Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly
I respectfully disagree with everything that you said. But the two bold parts are very shocking to me.
A marriage is NOT about how beautiful your wife looks, or how well she maintains herself. To say that a wife's lack of so called "maintaining herself" opens the door for the husband to cheat is extremely sexist. Marriage is about partnership, love, compatibility. If you cannot love and respect your own life partner because she has gained weight, or she no longer wears make up everyday, then you never loved her as the person that she is. You never considered her your partner but rather your property, and therein lies the problem with that marriage to begin with.
Plus, what happens when the husband gains weight or is not longer the dashing young man that he was during his early years of marriage?
The third woman or so called mistress is definitely accountable to her own morals or conscience. But she is not accountable to the wife at all. That is all and a 100% on the husband. He is the one that stood in front of God, family and friends to took a vow of loyalty and fidelity to her. This is why I also hate the phrase "home wrecker." It's another misogynistic way of absolving the husband of his cheating ways.
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