I allowed someone to have sex with me at the age of 9: Kalki K - Page 9

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

Only some most pathetic parents wud not notice if a 9 years daughter is been rapped. Or even school teacher, or even a 9 years old frnd.[/DIV]

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

[/DIV]Given, it all gone unnoticed, What r Kalki's parents' reactions now? Isnt she old enough now to talk to them and then to media?[/DIV]

Originally posted by: atominis

Parents can talk indirectly. Atleast some basic talk about touch.

If not sex education per se.

Also, parents have to build enough trust so that child can share anything with them without any fear. If the child is having to hide things then it means trust is lacking.

They have to be aware of their child too and a good parent easily observes change in child's behaviour and addresses what might be bothering the child.

A parent being this disconnected and unaware, is appalling and disappointing to say the least.

You can't hide things from parents or tell lies and they won't know. It's nearly impossible because often one himself ends up blurting things in exasperation. Lying or hiding things from parents and them not knowing it is very difficult. A parent would have to be really uninvolved and disconnected for this to happen.

Originally posted by: Nova19

I know for a fact this isn't true. There are many kids from "good" families who have been molested and no one knew while it was happening.



What makes you think she hasn't talked to her parents about this. Are they public people that you expect them to give a public comment?

Originally posted by: atominis

Parents can talk indirectly. Atleast some basic talk about touch.

If not sex education per se.

Also, parents have to build enough trust so that child can share anything with them without any fear. If the child is having to hide things then it means trust is lacking.

They have to be aware of their child too and a good parent easily observes change in child's behaviour and addresses what might be bothering the child.

A parent being this disconnected and unaware, is appalling and disappointing to say the least.

You can't hide things from parents or tell lies and they won't know. It's nearly impossible because often one himself ends up blurting things in exasperation. Lying or hiding things from parents and them not knowing it is very difficult. A parent would have to be really uninvolved and disconnected for this to happen.

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

Molested and sex is different.

I wanna know.. coz shez putting her parents to shame. One party is talking casually.. other party has no say.

Originally posted by: dazzelll

first of all, sex is not always penetration. I am sure you know there are many other sexual things adult can make child do without leaving any visible scars. So you cant always blame parents for not noticing it. And childhood molestation is one of the worse thing if not the worse thing a child can experience. It leaves them scars which dont just heal once they become adults. It leaves them feeling ashamed and/or inferior for lifetime, and it's not something everyone feel comfortable talking about especially to the close ones. It's a long road to recovery, and you cant judge her for taking her time.

Originally posted by: Nova19

You are saying everyone who has been molested and admits it is putting their parents to shame?

Originally posted by: Star_girl

Lol at the parent blaming thing going on. Every one in four Indian women have been molested by their relatives. I have known countless friends who have been uncomfortable by the behaviour of their relatives. Should parents lock up their daughters and trust no one because of these monsters? In ninety percent of these cases, the molester never doesn't sexually penetrate the child. How stupid are people here?

My parents never talked me about "good touch" when I was a nine year old kid either. That doesn't mean they were "disconnected" or whatever. BW forum remains as obtuse as ever lol. Parents do not generally inject the "trust no one" notion into a kid from childhood. They should given the condition of our society but they don't. It's hardly a sign of a "lack of connection". -_- I have talked to so many of my friends who have talked about this but could never share with their parents because it's hard to understand what even is happening. It's hard to believe that the same people you're supposed to trust are the ones hurting you. Kids don't even understand molestation when it happens to them.

Anyway, on topic, the choice of the wording is unfortunate and the forum remains as annoying as ever but I love how Kalki has been talking about this. So many women need to talk about their molestation as kids. So many.