lover. This is not acceptable. The film doesn't explain well whether she was barred from seeing her daughter by her ex husband, but I got the impression that she basically ran away without giving her husband or her daughter a proper explanation- that's not done.

You have fallen in love with someone outside marriage?? Okay, that's fine, it can happen. Hand your spouse a divorce, explain to them that you are in love with someone else, and for god's sake tell your child that they will always be a priority to you, and continue to spend time with them after the separation. What's up with suddenly abandoning your child one day so that they grow up thinking their mom/dad doesn't love them? 🤓 That is a TERRIBLE feeling for any kid to go through.

I simply cannot warm up to the trope of married people running away with their lovers without any explanation like a coward- and in the process , doing away with any responsibilities that come with having a child. How hard is it to tell your spouse and kids upfront that you are in love with someone else???

Originally posted by: FilmiDhun

I never said Meera's mom should have continued suffering in a loveless marriage. My problem is she completely gave up her responsibilities towards her daughter after she eloped with her lover. This is not acceptable. The film doesn't explain well whether she was barred from seeing her daughter by her ex husband, but I got the impression that she basically ran away without giving her husband or her daughter a proper explanation- that's not done.

You have fallen in love with someone outside marriage?? Okay, that's fine, it can happen. Hand your spouse a divorce, explain to them that you are in love with someone else, and for god's sake tell your child that they will always be a priority to you, and continue to spend time with them after the separation. What's up with suddenly abandoning your child one day so that they grow up thinking their mom/dad doesn't love them? 🤓 That is a TERRIBLE feeling for any kid to go through.

I simply cannot warm up to the trope of married people running away with their lovers without any explanation like a coward- and in the process , doing away with any responsibilities that come with having a child. How hard is it to tell your spouse and kids upfront that you are in love with someone else???

No.. unless my memory defies me,, it was her husband who told her she can't see her daughter... And she didn't tell her daughter but her husband did know why she left