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Originally posted by: GERUA

5 promises I made to my daughter after watching Dear Zindagi

December 11, 2016, 11:53 AM By Aastha B. Khandpur 759 views

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Alia Bhatt Shah Rukh Khan Dear Zindagi

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Movies are meant to entertain us, to make us relax, enjoy, laugh and take some weight off the hectic and strenuous life. But, then there are some films which touch our lives in ways we never could have imagined; for me, one such film was Dear Zindagi.

No. I am not a confused teenager who had a Eureka moment about dating after watching a film, nor am I reeling under the after effects of a break up; I am a mother who realized how I was destroying my relationship with my daughter, one step at a time.

When I sat down to watch the film, I was expecting to watch a film about a young girl and how she will learn to deal with life from her counsellor, but the moment those flashes of childhood appeared, indicating that it was Kaira's childhood which was the root cause, I inexplicably started shifting in my seat, dreading what was going to come next.

What followed was a much needed insight for me, a reality check into how I was blaming my daughter for my failures, and how I was burdening her childhood with my seemingly harmless words and actions'. For a long time I mulled over writing this, but then decided against out of fear of being judged, scared that I would be labelled as a terrible parent. But, then another thing that the film taught me is to be free, to let go of the baggage and burdens.

So here are my 5 promises to my little one, and this letter is a constant reminder for me to follow up on them.

1.Childhood is all about fond memories, let's create some for you!

Bringing you into this world was not easy, those treatments and surgeries just to conceive you made me treat pregnancy as a challenge; and soon enough, my focus was only on how to make you perfect and safe. I started obsessing about your health, your wellbeing; and soon enough you became my project instead of being my child. My duties were all important and I completely neglected the need to bond with you emotionally.

So let's have some fun, play some kabaddi, and yes, let's do more of those karaoke sessions on Love you Zindagi".

2.Never will I blame you for my inadequacies

When you came, my life changed completely, and in ways there were things which I didn't comprehend. There was no me time', I was away from work for years, and while I stayed at home, my peers, progresses, travelled, partied and had a whole lot of fun.

But, I forgot the precious little gift that I had in you; and most importantly, having you was a choice I made, so there was no way the blame can be on you. I should have managed and planned things better, I should have pushed the envelope and juggled career and parenting; you my love, just brought happiness.

Also read: Here's why Dear Zindagi is a slice of everyone's life

3. Never ever will I shun your small gestures

I remember that one day that I was particularly upset, with work, with husband, and in general with life. And then you came with a little paper flower in hand, telling me mommy, I have a gift for you'. And I just yelled, is that supposed to make me happy?

I'm sorry baby, you were just doing what you could. I, on the other hand, hurt your feelings.

4. Never will I compare you with other children

Even though we were brought up with the understanding that all kids are different, and even though I was very clear that you weren't going to be pushed to do anything; things changed soon. From comparing how soon you took your first step, to when you spoke the first word; life became a race!

But, from now on, we will just revel in the beauty of how things are. The usual societal expectations aren't always right, and we will not be afraid to break free of those.

5. Never will I force you to get married

I had those rare set of parents who weren't anxious about me getting married at a certain age, I on the other hand, was worried about turning into an old maid and missed out on experiences you can only have when you are single.

So my baby, make a career in something you truly love, travel, pursue your interests and get married only when you want to; not because everyone else is.

And in the meantime, lets listen to the Love you Zindagi' umpteenth time together.

Originally posted by: GERUA

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